In order to grow, you need to learn to cut off everything that’s holding you back. And one very hard pill to swallow is your own toxicity. It is not always the other person, perhaps it is you. Perhaps you are the one hindering your own growth.
Have you seen a person who doesn’t work hard but blames his failures on his village people? Many times, we are like that because blaming people is much easier than accepting our faults.
Sometimes, your series of failed relationships is not the fault of your partners. Sometimes, your inability to keep a job is not the fault of your bosses. Sometimes, your inability to keep a steady friendship is not because you meet bad people all the time. Sometimes, you are the toxic one.
Your mind can alter your self-worth and self-image and make you believe that you are a saint despite the fact that you are not. You just have to learn to be honest with your self and realize that you can hurt people too and you can push people away whether it is your intention or not.
Sometimes, people leave us because of how we treat them, and we might not be aware or perhaps we are but are unwilling to accept it.
Recognize your own toxicity habits and work on them.

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