Top of the day to you, fellow nairalanders,I am in my late twenty's, I am at cross roads..... Like 2 years ago, I dreamt I saw in my dreams a lady which was showed to me that she would be my wife, her name is atinuke, I partially saw her face, how she looks like, what we would accomplish together, our wedding pictures amongst others... Since then, I haven't forgot the dream... It's like yesterday...,. Approximately 2 years ago, I met this girl, we have been together all this while but not always in harmony..... we fight a lot, am hot tempered, she's hot tempered, we have opposing interests, but we have been there for each other...

To cut long story short, I don't like the way things goes on between us, because we fight a lot, and we laff and play hard at times..... I presume if I get married to her, we won't have a much happy home, but admittedly, I love her to the core..
Now this is the question, should I go on with this existing relationship and hope things would change for good or should I wait and hope for the dream tinuke to arrive? This question may sound stupid tho... Am at cross roads here.. .. Please help me push to front page....
@lalasticalala

Marry her.

Pray about it.

Blackfyre:
Pray about it.

I seriously would... Thanks bro

Bro, the fact that you both have opposing interests and not always in harmony is a big block except you do not plan for progress in your marriage(which i doubt)

It goes beyond loving her to the core as you said and the moments you do play hard is just one of the open windows.
It hasn't gone awful because you aren't married yet (when most people feel they have gotten the license to do what they like to their spouse).

If your level of disagreement outweighs your level of agreement, you don't need a prophet to tell you what to do.
You do not have to what it takes to change anyone except an individual decides to change for better.

Foolishness is when one is seeing a canal just few miles ahead but thinks it will automatically level when you get to the spot.
Do not forget miracle does not happen at the altar.


Note: You also need serious work on your temper(as you stated)

Olami90:
Bro, the fact that you both have opposing interests and not always in harmony is a big block except you do not plan for progress in your marriage(which i doubt)

It goes beyond loving her to the core as you said and the moments you do play hard is just one of the open windows.
It hasn't gone awful because you aren't married yet (when most people feel they have gotten the license to do what they like to their spouse).

If your level of disagreement outweighs your level of agreement, you don't need a prophet to tell you what to do.
You do not have to what it takes to change anyone except an individual decides to change for better.

Foolishness is when one is seeing a canal just few miles ahead but thinks it will automatically level when you get to the spot.
Do not forget miracle does not happen at the altar.


Note: You also need serious work on your temper(as you stated)

Thank you so much, this is good enough for me. Appreciate

Please don't proceed with marriage. I foresee trouble ahead. Two hot-tempered people within the confines of marriage? It's a no-no. Don't try it.

Both of though should go for deliverance, cos there's a demon responsible for hot temper in both of you. Or, both of you can attend anger management classes for a long time before thinking of marriage.

Bigcola:



Thank you so much, this is good enough for me. Appreciate

You are very welcome.

beside it is lalasticlala and not how you typed it up there.

First of all, work on your temper, it will go along way in having peaceful and cordial relationship with those around you. Ask the lady if her name is Atinuke, peradventure she might not know she bear so or maybe the circumstances surrounding her birth gave her that name.. When someone is "Atinuke" she believes she needs to be well pampered, cared for and respected in all ways, hence her temperament when you breached that. moreover pray and confirm from God whether she's the one or not.

Op, please don't go ahead with such plans. Trouble and catastrophe looms

Olami90:
Bro, the fact that you both have opposing interests and not always in harmony is a big block except you do not plan for progress in your marriage(which i doubt)

It goes beyond loving her to the core as you said and the moments you do play hard is just one of the open windows.
It hasn't gone awful because you aren't married yet (when most people feel they have gotten the license to do what they like to their spouse).

If your level of disagreement outweighs your level of agreement, you don't need a prophet to tell you what to do.
You do not have to what it takes to change anyone except an individual decides to change for better.

Foolishness is when one is seeing a canal just few miles ahead but thinks it will automatically level when you get to the spot.
Do not forget miracle does not happen at the altar.

Note: You also need serious work on your temper(as you stated)

I agreed.

People sometimes believed they can change a spouse or spouse-to-be but you need to know that individual behaviour/character is inborn and can be very difficult to change, its like a smoke, no matter how you cover it, it will always find its way out. The signs are already manifesting now, I'll say don't close your eyes to them, dont be blinded by love. This is something I've come to realize as well.

@OP, pray about it, two wrongs can never make a right! This one you met now might be the shadow of the real 'Atinuke' to come. Patience is a virtue.