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5 Biblical Reasons To Not Have Sex Outside Of Marriage by Opeomoope: 2:35pm On Feb 07, 2017 |
God warns us about the consequences of
our sins. What are biblical consequences of
having sex outside of marriage?
The Two Become One
Whether someone likes it or not, when
someone has sexual relationships outside of
marriage, they are not only sinning against
God or against their spouse, but they are
actually sinning against their own body.
When a person has sex outside of marriage,
whoever they have sex with, they are joined
together with that person and the two
become one. That the two become one in
marriage is what God intended but when
they venture outside of their marital
relationship, for example a man has sex
outside of marriage, he can become one
with the prostitute.
Here is what Paul says about such a
relationship in 1 Corinthians 6:15-18:
“Do you not know that your bodies are
members of Christ? Shall I then take the
members of Christ and make them
members of a prostitute? Never! Or do
you not know that he who is joined to a
prostitute becomes one body with her?
For, as it is written, “The two will
become one flesh.” But he who is joined
to the Lord becomes one spirit with him.
Flee from sexual immorality. Every other
sin a person commits is outside the
body, but the sexually immoral person
sins against his own body.”
One of the main reasons that we are not to
have sex outside of marriage is because that
person becomes joined to…becomes one
with…the person that they are having sex.
So if they have sex with someone who is
committing adultery, they are joined
together with the adulterer and God will not
fail to judge those two who do such a thing.
I knew a man who once had an affair with a
woman who was also married and so these
two became one; one in adultery and they
were literally “joined” with each other in sin.
That joining together, in this case for the
worse, is something that will carry severe
consequences. It could result in a sexually
transmitted disease, AIDS, unwanted
pregnancy, and also result in divorce and
the breakup of a family and home and any
children in that marriage will forever be
changed. If we choose to sin we are
choosing to suffer the consequences.
Exclusion from the Kingdom of Heaven
In 1 Corinthians 6:9-10 Paul asks a very
serious question: “Or do you not know
that the unrighteous will not inherit the
kingdom of God? Do not be deceived:
neither the sexually immoral, nor
idolaters, nor adulterers, nor men who
practice homosexuality, nor thieves, nor
the greedy, nor drunkards, nor revilers,
nor swindlers will inherit the kingdom
of God.”
God cannot be mocked for whatever a
person sows they are sure to reap and what
greater consequence than to be cast out of
the Kingdom of Heaven when Christ returns.
No believer in Christ lives in sexual
immorality for they are deceived if they do
such things and still believe that they are
headed to heaven. We are lying to ourselves
and greatly deceived to believe that we can
do such things and not pay a penalty and
what greater penalty than to lose your own
soul for eternity?
John says that “ We know that everyone
who has been born of God does not
keep on sinning, but he who was born
of God protects him, and the evil one
does not touch him” (1 John 5:18).
The wording of 1 John 5:18 is clear that
everyone who is born again does not keep
on sinning. They might stumble and fall but
true believers will repent but if they “keep
on sinning” John says that they are not truly
born again and someone who is committing
ongoing, unrepentant sexual immorality like
adultery most assuredly does not have any
assurance of their going to heaven but
instead may be headed to the lake of fire
(Rev 20:11-15).
Financial Ruin
Can a person take a fire out of the fireplace
and not be burned? Clearly they cannot as
Solomon wrote in
Proverbs 6:27 “Can a man carry fire next
to his chest and his clothes not be
burned?”
A person that is committing adultery is
playing with fire and it can bring
destruction to their home but not only that,
it can bring financial ruin because families
that go through divorce have a greater risk
of living in poverty. In this same chapter
Solomon warns that “for the price of a
prostitute is only a loaf of bread, but a
married woman hunts down a precious
life” (Prov 6:26). Remember too that “he
who goes in to his neighbor’s wife; none
who touches her will go unpunished” (Prov
6:29). Cause and effect are in mind here
because God says that whoever commits
adultery will not go unpunished. Even if a
person repents from this and it is only a
one-time affair, the penalty will not go away.
Is it worth going into poverty over or is it
worth destroying a marriage for a one night
fling? Of course not!
Making Enemies
Proverbs 6:32-35 says that “He who
commits adultery lacks sense; he who
does it destroys himself. He will get
wounds and dishonor, and his disgrace
will not be wiped away. For jealousy
makes a man furious, and he will not
spare when he takes revenge. He will
accept no compensation; he will refuse
though you multiply gifts.”
There are fewer things worse than the
jealous rage of a betrayed spouse. The
person who has cheated may have this in
the back of their minds; what if someone
finds out, what would the other spouse do
if they knew, what is the risk to my life over
this? There are crimes of passion that have
happened when a jealous and betrayed
husband or wife discovered that their
spouse has cheated on them and their
angry retribution is taken out on the
adulterous spouse or the one who
committed adultery with their spouse.
People have died in the passion of such
affairs. What a risk there is to make enemies
that will never, ever forget what the
adulterer has done. They might be looking
over their shoulders for the rest of their lives
or they might be seeing people whispering
over this and the associated scandal that
this brings.
Destroyed Reputation
I already touched on the thought that a
person’s reputation can be ruined by even
one affair. Even it if happens only once,
people have long memories and tend to not
forget. You lose the trust of those around
you. You lose their respect which affects all
of the other relationships you have and
those who know you will never see you as
quite the same person again. They may
forever be suspicious of you and your
motives will always be in question. There is
nothing that can restore a good name
because “A good name is to be chosen
rather than great riches, and favor is better
than silver or gold” (Prov 22:1).
Conclusion
The sanctity of marriage is at stake if you
commit adultery. Even flirting at the office or
at work is playing with fire. You put yourself
at great risk when you play the charmer or
flatter someone of the opposite sex. It is
simply not worth the risk. Ask yourself these
questions: Do you want to become one in
the same with a prostitute or adulterer? Do
you want to risk financial ruin? Do you want
to play with fire and get burned with
disease or unwanted pregnancies? Do you
want to make an enemy for life? It is worth
a lifelong ruined reputation? And is it worth
losing your soul over? Of course it isn’t.
There are more than 5 biblical reasons to
not have sex outside of marriage but the
number one reason is that God commands
us to stay faithful to our mate or to abstain
from having sex outside of marriage. These
are not really “Don’t do this” but “Do this
and get hurt.” They are meant for our own
good and that is my hope in writing this
that if I can prevent even one person from
committing adultery, then it would have
been worth writing this in ten thousand
words. |
Re: 5 Biblical Reasons To Not Have Sex Outside Of Marriage by gwama: 7:58pm On Feb 07, 2017 |
We must begin the sermon by the Men of God, today there are great men of God in Naija, who are either separated from their wives or divorced for a long time and who are not remarried, how do they do it On the sexual side ?? Do they practice abstinence or fornication? I presume they fornique, because no man can stay for months, see years without having sex. They are then elect of God who flirt with satan ... |
Re: 5 Biblical Reasons To Not Have Sex Outside Of Marriage by Rainmaker69(m): 9:46pm On Feb 07, 2017 |
What is marriage? Is it a physical act? or a legal act? or a spiritual act? or all or none? A topic like this can't be addressed if you don't even identify the boundaries within which people should or shouldn't act. |
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