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Just Found Out My Dad Watches Porn. What Do I Do? by sanbells(f): 9:32pm On May 23, 2018
It was last Saturday. My dad left his phone to go barb his hair outside. I was with my mom in the parlor. I found my dad's phone placed on the table. I picked it up to go through it. Suddenly,out of curiosity (I'm a very curious person) ,I decided to go through his browsing history (I thought,lemme see wah the old man browses about). And then I saw it. I wish I never got that idea to go through his phone. Buh I did and now I regret it. Several kinds of porn site ranging from porn hub to unimaginable things I don't want to think about. I was shocked to find that 90% of his history page was visited porn sites. Even more shocking was the fact that the most recent one was visited that evening,few hours before I saw everything.
Then I thought (lemme check his downloads) . Oh lord! 98% of the old man's download was porn! I also noticed he deletes them immediately after watching coz all the files were missing.
I really don't know what to feel or do. I've been disturbed and traumatized since Saturday. Now whenever I look at his face,all I can think of is ( You watch porn, gosh!).
I even saw in his history page where he was asking " how to quit porn", buh after that he still continued visiting the sites. Even as at yesterday.
I feel disgusted when I see him now. To worsen the matter, my dad and I never had a pleasant relationship,despite that I always wished we had that sort of "father-daughter" relationship,but it wasn't him. He's always been the mean kind and I've sort of gotten used to that. It's so bad to the extent that I find it awkward calling my dad just to know how he's doing,that's so not us. He's the kind I only talk to when it's really really necessary.
So to find that my dad, who's always so mean, always acting like he never makes mistakes and rains down on me when I make a common mistake, always acting responsible outside and pushes me to act responsibly too just so I won't embarrass him, the man who makes people think that he's a good father outside buh doesn't really know anything about his daughter or any of his children...Is that kind of a person really gets me even more mad at him.
It feels like I just caught him cheating on my mom though that's not the case. I feel like my mom doesn't deserve this (I'm so protective of her by the way,I sometimes feel I can die for her). She's so strong and prayerful and tries to draw us together through prayers buh to find that my dad does such an immoral act makes me hate him more.
Some of you guys might say porn is not bad. Well your entitled to your own belief. It doesn't change the fact that I feel disturbed and traumatized to find that my dad is a porn viewer. It just doesn't feel right.
Please guys. I need your opinions on this issue.
Re: Just Found Out My Dad Watches Porn. What Do I Do? by SUPERPACK: 9:34pm On May 23, 2018
wonders shall never end, when did it become a crime for an adult to watch porn again, see were ur poke nose have led you to, i wonder what you will do when u come back from work/school and meet him nacking a lady doggy style in their matrimonial bed, mean while i prefer people that watch porn to those that cheat.

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Re: Just Found Out My Dad Watches Porn. What Do I Do? by troublemakea(m): 9:35pm On May 23, 2018
flog him
thank me later
Re: Just Found Out My Dad Watches Porn. What Do I Do? by Oritzy: 9:39pm On May 23, 2018
cheesy
You are now spying your dad's secret life now abi??

It's okay !!!

Re: Just Found Out My Dad Watches Porn. What Do I Do? by funkyjms: 9:39pm On May 23, 2018
You should care less about that.
Re: Just Found Out My Dad Watches Porn. What Do I Do? by Nobody: 9:47pm On May 23, 2018
Sorry, you cannot un-see or un-know it, since you refused to mind your business.....accept your new knowledge
Re: Just Found Out My Dad Watches Porn. What Do I Do? by kiddoiLL(m): 9:48pm On May 23, 2018
You saw the history where he was looking up how to quit porn and it means nothing to you?
Your dad has an addiction problem and he's trying to get out of it, and trust me you don't push him away or make him feel like he's alone in his world. He's old enough to handle himself, he watches porn and you ain't the person who told him to search how to quit it, he'll find his way back. you're not even thankful it's not text messages he's been sending to girls or thankful he doesn't have a mistress, rather he sticks to his phone in his room.
Stop looking at him with hate or annoyance, Put him in prayers, and hope for the best. He'll find his way back

