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Re: Please Advise Me On My Proposed Marriage. by Nobody: 3:25pm On Mar 13, 2017 |
diesel86: Alhamdulillaah she agreed, thats the important thing, and as for the questio, Why dont you call the scholar i recommended and direct your questions to him instead, i am not a scholar neither I'm i a big student of knowledge, and i'm not even a small student of knowledge either, i dont know anything compared to a small student of knowledge. direct the question and subsequent ones to udhtaaz ambueya. 1 Like |
Re: Please Advise Me On My Proposed Marriage. by Nobody: 2:41pm On Mar 25, 2017 |
Salam alaykum How did it go? |
Re: Please Advise Me On My Proposed Marriage. by Nobody: 11:35am On Mar 31, 2017 |
Hmm 4 Likes 4 Shares |
Re: Please Advise Me On My Proposed Marriage. by money121(m): 12:14pm On Mar 31, 2017 |
Don't accept such.... No to Registry... Happy home is the main important of marriage.. 1 Like 2 Shares |
Re: Please Advise Me On My Proposed Marriage. by landg: 1:03pm On Mar 31, 2017 |
Reading through these posts and seeing the way you men are against registry confirms your inferiority complex. You will use the Qur'an to support your silly reasons and actions. Is the Lady not a human being with feelings too? What is wrong in securing her place as a wife. A lot of people commenting don't even know what registry entails. There is absolutely nothing wrong with it. Please if you love her then do it. Love is both ways... She has bent and you don't want to bend.. What kind of man are you? If I'm the Lady I'll walk out because it shows you always want to have your way but never consider her feelings. For your info, the registry certificate is so so important. You'll need it to apply for visas 5 Likes 1 Share |
Re: Please Advise Me On My Proposed Marriage. by dantori(m): 1:37pm On Mar 31, 2017 |
diesel86: Bro I have had several issues as same but not having a woman who respects you before even you're married could be dangerous at the long run, never let anyone intimidate you including your supposed in-laws at end the responsibility of your woman lies on you and no one else , respect those to be respected tho, bro if you won't mind I have many religious Muslim ladies young as friends who will make a good wife, however iono what you've gone through with the lady, but trust in Allah for the best, hit me up if youd love to talk further, Thanks Ma'asalam |
Re: Please Advise Me On My Proposed Marriage. by loveanonymity(f): 2:04pm On Mar 31, 2017 |
Assalamu alaykum brother. Ask a trusted schorlar if there is anything against marrying in the registry. If Islam is not against it then accept it as part of something she wants before she accepts the contract. I have a feeling it isn't only her parents that want that I think she wants it too, so if Islam isn't against it why don't you do this for her afterall she has compromised some of her conditions already. 2 Likes |
Re: Please Advise Me On My Proposed Marriage. by azeezbaba(m): 4:50pm On Mar 31, 2017 |
landg: A point of correction. I am married, never did a registry wedding and I don't have a registry marriage certificate but me and my wife have been granted visas to the UK (twice), US (twice) and Canada with a marriage certificate issued by Ansarudeen. @landg, a proper Islamic marriage guarantees a woman more rights than any registry marriage . @Diesel, I would suggest you follow the advice given by brother AbdelKabir. May Allah ease our affairs. 4 Likes 2 Shares |
Re: Please Advise Me On My Proposed Marriage. by Organs(m): 6:31pm On Mar 31, 2017 |
diesel86: Alaikum Salam, Bro, you did the right thing by not bulging when you did not have enough for an elaborate wedding which is not required in Islam anyways only for bragging rights. (So unfortunate). Again, its pathetic, when you see people making comment on something they absolutely knew nothing about like saying its unislamic, guess what, its their myopic mindset and let them bring bruhaan if indeed they speak the truth?Now in the USA, most Masajids will not even conduct an islamic wedding until you bring a court wedding. This is because most times, the men (Arabs mostly) do whatever they like because their is no sharia in the USA and the women have no protection in the USA courts/laws because it is an islamic wedding. Yes, please go ahead and do the court registry with her but most importantly PRAY and make Duah about it all. May Allah guide us aright, ameen. 1 Like |
Re: Please Advise Me On My Proposed Marriage. by landg: 7:30pm On Mar 31, 2017 |
