Dear jzhane,

Please advice me. I am a single mother of two children. It didnt work out with my baby daddy. We dated for seven years,he got me pregnant twice yet he didnt want to marry me. Anyway,I have moved on from him. I am now dating a man I met last year.

This man says he likes me and wants to marry me but my concern is that I dont think he cares about my children the way I want him to care. For instance,since we have been dating,I noticed he does not like to buy things for my children. When he visits me,he does not like to play with the children and the children (‘3 and 5 years old) have noticed that he really doesnt like them.
When I spoke to him about how he relates with my children,he apologizes saying he has never been with children before,that he will change and learn but so far,I dont think he is making enough effort. One Saturday,he visited and I asked him to help my son do his homework and he said he is very tired. Meanwhile,he was busy watching TV.

I decided to give him a year to observe if he will change but he....Read full story from:

https://livelystones.com.ng/will-my-husband-to-be-ever-love-my-children-from-my-boyfriend/

some women (and bloggers with their BS stories) are not normal.... so you have 2 kids and you start dating a new man, and you expect him to automatically play with them lil bastards like they were his own?! haba! give him some time, as even your kids wouldnt feel him like that.

btw...

MrBrownJay1:
some women (and bloggers with their BS stories) are not normal.... so you have 2 kids and you start dating a new man, and you expect him to automatically play with them lil bastards like they were his own?! haba! give him some time, as even your kids wouldnt feel him like that.

btw...

Not even one; two. After the first child you did not remember you're still single? He may not really hate them, but they won't get equal treatment with his own kid(s).

Why are you in haste to remarry?
You could have been working to take care of the children to certain age, say 10 and 12 first. With this they would have had little idea of what life is and be able to adjust in your new home.
It takes a highly understandable and kind man or woman to accept another person's children as their own.
You need to give him time maybe he will come to like them. He still have his own children that you will bear him to cater for. Since their dad is alive let him be taking responsibility on his own children. If you cant cope with the new man's behaviour around your children, then you know what to do.

Give him sometime, I understand how he feels. Don't force your children on him or else he run away.

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