am still a single adult, but wish to know how it feels like when one is married in respect to the temptation of fornication. i often hear people(especially the religious ones) say if u cant hold your self, then get married. my question now is, does getting married eliminate the temptation of fornication or of wanting to make love outside your marriage? pls i need honest answers from married people especially the men. thanks.

Every body is unique. What is good for the goose may not work 4 the gander.

Get married first then u can share ur experience with us

Yes, it does help.

It takes God (your willingness to allow God take control) to get out of it if you are already into it. Marriage will not stop it automatically. Really, the temptation increases after marriage.

You will still find other people attractive if you are married. Just remember that 'grass is always greener on the other side' and it can cost you more than it is worth!! You already have someone who fulfils 70-90% of your requirements (no one is perfect, neither are you). Don't turn the remaining 10-30% into 70-90%, which is what most people do and end up with problems.

The key is to turn those sexual feelings on your spouse. If you felt 'one-kind' after seeing an attractive person that is not your spouse, come home and give them the best sex of their lives. It will bring you even closer to your spouse and might 'rekindle' the romance that might have been lost.

Honestly, it's down to the individual. A lot of people might disagree but men are naturally polygamous. Discipline is the only thing you've got. I'm not religious, so I'm not going to take you through that journey about prayers and all that. What I can say is if you're religious, you can do what it's necessary according to your belief, to guide you in your endeavour. Marriage is big deal. You've got to understand that temptation will always arise. Sleeping with the same woman week in week out might not be as exciting as having a couple of girls on the side. But if you have discipline, then you should be alright. I hope.

Tallgal,dats a gud one.

no it doesnt. if that was the case, we would have definitely less cases of married men/women cheating on their spouse.

If the guy is someone who loves "sampling", then it's bound to continue even when he is married.A wedding ring and a bank account draining wedding doesn't guarantee abstinence from cheating.If it's a guy that's one man/woman kinda person, then all the better.It all boils down to discipline though.I'll be married sometime soon and i don't see myself looking outside unless she actually gives me reason to (and believe me. . .they sometimes do)

Not at all.
If it is in your, it is in you.
But it is one expensive hobby . . . not worth the hassle

i honestly think getting married will not quench the desire, it's up to the person involved because marriage is a thing of the heart. your spouse cannot really monitor you. But I think this will help: The Big "". Visit www.rerute-blueboy..com

Yes, it does help, but by the time your wife decides to deprieve you of sex, then the marriage cease to prevent fornication.

Believe me, I'm talking from experience.

harakiri:


The key is to turn those sexual feelings on your spouse.

If ur redirect all the energy and high libiido on "only one person"
u nor go kill person? am just wondering

No you won't kill the person because this is an occasional happening.

tallgal:

No you won't kill the person because this is an occasional happening.

Wont that be your own assumption?

I'm assuming you REALLY love your spouse and don't want to do anything to hurt them. Will you realistically see a person THAT attractive every day? I don't think so.

Hell No.

tallgal:

I'm assuming you REALLY love your spouse and don't want to do anything to hurt them. Will you realistically see a person THAT attractive every day? I don't think so.

OK. . . .i guess i misunderstood you, i thought you were talking about, it will be occassionally that you will wanna make love to her.
So i was saying it is an assumption, cos i wanna make love to her on a daily basis

Men!!!!

tallgal:

You will still find other people attractive if you are married. Just remember that 'grass is always greener on the other side' and it can cost you more than it is worth!! You already have someone who fulfils 70-90% of your requirements (no one is perfect, neither are you). Don't turn the remaining 10-30% into 70-90%, which is what most people do and end up with problems.

The key is to turn those sexual feelings on your spouse. If you felt 'one-kind' after seeing an attractive person that is not your spouse, come home and give them the best sex of their lives. It will bring you even closer to your spouse and might 'rekindle' the romance that might have been lost.

tallgal:

I'm assuming you REALLY love your spouse and don't want to do anything to hurt them. Will you realistically see a person THAT attractive every day? I don't think so.

I appreciate the response above. This is sincere, genuine and straight to the point. My only addition is those who find it difficult to control their "desire" before marriage, which should be faithfully directed to one spouse might find it difficult even after marriage to stay faithful except they learn to ignore "forbidden apples".

As said by tallgal, after marriage you will meet better dressed, always smiling cool guy on day to day basis to whom you will be attracted. Where there is a urge to sample them "TURN TO YOUR SPOUSE FOR RELIEF" or else you become KING SOLOMON in the bible who kept sampling till they reach 1000

No it doesn't, if it did there'd be nothing like adultery. Nothing ever quenches the thirst for fornication, it's character and self control that keeps it in check, U get married, U don't go blind.

It quenches the desire for fornication.
Fornication simply means having sex when not married.

However, it doesn't prevent the desire for most men to sample other women.
Only disciplined men push that desire behind them while the undisciplined one's let it take control of them.