Traditional vs. Church Weddings: God's View On Them.

To put matters into perspective.

(A). On Sin:

1 John 1:8-9 New International Version (NIV) has this to say to Christians, for it was addressed to the church and not to non Christians:

"If we claim to be without sin, we deceive ourselves and the truth is not in us. If we confess our sins, he is faithful and just and will forgive us our sins and purify us from all unrighteousness."

We should understand here that, when John wrote those words to the brethren, the people also suffered similar challenges as us, today. This should let us understand one thing. That there's no challenge peculiar to any generation - there's nothing new under the sun!

As Christians, we should run to God so to speak, to obtain mercy after acknowledging and confessing our sins.

Please note that a Christian is not a sinner in this case! That piece of scripture was to Christians on the way to personal spiritual growth.

A Christian is not a sinner when s/he acts contrary to the word; no! But, however, a sinner is one who is yet to be born again. Understand the difference, please.

(B). On Marriage:

There's no where in the Bible where White, Church or Court weddings were cited; never, but I stand to be corrected. Where we anchor on as proof when we talk about marriage is the part about Jesus at a Jewish traditional marriage, where He turned water to wine.

For our information, it was a JEWISH wedding! It was how the ethnic people of Jewish extraction conducted their wedding, AND..., we weren't told of the entire wedding proceedings!

To find out how the Jews still conduct marriage, Google about 'Jewish Wedding' to know for yourself. At least, if we must have to copy another's culture, the very least we can do would be to copy right! Google the history of 'White Wedding' as well as 'Court Wedding'. If we must copy, let's do well to get it right!

But as Christians, there's no recording of any "Church or Court wedding" in the new testaments; not one. What we call white or church is actually copied from Europe, and it is ACCORDING to their traditions! Do a word search to understand how it began, and developed after the advent of Christianity in Europe.

Let us do well to know these differences and not be moved about as ignorant people.

(C). On Premarital Sex:

1 Corinthians 7:9
New Living Translation has this to say, and I can't agree less.

"But if they can't control themselves, they should go ahead and marry. It's better to marry than to burn with lust."

This is where the problem of all the sexual perversions single Christians are involved in takes root. They burn with passion, yet, want to have every form of wedding, and in grand style too! They are misled to believe that by until they have their union blessed by a priest or minister in a church building that, that union isn't recognised by God. How sad!

Thank God for Christianity, but, however, that doesn't mean we have the right to make ourselves to be sheepishly misled.

The Word says that "when two or more are gathered, I'm there in their midst." The very essence of marriage is to have both families consent! When both agree and do the needful, God will accept that union!

We should learn to unlearn and relearn what we have been taught to believe hook, line and sinker. God expects it of us - Hosea 4:6.

(D). Where We Get It Twisted:

Ignorance is truly bliss, and when we know so little, we suffer so much.

"Self-help" of any form to relieve ourselves of all sexual tensions as singles while we wait for the right one to led us to marriage, is nothing but torture and self deceit! We are not better off than those who are actually engaging in premarital sex; NO! We are the bad ones here too.

Our scripture reference in 1 Corinthians 7:9 is speaking to all the singles here. It speaks clear on the matter on sexual urges. Sexual urges is not sin, but engaging in it is. It is clear message to you that our bodies are now ready for the next phase of adulthood, and which is child bearing. Let us grow up and walk the reality before us. Wishful thinking is the bedrock of why we have too many old people in church who aren't married. It is not God's plan to see this happen. God desires we meet our soulmates earlier in life. Study the genealogy of Abraham.

(E). Steps To Take:

(1). I would encourage us to stick our heads out of the clouds where they have long been, and study the marriage rites of our lands of nativity.

(2). Stop the silly fantasies and face reality. Sexual perversions either injure our organs, cause sex related crisis for us in marriages, or open us up for attacks from sexual spirits like Baal, Astarte or Asmodee to "marry" and sexually abuse us in dreams and real life.

(3).Know what it takes to be married in your village and do well to fulfill it, if you already have found your mate. The crase about white/court marriages or the obnoxious idea of wearing white on a "special" day is what makes us married, are reasons so many aged and over aged Christians aren't married, or are still engaged in sad acts, even after having found their soulmates.

(4). Paul says it is better to be married than to continue to self-help! (1 Corinthians 7:9, emphasis, mine).

How long will you keep apologising to God over the same matter, when He already provided you with solutions!!

It doesn't have to be an elaborate event! This is part of the problem! Don't copy other person's wedding. You don't have the same marriage destines! Our parents are classical examples of folks who started at their levels.

(5). For those who have found their soulmates, stop self-help and do the needful if you wish to grow in personal spiritual growth. Find out about your wedding rites and fulfill it. God approves it!

(6). And for those of us yet to locate our soulmates, our position is even a lot difficult. However, wisdom would recommend that we work not to self-help. But, if we do find ourselves engaged in it from time to time, then, wisdom recommend that we try making our relationship with God more intimate than before, so to be able to know our partners when you meet them.

(7). The challenge isn't money for most people, but knowing what it is they need to be watchful about locating.

In simple words, I'd say, "look out for someone who's like you, but the opposite sex version of yourself." That's how you know who cuts close to being your soulmate.

In conclusion:

Hebrews 13:4-6;
Marriage is honourable in all, and the bed undefiled: but whoremongers and adulterers God will judge.

The writer of these portions had a very clear understanding of 1Corinthians 7:9, talking about sexual urges.

Grow up and begin the process of knowing what it takes to be married in your village and commence the process. Waiting for "the perfect" moment is nothing short of our ignorance of scriptures. God already gave us solutions in His Word. Ours would be to search them out and apply them.

Wetin be church wedding, na traditional wedding I dey do o

cc:
Lala

Himmler:
Wetin be church wedding, na traditional wedding I dey do o

So you nor wan make Jah bless your union with shildrens abi? lolz