Dyt:

he is not all that writes

Acidosis:
Women who want to raise shoulders and compete with the man usually end up in this manner. During your years of dating, you must have shown tendencies of independence (trying to be at par with your man on bills related issues). Some of you even go as far as saying you want to split the bills on Nairaland just to appear "attractive".

Acidosis:
Women who want to raise shoulders and compete with the man usually end up in this manner. During your years of dating, you must have shown tendencies of independence (trying to be at par with your man on bills related issues). Some of you even go as far as saying you want to split the bills on Nairaland just to appear "attractive".

Until everyone returns to the core ethics of marriage, we will never get it right.

If your man do not see himself as the sole provider in your courtship days, nothing will change when you're married. The core word is here is courtship not boyfriend/girlfriend relationship though.

As regards the sex, I am speechless reason being that fat/chubby (reasonable fat), for me, is sexy and attractive. I would never understand why some men dislike that.

Frankly speaking, I think you should be more worried about what your marriage has become (from love to hate affair). How a man would boldly say to his wife such condescending words is beyond my understanding. I would never even say such to an annoying ex, an annoying fellow or enemy. I'm always very careful with how I describe people based on looks and appearances.

In sum, I think your hubby has some (more) underlying issues such as lousiness and arrogance (these issues are most likely innate, which you've, over the years, ignored).

Deal with the aforementioned issues ma'am, and sex (should be the least of your worries now) would come naturally.

carammel:

Are you saying a woman should not help her husband with finances? Like she should leave all the financial burden of the home to the man while she keeps her own money? Or rather, she shouldn't work and always ask for everything from her man?

Ishilove:
Can a man just change overnight?

Madam let us hear his side of the story

yettymuse:
No! But a man be a man! Allow him.. There's a reason he is called A MAN! Let him do his responsibility which is PROVIDING! Support if need be. A lot of women have misplaced the priority so as to stay WOKE!

They do the bill splitting and 50/50 even before the conjugal vows.. They are the first to bring out debit cards to pay for dates and movies. The moment they tie the knots, reality sets in and they are faced with real responsibilities, they begin to scream 'blue murder'.

yettymuse:
No! But a man be a man! Allow him.. There's a reason he is called A MAN! Let him do his responsibility which is PROVIDING! Support if need be. A lot of women have misplaced the priority so as to stay WOKE!

They do the bill splitting and 50/50 even before the conjugal vows.. They are the first to bring out debit cards to pay for dates and movies. The moment they tie the knots, reality sets in and they are faced with real responsibilities, they begin to scream 'blue murder'.true talk ooo.some take it for guaranteed.

mrAMG:
Madam! Go and start working out and stop complaining.

That you’re pregnant isn’t an excuse not to work out and keep fit. There are routines for pregnant women.

I don’t know what’s with Nigerian women thinking pregnancy is an automatic ticket to get fat anyhow

inioluwajoe:
my husband and I have been together for six years now , married for just nine months. But the past 4 months my husband has not touched me, the last time we tried to get intimate he could not even get it up.
All he does now is complain about how he regrets marrying me,how fat I look(am pregnant), how I should go out and look for money( I work as a teacher), but due to my condition I stopped doing extra lessons so I just depend on my salary.
whenever I ask him what I did he won't be able to come up with anything meaningful. He will just tell me that am a liability to him and not helping him. This is a man that I split the bill 50/ 50 with. I used to work extra hours and come at night as at the time I was 4 months pregnant. it just.
A lot of things are happening but what is annoying me most is that he says he will frustrate me until I will pack up and leave the house..
I just want to rid myself of any attachment I have to him. put to bed and get out of his life . I can't be begging for intimacy from my husband.

inioluwajoe:
my husband and I have been together for six years now , married for just nine months. But the past 4 months my husband has not touched me, the last time we tried to get intimate he could not even get it up.
All he does now is complain about how he regrets marrying me,how fat I look(am pregnant), how I should go out and look for money( I work as a teacher), but due to my condition I stopped doing extra lessons so I just depend on my salary.
whenever I ask him what I did he won't be able to come up with anything meaningful. He will just tell me that am a liability to him and not helping him. This is a man that I split the bill 50/ 50 with. I used to work extra hours and come at night as at the time I was 4 months pregnant. it just.
A lot of things are happening but what is annoying me most is that he says he will frustrate me until I will pack up and leave the house..
I just want to rid myself of any attachment I have to him. put to bed and get out of his life . I can't be begging for intimacy from my husband.

yettymuse:
No! But a man be a man! Allow him.. There's a reason he is called A MAN! Let him do his responsibility which is PROVIDING! Support if need be. A lot of women have misplaced the priority so as to stay WOKE!

They do the bill splitting and 50/50 even before the conjugal vows.. They are the first to bring out debit cards to pay for dates and movies. The moment they tie the knots, reality sets in and they are faced with real responsibilities, they begin to scream 'blue murder'.

carammel:

I actually thought men love women that can pay bills, women that they can be sure would take care of things whether they are present or absent.

Everything a man says is contradictory, " I want an independent woman, a woman who can also be a provider , give one to him, he begins to feel threatened and just assumes every of her actions are because she also provides for the home, if she says one thing, he would term it to mean that she is disrespectful simply because she is a provider. She will always be too careful so that she won't be termed "disrespectful.

Give the same man a woman who just wants be a homemaker, all she is interested in is to do domestic chores, take care of the kids while the man gets to be the sole provider, he begins to see her as a liability, a lazy and dumb woman who cannot even handle anything finance behind his back. The same woman dares not talk much, all we will hear is, I spend my hard earned money on you, you had better lick my feet.

Rosarie:
pls shutup.diiferrnt preggy different body.my first baby I work like no man business.second I was very lazy.always tired.third always sick and no strength.it differs.u think is easy.pls quiet abeg

inioluwajoe:

All he does now is complain about how he regrets marrying me,how fat I look(am pregnant)

carammel:

I actually thought men love women that can pay bills, women that they can be sure would take care of things whether they are present or absent.

Everything a man says is contradictory, " I want an independent woman, a woman who can also be a provider , give one to him, he begins to feel threatened and just assumes every of her actions are because she also provides for the home, if she says one thing, he would term it to mean that she is disrespectful simply because she is a provider. She will always be too careful so that she won't be termed "disrespectful.

Give the same man a woman who just wants be a homemaker, all she is interested in is to do domestic chores, take care of the kids while the man gets to be the sole provider, he begins to see her as a liability, a lazy and dumb woman who cannot even handle anything finance behind his back. The same woman dares not talk much, all we will hear is, I spend my hard earned money on you, you had better lick my feet.

Ranchhoddas:
I'm sure you have not experienced any of this crap that you've written. Your narrative is merely a product of your flights of fancy combined with the rubbish you read on this forum.

carammel:
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Pieces of thrash from a fellow who left his brain in 2018, grow up and contribute constructively.

Dyt:

he is not all that writes

bobobooge:



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