You’ve been waiting days, weeks, months, maybe even years to hear those magical words. You’ve hinted at it, obsessed over it and all but screamed it to him, your friends, your mother and pretty much anyone who will listen. Why hasn’t he proposed yet? You ponder to yourself over a tub of Baskin Robbins in hopes that the answer is lying somewhere in the bottom of the thirty one flavors. You don’t understand why everyone around you seems to be engaged, married and having babies, while your relationship seems to be at a standstill. If you’ve been wondering why on earth he hasn’t yet popped the question, this list should give you a little bit of clarification.

He’s Not Mentally Ready
Just because you are ready does not mean he is. He may still have things he wants to accomplish. Maybe he wants to travel before he gets married, maybe he still has some maturing and growing to do. If you notice that your man shies away from the marriage conversation, even though you know he absolutely adores you and wants to marry you, it could be because he simply isn’t ready for the responsibility of having a wife and a family. Talk to him and see if this is the case. Don’t go to pieces if he agrees, and don’t start an argument. Simply ask him whether he feels like he is not yet ready for marriage and go from there.

He’s Addicted To Partying
If weekends at the Playboy Mansion, nights out with the boys and clubbing is on his agenda more than spending time with you, he’s probably not ready for commitment. Usually when men are ready to settle down they are also ready to leave behind their wild and crazy drunken party nights as well. Sure, he might still hit up a club or two when his buddies are in town, but he shouldn’t be scrolling through his phone trying to find the best party every night. If your guy is constantly looking to party and can’t seem to find the time of day to spend with you, he certainly is not ready for marriage.

He’s Not Financially Stable
Most men want to be able to provide and to live comfortably. Sure he knows you are willing to roll up your sleeves and contribute just as much as he is, but he may already have an idea of how much money he wants to be making, how much he wants to spend on the ring and how he would like to propose. If you know your man is struggling to pay rent and to take you out to on occasion, that probably also has a lot to do with why he has yet to propose to you as well. Cut him a little slack. Unless you are willing to settle for a ring out of a Cracker Jack box, allow him to save up his money and become more financially stable before you bring up the marriage talk. If you are willing to settle for a less expensive ring or no ring at all, let him know that as well. That may be the only thing that is holding him back in his decision.

Tension In The Family
Do you and his mom not see eye to eye? Do you and his sister have beef that stems back to high school math class? Does his family simply not approve of your relationship? Families can hold significant sway over relationships. After all, once you marry, your families will become one. He might be having to deal with the stress of his relationship with you, and his relationship with his family, not being in harmony. Some men will put their relationship before their family and some will choose their family over their relationship. Hopefully he won’t have to choose either and you all can find a way to make amends. If you and his family aren’t getting along, this could have a lot to do with the hold up of you not getting your ring.

He’s Climbing The Corporate Ladder
Has he been looking to make partner, or is he hoping his boss finally gives him that big raise or corner office he’s been dangling in his face for months? Maybe he has been working long hours in hopes of his boss seeing just how much of an asset he is to the company. He probably wants to not only be financially stable, but also be settled into his career before he pops the question. Allow him to pursue his dreams while you are pursuing yours. If you already have your dream job, then help him grow by being supportive and encouraging. Let him know that you are there for him and you appreciate that he is working hard, not only for himself, but for the two of you. Sometimes a man needs to know that he will be able to reach his goals before he is able to commit to marriage.

He’s Still In School
Psychology 101 is kicking his butt as he tries to find time for date night, his job, volunteering and studying. If he is still in college, his mind is most likely occupied with graduating on time and not having to move back home with his parents. College is a time of self discovery and growth. Despite his love for you, he also knows that in order to have a successful future, a solid education is key. Help him study. If you are in school as well, make sure you aren’t spending all your time daydreaming about the perfect dress! Focus on school and enjoy your youth.

He’s Gotten Too Comfortable
Maybe he has gotten a little too comfortable with your dating situation. Do you live together perhaps? Do you cook and clean for him? Are you doing all of the wifely duties without the title of “wife”? Unfortunately, sometimes living with a man before marriage can put a bit of a delay on the proposal. Maybe he’s taken on the responsibility of paying the majority of the rent or bills and the expenses are preventing him from purchasing a ring. Maybe he has gotten so comfortable with your living arrangement that he feels no need to “buy the cow” per se – he’s getting the milk served to him every morning, afternoon and evening! Have a talk with him and let him know your desire to be married. If this is also in his plans, find out a time frame and go from there.

He Wants To Test The Waters
Unfortunately, sometimes men just don’t realize when they’ve got a good thing and choose to play the field. If you suspect that he is not proposing to you due to another woman (or multiple women), that very well may be the case. If, for whatever reason, he doesn’t see your worth, it’s not up to you to force him. It won’t work. You have to decide whether it is worth staying with a man who may not want you, or whether you should let him go. If he truly loves you he will realize you are the one he wants to be with and get rid of any woman who may be waiting on the sideline.

He Doesn’t Believe In Marriage
Finding out the man you’ve been dating, who you had been planning to marry, doesn’t want to get married is a hard pill to swallow. Maybe you never even had the talk and just assumed that he wanted to get married someday. Marriage isn’t something that everyone desires. Some people simply just don’t want to get married. If you’ve never had the marriage talk or if you suspect that his not wanting to get married is what’s stopping him from proposing, simply ask. If he lets you know he has no intention of ever getting married, you can’t force that upon him anymore than he can force you to stay without the commitment of a marriage.

He’s Been Married Before
Divorce is not easy. It’s hard to have what you thought would last forever come to an earth shattering halt. It’s even harder to make the decision to remarry after going through a tough divorce. As much as you want to be married you have to realize that he has been down that road already, and it crumbled at his feet. Realize that he could still be healing from his first marriage. Make sure that marriage is something he wants to try again before getting too involved. It may take a little longer for a divorced man to decide to remarry and for good reason. Be patient.

It’s Too Soon
Let’s face it. Many girls dream about their perfect wedding before they even learn to spell their names! Sometimes we can put pressure on ourselves to do something we aren’t quite ready for due to the pressures of society and family! We want the perfect man and the perfect wedding and we want it now! Maybe your boyfriend realizes that despite how much you love each other, you two just aren’t ready for marriage. Maybe you are still in your early twenties, or maybe haven’t even been dating for more than a year or two. Give yourself time to grow. Get to know each other before jumping the broom – it’s not going anywhere.

Source:http://www.don9ja.com/2016/11/25/reasons-your-boyfriend-hasnt-proposed-yet/