If you spend any amount of time engaging others on relationships and marriage, you may get the sense that there is only one acceptable kind of wife. She looks a certain way , behaves a certain way , and is great at certain things. Any woman who does not fit into this mould is not “wife material ”.
In reality , nothing could be farther from the truth . There are many different kinds of women and, as such , many kinds of wives. No one “type ” is superior to the other .
You hear “a wife should be this ” or “this is what wives do” with little or no room to acknowledge the fact that, even though there are basic similarities , women ( and wives) are not all the same .
Some women like to have guests over, cook and entertain . Others prefer their solitude and want to keep their home as a private haven . In the same vein, some women are domestic goddesses who enjoy doing housework , while others prefer to pay someone to handle the housekeeping .
Some women are high achievers on the path to being shining stars and dominating their industries . Whereas the right husband will be proud of her, she will not be valuable in the eyes of a man only looking for a wife to cook , clean and wash for him . Then, there is the woman for whom feeling secure is the number one priority . She wants to marry a man who knows to provide for and take care of her , even if she is also bringing money to the table .

A woman may particularly like the finer things in life and will prefer for her man to provide them for her . A man who marries her without understanding this may label her materialistic.
Many assume that all women are romantic , but this is not so . Some women excel at being realistic, prudent and practical . What they lack in romance and affection , they make up for in capability and shrewdness . A man who does not prize these qualities will keep comparing her to other women . But , this same woman will be an asset to a man who needs and appreciates her great qualities .
Not all wives can skillfully get great bargains or find cheaper alternatives of good quality. There are women who will take excellent care of their man and run a home as long as money is no object . They simply don’t know how to budget or be frugal. There is certainly a kind of man they have no business marrying.
“Wife material ” is not a popsicle mould into which every woman must pour herself.

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