The ultimately goal of discovering ourselves is to align ourselves with our exact purpose and destiny. When we get to that stage where we finally recognise our purpose in life, everything we do or engage in is based on us becoming a better person, with a mindset that's constantly seeking to find meaning into how our actions affect or impact the wider people around us.

These are the times or stages when our mind is constantly focused “on-becoming” and never at a stage where we think to ourselves that we have temporarily arrived.

The journey to discovering ourselves and our purpose creates within us the willingness to live a well-lived and fulfilled life, and with that willingness comes the need of understanding that to live a fulfilled and well-lived life, we are always on a journey and never at a destination. The quest to create positive impact on our immediate environment becomes our unquenchable drive, urging us to empty everything inside of us for the benefit of others. Read More:

However, discovering ourselves can be one of the hardest things for most of us, with many of us never being able to figure out our true nature or identity all our lives, but remaining in the shadow of others and never breaking free into our own. As a result, many people find it easier to get security in the comfort of an average Job, average wage, average family, and everything average, which basically creates an average fortress around our lives which we struggle to break out of.

In the willingness to break free from that false sense of security and into our larger and rightful self, we inevitably have to begin the process of discovering ourselves, and that process of learning to discover or understand ourselves is never complete or thoroughly done without us having to revisit or tracing our life back into our past, from the families we've grown up in, to our childhood's bad experiences, bad relationships, broken marriages, all those bad experiences and pain we've experienced in our past life up until this point, in a way, they tend to seems like they have been long gone and forgotten, but the truth is, they have just been put away in hidden compartments within us, only to reappear when we are exposed to situations or challenges that remind us of them.

You know, it’s like waking up one morning and finding yourself stuck on a tree top, one of the easiest ways to get down from the tree safely is to retrace the way you got up to the top of the tree in the first place. I said this because, most of us suddenly wake up in our middle age and realise, damn, we're men, and were all of a sudden faced with all these huge responsibilities, Families, wives, kids, bills etc..many were never schooled, thought or advised how to become men while growing up.

So when taking a look back into our past, we need to be rest assured that we will certainly come face to face with those ugly elements of our past which we have locked away and never want to remember. Ugly elements that when we re-enact people wonder if we are the same person because of the different side of us that spills out as we exhibit traces of these bad experiences from the past.

The truth is, though these bad experiences are ugly, painful, depressing and never a very pretty sight, it’s important that we confront them head on so we can lay them to rest...and not just that, but also to enable us quit placing blame on the causes of these misfortunes, but importantly so we can move forward with our lives and step out of the boxes of limitations these dreadful experiences have kept us in.

And though we exhibit these character traits through our actions from time to time, giving opportunities to others to label or stereotype us as they discern, the actual root or seeds of these character traits begins in our brain. The human brain they say is like a meadow, where the first trail that rolls across it leaves a path that flattens the grass, the second and third trail that follows the part of the first, flattens and engraves the part a little more each time a trail is rolled by, to the extent that when other trails are about to cross the meadow, they simply follow the flatten parts of the previous trails, rather than seeking a route of their own, which is exactly how our perceptions work also, in this simply analogy, it's easy to see where the phases like practice makes perfect, or whatever the mind can conceive, the mind can achieve come from.

With that in mind, it's quite important to always remember that if the experiences of our past that are not confronted and dealt with, they prevent other creatives thoughts we have from discovering their own path through the meadow of our mind field, this somehow is a reason why most of us will have set goals or have big scary audacious dreams, which we never carry out or see through, as explained earlier, they are simply at the mercy of the paths that the previous experiences created through the meadow of our mind-field for them to follow ….
Which is why it is also said that one cannot keep doing the same thing and expect different results. That then is like a brooding hen sitting on some china eggs expecting it to hatch one day, common sense make us understand that it will never hatch no matter how long it sits on it.

When we know and have discovered ourself, we shouldn't be caught fighting old battles long after peace should have reigned, the process of self-discovery, knowing and recognising ourselves is harder to achieve if we continue to hold on to the ugly past that’s kept hidden within us which ultimately becomes relevant to our future and moving forward.

If we don’t face up to them, they tend to fade away, only for a while, till someone, something or somewhere triggers and stirs them up in us again, and even though we might have thought we've dealt with that episode of our life before, l'll find ourselves dealing with it repeatedly over and over again, examples are, abusive husbands, serial cheats, drug addicts, gambles etc.

The major thing to factor in always when dealing with our bad experiences and demons of the past is that, they cannot be defeated, they can only be confronted, dealt with, and laid to rest #OurDailyDose

Watch out for part 3