You gained admission at the age of 19 to study pharmacy, a course your mother always wanted but never pushed on you. The stress of such a voluminous course kept you occupied for the first few months. Then you met him, a third year student of economics and you were enthralled at the prospect of being friends with him as for the first time since your sojourn in this institution, you considered the idea of being friends with anyone and it was made easier as it seemed he had the exact same idea in mind. You did not need not be persuaded to go into a love relationship with him as you were already strongly attracted to him but you maintained your calm demeanor till he finally asked you out after a few days of getting to know each other better. The relationship wasn't without its ups and downs but you were happy most of the time as he spared no effort in making you happy. He accepted you and your imperfections and set out to make you a better woman and a better person. You on the other hand gave him yourself in every way and loved him with such determination that your whole world revolved around him. Then he graduated and had to leave, it was a sad moment for you and him as well but you took solace in the knowledge that he was going out to prepare for the future you both envisaged, a future that would include marriage when you graduate and three kids, a kind of companionship that would surely make the unpredictable institution of marriage worthwhile.
Then life happened and he wasn't making it as quickly as you had hoped. He is 25 and you are 22 now so you feel he should be making major headway right now to make for a smooth transitioning for you from being a student to being his wife and the owner of a big pharmacy and a pharmaceutical company at some point, but it seemed to be taking forever but this didn't deter him from taking care of your immediate needs when he can and giving you all his attention without complaints. You knew he was going through a tough time and you reassured him time and again that you would be with him every step of the way. You had no idea the things he had to give up to be there for you always, to be able to call you as many as five times daily, to stay up all night chatting with you no matter how exhausted he was from the day's activities.
It occurred to you that in as much as you love him, the process was taking too long for you and for the first time, you got jealous of your friends and how their men were able to get them whatever they wanted, so you talked to your friends and they convinced you to stop holding to something that was leading you nowhere at the moment and try to enjoy the luxuries money brought, afterall, you only get to be young once and fortunately, there is this guy that has been friendly with you recently and from the looks of it, he would be capable of taking care of you, so you start looking for a way to disentangle yourself from your relationship of three years and knowing your man, he won't let go without a fight so you consciously lay traps for him, anything that will serve as a reason for breaking up with him would do, no matter how flimsy or petty. Your friends encouraged you to do the needful and finally you stoped giving him your attention and he caught onto this immediately and tried to ask but you never said anything and he got annoyed and accused you of getting attention from elsewhere and you immediately flared up and asked him to stay the hell away from you. He apologised profusely but you won't let go of this window of opportunity as you stood your ground and refused to budge. Even when for the first time ever, he broke down and wept uncontrollably, going on about how you have been the best thing to have ever happened to him, you wouldn't change your stance and spent the next few days saying and doing whatever it took to make him despise you and finally give up, but he wouldn't as he spent the next four months begging, pleading in every way possible, even when his mom called, you refused her entreaties. How can you give up on this new guy who even paid your house rent and constantly gives you cash for upkeep?. It's true that your parents couldn't afford to give you these things, but they should be inwardly glad that you don't bother them these days as you finally are able to afford luxuries that were previously out of your reach. Your now ex should go and fix himself to someone else. As time went by, you found out that you couldn't connect with your New guy as he wasn't one to fool around with you and make you laugh. You found out that the little things you joked about with your ex weren't funny to him but you took it in your stride because as the saying goes, nobody is perfect so you endured everything and even pretended to enjoy having sex with him so as to keep the relationship going and the cash flowing.
After months of depression, he picked himself up and decided to make something of his one shot at life. The level of determination resident in him made it possible to explore his potentials and gradually become comfortable, it seemed fate would smile at him afterall and he continued to progress until at the age of 28, he could boast of being very comfortable, the lush flat, the two cars and building project could attest to this and he was getting tired of playing around with females so he simply decided it was time to commit again as he had healed completely from you and thus he made up his mind to meet a young woman of 23 or 24 and settle down as quickly as possible. Unknown to him, a young man whom he would never meet was about to lose his relationship to him but he couldn't care less as he was indeed determined to go after this young lady and make her his queen. You had always followed his success and when it became obvious that he would settle soon, you stood and wept for all the years you have wasted with a man you never quite connected with. How do you begin to teach a grown rigid man to play with and carry you, how do you begin to tell him how much you enjoy cunnilingus, how do you get him to be your best friend and confidant, but it's too late now as your then ex would be getting married any moment now and you reminisced what could have been.
His wife was taken from a young man who did nothing but struggle to make something out of life at a time when situation entailed him working hard to establish himself. someday he probably would make it and go after anther 23 or 24 year old and the cycle continues.


Mcanthony okechukwu
2017