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I don’t know if this is the right forum to ask this.

There is this Nigerian girl I met some few months ago, we chatted for a while and exchange nos. Ever since then she has been calling me asking for one financial favor or the other (usually nothing much) which I always oblige. Now I feel its getting too much and I am not interested in any serious relationship with her. I don’t know how to lie that I can’t afford her requests anymore (I know she will also not believe me) and I don’t also want to insult/embarrass her by just saying NO (guess am too soft). Anyway is there a nice, non embarrassing way I can stop her requests?

Why are you worried about her feelings? If your not in something serious with her then ni biggy. She don't seem to be embarassed to contiually ask you for your money. She will be fine, she was before you and should be after.

^^^ trust me there was and there is nothing between us. Just dont know how to say No, when she and I know I have it. Or you think I should not mind whatever she feels? I have no intention of just cutting her off, I just dont want to continue the father xmas stuff.

OAM4J:
Just dont know how to say No, when she and I know I have it.

So how did she know that? You must have let it slip in the course of your conversations that you have a lot of money to throw away!

Well in the end itcwill be up to you weather or not she uses you. If you like giving away your money fine, but if you had none would she still be your friend. Look at it that way. Don't tell you about you money situation. I wish I could find a guy that was so nice for nothing in return. Alot of women would love that. But all in all there is no nice way for telling someone to stop using you.

coolier:
So how did she know that? You must have let it slip in the course of your conversations that you have a lot of money to throw away!

I made the mistake of telling her where I work. So it's easy for her to put 1 and 1 together to get 2, if you know what i mean.

Charchar:
Well in the end itcwill be up to you weather or not she uses you. If you like giving away your money fine, but if you had none would she still be your friend. Look at it that way. Don't tell you about you money situation. I wish I could find a guy that was so nice for nothing in return. Alot of women would love that. But all in all there is no nice way for telling someone to stop using you.

Thanks, I get your point.

^^^ I agree with you. Thanks.
You know there is a way she makes the request and make you feel guilty, like you are a mean person if you dont respond. Guess there is no easy way to end it.

^^^ I knew for less than 3 months. Yesterday will be the 4th time she is asking me for a favour. I dont mind helping once in a while. But really  I feel its getting too much.

Thanks I get your points.

Tell her the truth of how you feel, if you dont wanna "lie"

just tell her that u dont ahve but u do it politely.
u claimed there is nothing btw u guys so y are u this scared of telling her ur mind or maybe u are nursing sumtin in ur heart

you are being modest,then take what is making you feel that way with her or keep murmuring.

foyeks2001:
just tell her that u dont ahve but u do it politely.
u claimed there is nothing btw u guys so y are u this scared of telling her your mind or maybe u are nursing sumtin in your heart

lol…Am not nursing anything and am not expecting anything. If I want anything from her, I would have asked and I guess by now I would be having it. I just don’t want to hurt her feelings or embarrass her. Am looking for a polite way to say No and stop her. Guess there is no polite NO.

@poster
LMAO. . . . . .  you see, you were quick to show all your might in front of the dragon and now you are running scared!

when you were chasing the broad, you show her where you worked etc to impress her, in return she decided to use you as a cash machine and so you fell for it.

if you say that there is nothing between the two of you then why are you so scared to tell her exactly how you feel about not cashing out? some women sense that some guys are soft and they will use whatever mean to press that button. she knows you are weak and uses that in her advantage, if you dont MAN UP then she will only leave when you are broke.

how can you even be with her with being HONEST with her,  its either you are a MUGU or you are HONEST and tell her whats the deal.
the words are very simple:
I CAN SEE THAT YOU ONLY NEED ME FOR FINANCIAL FAVOURS; UNLESS YOU CAN REPAY ME WHAT I HAVE BORROWED YOU BEFORE; I WILL NOT HELP YOU AGAIN. GO FIND ANOTHER MUGU TO DEFRAUD.


if you cant spit these words in front of this scam artist then just open your wallet and be suckered out.

ps: thats what real friends do, they tell the truth however it might hurt the friend.

lol, hmnnnm I get u. . Now the guys are talking

Is like I left some part out. Her needs are genuine and real, she is not a bad girl trying to suck me or take advantage of me. I wouldn’t have given her a dime if I know her demands are not real. She is without a job, relation and she broke up with her bf. I know her ex. Am just not interested in a relationship with her (fling or serious) and I don’t also want to take up her responsibilities or be her cash machine. Am willing to assist once in a while not all the time. Already because of my 'mr nice' she is getting emotional with me and I want that to stop.

I am no mugu. If she is a sucker, her number would have left my fone since.

Why do i feel like u are leading her on

^^^ C'mon Fhemmy! how? why would I do that? Is it wrong for me to want to help once in a while and not wanting to take all her responsiblities over?

There is NO nice way to say NO. The sooner you accept that fact, the better for your wallet.

^^^ thanks. accepted.

I said tell her the truth.

Why not just change your number or send her a text that you are moving away because of your job situation or better yet why dont you call her and ask her for money and the same way she tells you no should be the same way you tell her

omega25red:
Why not just change your number or send her a text that you are moving away because of your job situation or better yet why dont you call her and ask her for money and the same way she tells you no should be the same way you tell her

Lol . . . why would he do that, when he is enjoying the attention.

Fhemmmy:
Lol . . . why would he do that, when he is enjoying the attention.

yeah i know he loves the attention but if he is serious he will call her and ask for some money. She will be like Hell No i been think say you get money sef" lol

omega25red:
yeah i know he loves the attention but if he is serious he will call her and ask for some money. She will be like Hell No i been think say you get money sef" lol

Lol

OAM4J:
lol, hmnnnm I get u. . Now the guys are talking
Is like I left some part out. Her needs are genuine and real, she is not a bad girl trying to suck me or take advantage of me. I wouldn’t have given her a dime if I know her demands are not real. She is without a job, relation and she broke up with her bf. I know her ex. Am just not interested in a relationship with her (fling or serious) and I don’t also want to take up her responsibilities or be her cash machine. Am willing to assist once in a while not all the time. Already because of my 'mr nice' she is getting emotional with me and I want that to stop.

I am no mugu. If she is a sucker, her number would have left my fone since.

if you dont see that she is trying to take advantage of you then MUGU you must be(excuse my french). why would a person come to you, doesnt she have other friends to ask? what about that ex of hers? family? etc

the fact that her needs are genuine is irrelevant brotha, the fact remains that she has found in you someone that she can milk out for all her problems. and funny enough, all her problems can be resolve with M O N E Y.
you better smell the coffee before she squeeze you dry out of your hard earned cash.

the fact that she is bringing all her problems to you(and you care to help her) means that she is seeing the mugu who is hiding deep inside you. . . . . . . . . get that ¨mugu¨ back to sleep and be strong about it all.

unless you tell her that enough is enough, she will never stop!
the first time she asked you for help , you should have let her know that it would be a LOAN and therefore she would have to repay you, that would have stop her for coming back for more(unless she paid back).

^^^hmnnnn. thanks points taken & noted

Fhemmmy:
Lol . . . why would he do that, when he is enjoying the attention.

omega25red:
yeah i know he loves the attention but if he is serious he will call her and ask for some money. She will be like Hell No i been think say you get money sef" lol

lol No qualms!