I'm in love with this dude and he's gettin married soon. The thing is that I've not told him how i feel cos i don't want him to stop the wedding, which he is ready to do if i tell him my feelings. But i don't want to ruin someone else's happiness. what should i do?

why do i smell cat piss in here?

you love him ,you have not told him about it, but you know if you tell him he will stop his wedding for you just like that? 

yet you don't want to ruin nobody abi?

sortin dey smell here!

tell us the full story jor! There is more to this!

ikamefa:

why do i smell cat piss in here?

you love him ,you have not told him about it, but you know if you tell him he will stop his wedding for you just like that? 

yet you don't want to ruin nobody abi?

sortin dey smell here!

tell us the full story jor! There is more to this!

EXACTLY  DEAR!!

what do you now expect us to tell you, tell him about your feelings for him and stop the wedding??
or you expect us to tell you not tell him ??

my dear i guess you already know that whichever way you choose to go about it, someone will definitely end up hurt. Whos's it going to be??
you just have to choose that which you'll be more comfortable with the consequences/outcome

now the impression you're making seems to be that the guy also is in love with you but is marrying this one out of . . what do i call it, pity?? last resort??

well if that is the case then i do think you owe the lady a right of knowing what she's putting herself into as a fellow woman what good will it do her anyway if she's married to a guy that is lusting over another lady

BTW why did you on the other hand have to wait so long before your big confession??what stopped you from letting the cat out of the bag all this while and save all parties so much pain, dissappointment and grief.

No matter what, if you guys are in love with each other then there's no guarantee that the feelings will varnish after the wedding, so where does that leave the other lady?, please let the woman go find her man before its too late instead of giving her such high hopes, anything done before the wedding is not too late

poor lady! my heart really goes out to her ooh but one second ooh what makes you think this lady is not his choice of an ideal wife??

Complete bullshit!!! Leave him to marry the love of his life and you go and look for your own husband.

If he wanted to marry you, he would have left the other lady long before Jesus was crucified.

Ummm. . .stop thinking of how to ruin some people's beautiful life.It's evil! How long have you known him that he doesn't know how you feel about him and will instantly cancel his wedding because of u? Like duhhhhhhhhhh!!!

Abeg, tell me something real and not this nursery ryhmes.

Radiant:

Complete bullshit!!! Leave him to marry the love of his life and you go and look for your own husband.

If he wanted to marry you, he would have left the other lady long before Jesus was crucified.

Ummm. . .stop thinking of how to ruin some people's beautiful life.It's evil! How long have you known him that he doesn't know how you feel about him and will instantly cancel his wedding because of u? Like duhhhhhhhhhh!!!

Abeg, tell me something real and not this nursery ryhmes.

i agree with you too

just wish the girl will tell us the whole story

what makes her think he'll marry her if she told him?

why he would leave the girl he's planning to marry for her??

the honest truth like ikamefa said, is that something incredibly fishy is going on here cos each time i read the story, i get a whole different meaning to it.

@ poster please fill in the missing gaps.

I almost fell off my chair when she said he'll cancel his wedding because of her

Am sorry but this story is untrue and doesn't sound right at all.

girly girl:

I'm in love with this dude and he's gettin married soon. The thing is that I've not told him how i feel because i don't want him to stop the wedding, which he is ready to do if i tell him my feelings. But i don't want to ruin someone else's happiness. what should i do?

so do u really think he will stop the wedding all becos u are in Love with him

First of all, have u dated this GUY before
And while will u be in Love with someone else knowing his getting married to another woman
Why do u think he will stop the wedding for u

All this doesn't make no type of sense

Omo, leave the chick jare. She's prolly a juvenile.

Maybe she doesn't know what she's talkin about. Guess she doesn't really know what she has for the guy love or lust.

yeawee:

Maybe she knows what she's talkin about. Guess she doesn't really know what she has for the guy love or lust.

You don't make sense.

tELL the guy first and see if he will cancel the wedding or not. SHIO

mon, y'all have bn quite harsh wiv ur responses 2 ds chic. sha i dnt blame y'all cuz her story doesnt make an iota of sense, i mean ds is a guy we're talkin abt here.they do wot they jolly well please so i fnk d only reason he's not wiv u is cuz he RILI wants 2 b wiv d oda chic. sorry gurl better lk nxt tym!

wishful thinking.

how about try telling him how you feel and see if he will leave another girl for you. The downside to that is, he might very well leave you for another girl.