Before becoming a husband..u should be ready to do it responsibility.. Moreover u should know how to plan ur incomes...

...Nigerian males and lies are like 5 and 6..


...Husbands in Nigeria does about 5% of what op outlined..They are becoming more and more irresponsible,leaving most of their responsibilites to their wives...Most wives are actually the breadwinner nowadays..thats the truth..

..Thats why most people prefer their mums and careless about their dads..

rainylad:



...Nigerian males and lies are like 5 and 6..


...Husbands in Nigeria does about 5% of what op outlined..They are becoming more and more irresponsible,leaving most of their responsibilites to their wives...Most wives are actually the breadwinner nowadays..thats the truth..

..Thats why most people prefer their mums and careless about their dads..

It depends, Mothers have more bonding and emotional support than the Dads, Dads are usually bothered with financial issues, also Dad are supposed to show tough love to build the kids, Women demand alot of attention from the kids, A mother would take it more personal if Mother's day was ignored or they didn't get her anything for her birthday, A dad is more likely to not look at those things as he's used to being ignored and not paid much focus to in the end. As for the list well it's assumed in the society that's it's a man's job to do that, so unless the 5% you are referring to refers to cases you've experienced or you're just pulling number and stats from thin air i'd say that's fallacious but these days couples work together to settle the bills.

pcguru1:


It depends, Mothers have more bonding and emotional support than the Dads, Dads are usually bothered with financial issues, also Dad are supposed to show tough love to build the kids, Women demand alot of attention from the kids, A mother would take it more personal if Mother's day was ignored or they didn't get her anything for her birthday, A dad is more likely to not look at those things as he's used to being ignored and not paid much focus to in the end. As for the list well it's assumed in the society that's it's a man's job to do that, so unless the 5% you are referring to refers to cases you've experienced or you're just pulling number and stats from thin air i'd say that's fallacious but these days couples work together to settle the bills.

...Its an assuption that holds no water cos the average Nigerian men are so not responsible financially anymore..Every single married couple i know has the wife doing more financially..you can choose to believe it or not..na u sabi.

Op issalie, that's not why men die early. The single most important factor is The Wife.
Trust me, the secret to longevity,other things being equal is having a doting wife. Sadly that's a quality many of our ladies lack. Their more concerned about "me me me me and me" in a never ending contest to show off and compare with their contemporaries

rainylad:




...Its an assuption that holds no water cos the average Nigerian men are so not responsible financially anymore..Every single married couple i know has the wife doing more financially..you can choose to believe it or not..na u sabi.

Unless you know thousands of Nigerian men not financially supporting the bills in the house i choose not to believe it, Also there's a thing called "sampling error" I believe that's happening in your case, the people you know that it's happening to doesn't represent Nigerian men, just means your friends choose wrong.

pcguru1:


Unless you know thousands of Nigerian men not financially supporting the bills in the house i choose not to believe it, Also there's a thing called "sampling error" I believe that's happening in your case, the people you know that it's happening to doesn't represent Nigerian men, just means your friends choose wrong.

I quite agree with her.

Most couples I see around me have the wives contributing more. Some of them ,even have husbands that have been jobless for years. But are lucky since the wives work in multinationals/are bank managers and make reasonable income.
Open your eyes and look around, women are getting good jobs too. Go to the banks, the hospitals, civil service, the market places, telecom outfits etc. Who do you see there most?
Even businesses are springing up, its just that the area of business for most men and women are different..
Even in the university, what do you think happened to those women who were your classmates? You think they all became housewives?
They're all out there hustling and putting food on the table.
Now, begin to take a conscious effort to observe all the offices and places of trade you go to. Notice how many women are there. You think all their husbands are capable of running the financial aspect of the home alone?

Please, many women are doing all the above listed and even more, and they still haven't died before their spouses.
Providing isn't the exclusive rights of the man, as we can see in present day Nigeria. Many women hustle legitimately, and bring in much needed bread into their homes.

Pcguru1, This is from a post I made on a similar thread some days ago

The real reasons men die earlier than their wives-
1. Following the natural order of things: the older should die before the younger. Its not rocket science. Most men in Nigeria marry younger women.
2. Health seeking behaviour amongst men. Many men don't seek medical intervention for ailments worrying them in time. They usually present late with their ailments, which already have become complicated and more difficult to treat.
3. Lifestyle choices- it's a known fact that men drink more and smoke more in Nigeria than women. Alcohol makes people lose inhibition, gives false confidence, increase the risk taking behaviour and so you see more men drink driving and killing themselves in the process.
Cigarettes without any doubts has been linked to almost all the chronic deadly diseases. Even the tobacco companies clearly give their warnings that smokers are more liable to die young.
4. Men have been known to take more risks than women. Usually impulsive btw, and not necessarily calculated.
5. Men have also being known to take up more dangerous jobs than women. You hardly find women engineers on oil rigs, or as firefighters, or find them climbing mtn masts, or nepa poles.
6. Men are naturally at risk of certain disease such as hypertension. That's definitely not going to prolong their lifespans will it?
7. Certain dangerous vices are found more amongst men such as kidnappings, armed robbery. You find women committing such crimes too, but more of men. And of course such crimes carry their own risks- being shot at sight by law enforcement etc.
8. Men are at a higher risk of succeeding in committing suicide than women, even though we have more suicide attempts amongst women. Women usually attempt suicide, but are usually not successful
If a man decides to commit suicide, he's more likely to succeed.

Etc..... I could go on and on. Most of the points I've put up there are researched facts, and not beer parlour gists that men die from the nagging of their women

eyinjuege:


I quite agree with her.

Most couples I see around me have the wives contributing more. Some of them ,even have husbands that have been jobless for years. But are lucky since the wives work in multinationals/are bank managers and make reasonable income.
Open your eyes and look around, women are getting good jobs too. Go to the banks, the hospitals, civil service, the market places, telecom outfits etc. Who do you see there most?
Even businesses are springing up, its just that the area of business for most men and women are different..
Even in the university, what do you think happened to those women who were your classmates? You think they all became housewives?
They're all out there hustling and putting food on the table.
Now, begin to take a conscious effort to observe all the offices and places of trade you go to. Notice how many women are there. You think all their husbands are capable of running the financial aspect of the home alone?

I never said women don't but she's making it sound like all men do nothing and allow wife play more financial role and am saying there's no data for that to know, I know couples pool in resources together and if that's an issue they can ensure they end up with extremely financial bouyant partners

These are the roles men are supposed to be playing. I don't believe all these kills. It is a thing of joy to be a responsible father. I agree with most women here. Many men are becoming more irresponsible. The Economic factor may be a valid reason. for instance, it is easier to get jobs as a woman than a man. Men should rise up and let us do our God-given responsibility with joy. Happy fathers' day!