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Re: Just Found Out My Dad Watches Porn. What Do I Do? by HarunaWest(m): 9:53pm On May 23, 2018
sanbells:
It was last Saturday. My dad left his phone to go barb his hair outside. I was with my mom in the parlor. I found my dad's phone placed on the table. I picked it up to go through it. Suddenly,out of curiosity (I'm a very curious person) ,I decided to go through his browsing history (I thought,lemme see wah the old man browses about). And then I saw it. I wish I never got that idea to go through his phone. Buh I did and now I regret it. Several kinds of porn site ranging from porn hub to unimaginable things I don't want to think about. I was shocked to find that 90% of his history page was visited porn sites. Even more shocking was the fact that the most recent one was visited that evening,few hours before I saw everything.
Then I thought (lemme check his downloads) . Oh lord! 98% of the old man's download was porn! I also noticed he deletes them immediately after watching coz all the files were missing.
I really don't know what to feel or do. I've been disturbed and traumatized since Saturday. Now whenever I look at his face,all I can think of is ( You watch porn, gosh!).
I even saw in his history page where he was asking " how to quit porn", buh after that he still continued visiting the sites. Even as at yesterday.
I feel disgusted when I see him now. To worsen the matter, my dad and I never had a pleasant relationship,despite that I always wished we had that sort of "father-daughter" relationship,but it wasn't him. He's always been the mean kind and I've sort of gotten used to that. It's so bad to the extent that I find it awkward calling my dad just to know how he's doing,that's so not us. He's the kind I only talk to when it's really really necessary.
So to find that my dad, who's always so mean, always acting like he never makes mistakes and rains down on me when I make a common mistake, always acting responsible outside and pushes me to act responsibly too just so I won't embarrass him, the man who makes people think that he's a good father outside buh doesn't really know anything about his daughter or any of his children...Is that kind of a person really gets me even more mad at him.
It feels like I just caught him cheating on my mom though that's not the case. I feel like my mom doesn't deserve this (I'm so protective of her by the way,I sometimes feel I can die for her). She's so strong and prayerful and tries to draw us together through prayers buh to find that my dad does such an immoral act makes me hate him more.
Some of you guys might say porn is not bad. Well your entitled to your own belief. It doesn't change the fact that I feel disturbed and traumatized to find that my dad is a porn viewer. It just doesn't feel right.
Please guys. I need your opinions on this issue.
In the year 1997..i discovered my dad's porn collections... All video cassettes ( d good old days).... I made sure i watched all of em about a dozen and inculcates the true art of Kamasutra. My current sexperience is from that Singular experience... My dad is Legend

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Re: Just Found Out My Dad Watches Porn. What Do I Do? by sanbells(f): 9:56pm On May 23, 2018
ShyCypher:
Direct your anger at your irresponsible mom usin' religion to starve him of what he paid good money for.

STDs, oloshos, impregnation of a minor, domestic abuse etc are loadin' in your family this year.

Embrace it
You can say anything here,curse,do whatever you like buh calling my mom irresponsible is what I won't take. Be sensitive to people's feelings. I came here to seek ideas,not to have you insult my mother. You don't even have to type anything,you could have just passed on if you had nothing important to say

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Re: Just Found Out My Dad Watches Porn. What Do I Do? by sanbells(f): 9:58pm On May 23, 2018
HarunaWest:

In the year 1997..i discovered my dad's porn collections... All video cassettes ( d good old days).... I made sure i watched all of em about a dozen and inculcates the true art of Kamasutra. My current sexperience is from that Singular experience... My dad is Legend
I think the way guys reason is different from the way we girls think. We're very sensitive to things so please don't blame me if I sound corny
Re: Just Found Out My Dad Watches Porn. What Do I Do? by sanbells(f): 9:58pm On May 23, 2018
HarunaWest:

In the year 1997..i discovered my dad's porn collections... All video cassettes ( d good old days).... I made sure i watched all of em about a dozen and inculcates the true art of Kamasutra. My current sexperience is from that Singular experience... My dad is Legend
I think the way guys reason is different from the way we girls think. We're very sensitive to things so please don't blame me if I sound corny
Re: Just Found Out My Dad Watches Porn. What Do I Do? by HarunaWest(m): 10:03pm On May 23, 2018
tongue
Re: Just Found Out My Dad Watches Porn. What Do I Do? by HarunaWest(m): 10:04pm On May 23, 2018
sanbells:
I think the way girls reason is different from the way we girls think. We're very sensitive to things so please don't blame me if I sound corny
my dear 95% of men watch porn.. d old folks are worse.... if you have a brother check his browser history, if you have a boyfriend monitor his browser history... men are slaves to sex so dnt blame us.... If we aint getting the real thing, we prefer to view it with a vaseline by the side..... See the positives in your dad.. am sure you dont know that your momma have gat secrets too
Re: Just Found Out My Dad Watches Porn. What Do I Do? by heffem(m): 10:08pm On May 23, 2018
ShyCypher:
Direct your anger at your irresponsible mom usin' religion to starve him of what he paid good money for.

STDs, oloshos, impregnation of a minor, domestic abuse etc are loadin' in your family this year.

Embrace it
Woli Agba! kilode?!
Re: Just Found Out My Dad Watches Porn. What Do I Do? by Fahrenhite(m): 10:24pm On May 23, 2018
Firstly, you invaded your dad's privacy by going through his phone and worst of all his browsing history ( wetin carry your mind go check him browser history? ) My opinion from reading your post is that deep down you needed something to ridicule him in your eyes.

Secondly, Porn is like a coin, it has its good and the bad side.

Lastly, who are you to judge your father for watching porn? Tell me you are perfect and there isn't a sin you have committed or locked in your heart which you cannot share.

I hope you are single and abstaining because premarital sex is fornication and fornication is a sin.

To Answer your question on what can be done

The answer is you can't do anything but pray for him. You can't confront your dad about the deleted porn videos name you saw on his downloads history or tell your mom how her husband is watching porn every day. Which by the way, she is still going to tell to your dad.

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