Hi all,

I was talking to a married lady colleague of mine and she sought my advice on a Family issue.

She got married about a year and 4 months ago, and recently had a baby girl. The baby will be 6 months old in March and the mother only recently resumed from her maternity leave. Her husband is complaining about her job and the toll its having on the baby. He has demanded that she resign and be a house wife to take care of the baby and others to come.

There are no family members to assist with taking care of the baby and the Husband does not dig the idea of a day care or nanny.

Any advice for my friend please, cause i dont know what to say to her

Tell her to heed the words of her husband. So long as he can comfortably look after her and the baby, she has nothing to worry about. When the baby is all grown she can go back to work.

Will the job wait for her until the kids grow older?

take care of your family first. the baby is still too young

I think she should stay home if the man can handle everything financially. Are you guys in Nigeria? Taking 1 year off to raise a child is not a bad idea. She should have no problem going back into the work force

Thanks guys for all your comments and advice. I guess there is a consensus on what should be done. I really appreciate all d advice, I will communicate this to her and keep u posted on stuff.

Depends on her type of Job, if her job demands so much from her then she should forget the job but if it demands less, which means she can as well run home early to see her baby, then she should discuss it with her husband so that they can come to a conclusion on how to settle the matter.

As for me, my job demands less. I have time to go home early. I have a nanny who leaves immediately i am back from work, and it has been working fine for me and my baby.

Hi all
Thanks once again. My colleague has decided to resign. she will be leaving at the end of the month. The husband has promised to set her up with a business but she is yet to come up with one which she would like to go into. Thanks

interesting

Better inform your friend to quickly make up her mind on what business she wants to do before the Husband changes his mind and again DEMANDS that he wants her to be an housewife only, lest you come back to open another thread lamenting how he doesn't give her enough shopping allowance to cover her sanitary towel.

If the husband wants her to take care of the family, he should pay her "salary" every month or open a business for her.
Because guys at the end of the day will be the ones complaining that the amount they spending is too much and that she is not helping out in anyway. I have witnessed this type of situation, where the woman agreed to be a housewife some years later the guy starting complaining about the amount of money he was spending on the home front and that the woman is not assisting in anyway. When she told him that he was the one that wanted her to be a housewife, the husband said so does that mean out of the money I give you, you could not start up a business.

For a woman who is used to having her own money it will be difficult. Whatever she wants to buy, she needs to collect the money from the husband? No

A good husband will never make his wife do anything. Whatever happened to compromise?

disturbia:

If the husband wants her to take care of the family, he should pay her "salary" every month or open a business for her.
Because guys at the end of the day will be the ones complaining that the amount they spending is too much and that she is not helping out in anyway. I have witnessed this type of situation, where the woman agreed to be a housewife some years later the guy starting complaining about the amount of money he was spending on the home front and that the woman is not assisting in anyway. When she told him that he was the one that wanted her to be a housewife, the husband said so does that mean out of the money I give you, you could not start up a business.

For a woman who is used to having her own money it will be difficult. Whatever she wants to buy, she needs to collect the money from the husband? No

True talk. Either way, womenfolk often stand to be the losers.