I keep wondering what is the role of a woman in the home, some says its optional for the woman to choose what role she wants to play, some say it depends on the man's financial status and some says it should be an agreement between the two. Now we are talking about domestic and economical contribution of the woman in the home. There should be a basic agreement related to this modern world and the community that we find ourself as Nigerians that will seem resonable and justifiable to both parties, the husband and the wife. Please lets talk about this, I prefer more of females contribution and of course males are welcome to contribute for check and balance.

We can approach this from a Worldly carnal perspective, or from a Biblical perspective - it makes all the difference. As a Christian, i will approach it from a biblical angle -

1. To be a Helpmeet
2. To be a Homemaker
3. To Love, Obey and Submit to her husband
4. To be Faithful to the Husband
5. To bear children
6. To Love, Cherish and Train her children

For the purpose of this discussion, we will focus on the first 3 items as they are most related.

(1)To be a Helpmeet, means to help or assist the man in meeting his responsibilities and carrying out his duties. This may sound easy enough, but it hinges on the premise of a wife accepting her Husband's leadership in the home, and the subsequent submission to her husband.

(2)To be a Homemaker mean to accept responsibility for making a house a home, running and maintaining the home, feeding her family, and generally making the home a pleasant welcoming place for the family to be in. This obviously involves lots of work, cleaning, cooking and general chores.

(3)To Love, Obey and Submit to her husband - The last part of this statement is probably the most contentious, subject to opinion, interpretation, argument, and the cause of many marriage issue. Most wives have no problem loving their husbands, and most will also obey him, and some will even submit. Most however view submission in their own terms, and find the issue of submission - as laid out in the Bible almost abhorrent.
They forget this is a non conditional statement from God to a Wife. It has nothing to do with the husband. It is supposed to be a covenant between you and God; the same way a Husband is supposed to love his wife as Christ loved the Church - Unconditionally. This is also an unconditional statement, and nothing to do with what the wife does, or does not do. It is a command from God to the husband.

There is no point in advancing the argument of how is it possible to submit to a man who does not do his duties. If you cant submit to him, don't marry him. If you marry him, submit to him. The same goes for husbands regarding loving their wives.

To round this off, Husbands and Wives have duties and responsibilities as laid down in the Bible - This is irrespective of who is the breadwinner, or whose job pays the most. However, it is also both their duties to help each other out in their responsibilities - Hence, it is the husbands duty to help his wife with the chores or cooking when she is tired. Likewise, it is also a wife's duty to help the husband to be a provider if he is out of work, or times are lean. These situations however long they last, cannot, and should not, change the original template set out by God

This is not an issue of sexism, chauvinism or fairness. It simply is what the Bible says on the issue. If you are a Christian, you should believe and practise it. If you are not, you can do as you want. As a Christian, You cannot cherry pick the parts of the Bible that suit you, and argue, disagree, then discard the parts that don't.

@romeo4real, thanks 4 ur contribution. looking out for more