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How To Discourage A Suffering Friend by malvisguy212: 6:42am On Jul 16, 2017
I’ve told suffering friends about how other people are passing through the same situation or even More, I've even given examples from scripture like " all things work together for good for those who love God" and many.

Surprisingly, my advice didn’t help at all. My words just added to their pain. when a friend is told, his circumstances isn't that bad and he or she needed to trust God, am I discouraging them from there situation or am I adding more pain to their sorrow ? saying to them " all things work together for good to those who love God" yes, you are right , but don't you think they have herd all that before ? as job say:

Job 16:2-5
“I HAVE HEARD ALL THIS BEFORE. What miserable comforters you are! Won’t you ever stop blowing hot air? What makes you keep on talking? I could say the same things if you were in my place. I could spout off criticism and shake my head at you. But if it were me, I would encourage you. I would try to take away your grief”

job wanted them to stop talking, stop blowing hot air, if they are in his situation, he could say the same thing to them. So how should we treat our suffering friends? What does being a friend to someone in need even look like? What should we say to our neighbors who are struggling? What should we say to our neighbors who are struggling?

From my experience, the most comforting thing we can do is to sit and say nothing. When Job’s friends first saw him, “ they sat with him on the ground, seven days and seven nights, and no one spoke a word to him, for they saw that his suffering was very great ” (Job 2:13 ). Job’s friends should have finished the way they began.

listen to your suffering friends while they pour out there heart to you is more than words, they need you to listen to them while they cry, remember, there are no easy answer in times of grief and sufferings, we don't need to be savior to them they already have one so do we.

It’s hard to be compared to the seemingly perfect Christians in the world. Who appear to face every trial with smiles on their faces. Who never seem to get discouraged.

happy Sunday.
Re: How To Discourage A Suffering Friend by malvisguy212: 10:33am On Jul 30, 2017
Lalasticlala,
Re: How To Discourage A Suffering Friend by olaolutreasure(m): 2:18pm On Jan 14, 2018
malvisguy212:
Lalasticlala,
Same to u sir. Bro, I'm beginning to monitor u closely bcus I appreciate ur wisdom of d scripture, especiali Job. Thumbs up, more grace

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Re: How To Discourage A Suffering Friend by malvisguy212: 7:43am On Mar 10
malvisguy212:
Lalasticlala,

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