COMPLIMENTS DO WONDERS FOR YOUR BRAIN

If you’re like most couples, you’ve probably experienced moments in your relationship when you feel almost invisible to each other because you allow other things like kids, money, or health to take priority over your relationship. If this is your story, consider the power of the compliment, says Michele Paiva, a psychotherapist in Downingtown, Pennsylvania. “Compliments show you don’t take your spouse for granted and help raise your spouse’s dopamine and oxytocin levels,” she says. “That, in turn, leads to a better emotional connection and more of an upbeat mood overall.”

COMPLIMENTS ARE BEST WHEN THEY’RE SPECIFIC

To compliment effectively, focus on a quality you especially value in your partner, such as “I really appreciate how dedicated you are as a mother to our children.” Or focus on a specific deed, says David Routt, a licensed professional counselor in Caldwell, Idaho. “Instead of just saying ‘Thanks, honey,” say “Thank you for washing the dishes, honey, it means a lot to me.” Being specific is always much better than being generic. And it goes without saying that the compliment should be sincere.

COMPLIMENTS PAIR WELL WITH EMOTIONS

Turns out, compliments are even more impactful when they’re paired with a deep feeling. “If you say, the landscaping you did looks great and makes me feel really at peace in our home, your partner will have a completely different reaction than if you just say that you like the landscaping work,” says Joshua Klapow, PhD, a licensed clinical psychologist in Birmingham, Alabama. Sharing the emotion behind the compliment adds a more intense personal connection.

COMPLIMENTS OFFER ENCOURAGEMENT

Sweet “nothings” said off the cuff should actually be “somethings.” Consider using your compliment as a way to make your partner feel invincible. “My husband doesn’t think he’s very handy around the house, but he tries to fix things that are broken anyway,” says Gayle Katz, a happiness coach in Philadelphia. “I always compliment him no matter what, and constantly say things like, ‘You’re so handy around the house!”

COMPLIMENTS TAKE JUST SECONDS

Affirmation is one of the most important things to give to a spouse because you’re basically affirming that he or she is loved and that they matter more than anyone else. That’s why even the smallest of compliments will go a long way. ‘Take 10 seconds to tell your spouse ‘Wow, I love to watch you dance,’ or ‘That lasagna was delicious,” suggests Chandra F. Johnson, PhD, an assistant psychology professor at Argosy University in Atlanta.

COMPLIMENTS CAN BE ASKED FOR

If your spouse isn’t naturally effusive around you, don’t complain about it—ask for ongoing compliments. “Be open about wanting to hear compliments,” Paiva stresses. It isn’t shameful to desire kind words. Rather it shows self-esteem.

COMPLIMENTS CAN FOLLOW AN EASY TEMPLATE

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I concur!

I kind of agree to this. But don't you think it gets predictable? Like your partner can predict what you will say and overtime it can be boring because you've heard them say it constantly..