I am resident in  the U.S and have wife and kid in naija, since I've traveled few months permanently to the U.S, my wife has not being the same again, she is deteriorating in thought and can't even handle her business again all in the name of my absence.

Though, am trying to get my foot here in the state, i got my residency b4 we got married, its not easy 4 me leaving her and my kid behind, but am doing it 4 them.

Pls, any advice to help me overcome these challenges cos she not making things easy 4 me here cos am worried about her comment and the way i heard she has leaned. The immigration law here is wicked cos u can only filled 4 her and she will be in the waiting list for years, or when i get my citizenship, then they can come ASAP. Its takes 5 good years to attain citizenship and waiting period might be up to 5 years also but at least 3 years.

I have talk to her, and all sort but to no avail.

Pls, i need positive advice on how to handle her concerns, i really love her and miss her dearly.

I do not blame for wife for being so worried.

Many men have been known to change once they relocate overseas under the excuse of ''i am doing it for them so as to secure them a better future financially, etc'' and years later, they refuse to file for the wife and kids in nigeria to join them even AFTER they have gotten their citizenship.

If you really love/miss your wife as you claim, then get her to apply for a US visit visa and provide her with all the necessary supporting documents. That way she can come down to the US often to see you.

funkybaby:

I do not blame for wife for being so worried.

Many men have been known to change once they relocate overseas under the excuse of ''i am doing it for them so as to secure them a better future financially, etc'' and years later, they refuse to file for the wife and kids in nigeria to join them even AFTER they have gotten their citizenship.

If you really love/miss your wife as you claim, then get her to apply for a US visit visa and provide her with all the necessary supporting documents. That way she can come down to the US often to see you.

Have to agree with u on that.