azeezbaba: I guess those visas were temporary. It's needed for immigration purposes. On the other hand, I'm putting into consideration the Lady's emotions. She has allowed him have his way already on the kind of marriage so why can't he keep to his promise. If that is what makes her feel secured, then he should do it cos it he PROMISED her. Perhaps that was part of the reasons she agreed to marry him. I see nothing but a selfish guy trying to hide under islam. How come he just realised this after doing Introduction? Maybe because he feels she no longer has a choice. He won't be the first muslim to go to the registry neither will he be the last. I hope you all won't complain if the heartbroken Lady changes for the worse tomorrow. |
Re: Please Advise Me On My Proposed Marriage. by mcbau2020: 7:30pm On Mar 31, 2017 |
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Re: Please Advise Me On My Proposed Marriage. by Origin(f): 10:07pm On Mar 31, 2017 |
We women love registry because the law recognises only the wife that you wed at the registry. So if you remarry or have other kids they are not entitled to inheritance and are not recognised under the law as your children. If fact if you did remarry she could sue you for bigamy as polygamy is not recognised under the law. Your property belongs to the two of you and she is entitled to equal share. Women strongly believe that this secures their place in a marriage and you'll hear "Iyawo oloruka nimi". "Iyawo alarede nimi" But this does not often work. I know of two confirmed cases- one a muslim woman whose husband now has a child and wife and the wife cannot do anything as children plenty. 2nd a christian whose husband just walked out of the marriage the kids and wife. Shebi it's the person you see that you will carry to court. If this is why your wife wants the registry, Nigerian men have found ways to work round it. it though it contradicts the laws of Islamic marriage. The Islamic marriage certificate is recognized worldwide and is valid for processing visas etc. Its legal. The two examples above were the arguments given to me from my family when I wanted to push for a registry marriage. 2 Likes |
Re: Please Advise Me On My Proposed Marriage. by azeezbaba(m): 2:10am On Apr 01, 2017 |
landg: There you go again. I am only responding to you because I want to correct this erroneous believe that without registry marriage, Muslims cannot apply for and be granted visas (temporary or permanent resident). Therefore, in response to your statement above, I am a Permanent Resident in Canada with my family and if that's what you refer to as temporary, then I agree with you. In order not to digress too much, I stick with my earlier submission that the OP should consult with any ahlu sunnah alfa in his locality for guidance. 1 Like |
Re: Please Advise Me On My Proposed Marriage. by diesel86: 2:53am On Apr 01, 2017 |
snapscore: Thanks for your concern, she as agreed, though reluctantly and me promising not to disappoint, I do hope we work things ASAP . 2 Likes |
Re: Please Advise Me On My Proposed Marriage. by diesel86: 3:07am On Apr 01, 2017 |
I would have loved to quote everyone who as taken time out to contribute on this thread and can see that you all are genuinely concerned, for that I say a BIG thank you. I have contacted some clerics as advised on this forum and have come to the conclusion not to go ahead with the registry, and my why is that i can see that my in-laws are the ones pushing for it, to them, I guess they are trying to give their daughter a safety net* funny I tell you, I do not plan on marrying more than one wife but things like this are reasons why men do such things. I wouldn't be like those men, My fiancee as agreed with me on this and I do hope her family does so as well, If they don't I guess letting go would be the best option , I pray it does not get to that though. 1 Like |
Re: Please Advise Me On My Proposed Marriage. by Nobody: 5:15pm On Apr 02, 2017 |
Salam alaykum @ diesel86 If all she is worried about you getting a second wife. You can sign a legal document saying that she has the right to ask for separation of if you do. Or if a divorce happens, you can compensate her with money and properties. |
Re: Please Advise Me On My Proposed Marriage. by diesel86: 6:25pm On Apr 02, 2017 |
snapscore: I pray it doesn't get to that, am not naive though, if such should happen I definitely would do whatever would make her happy. |
Re: Please Advise Me On My Proposed Marriage. by Papyray(m): 10:36am On Nov 06, 2019 |
Assalaam Alaikum, Please I would like to know if marriage certificate issued by TMC is sufficient for Canada EE or do I need to present any other documents to proved I'm married? azeezbaba: |
Re: Please Advise Me On My Proposed Marriage. by OLOKOESHIN: 4:51pm On Sep 08, 2022 |
azeezbaba:Are you sure about this? |
Re: Please Advise Me On My Proposed Marriage. by NobleStag007: 11:57am On Sep 09, 2022 |
Both of 'em have absolutely no idea about Islam. Muslim and registry ke? |
Re: Please Advise Me On My Proposed Marriage. by ANTllSLAAM: 3:09pm On Sep 09, 2022 |
No one advised the one and only messenger of allah on his proposed marriage to aishat at 6yr of age |
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