Hi house, I will like to seek the opinion of matured and responsible nairalanders. A very close friend of mine, broke up with her fiance yesterday. Though, for almost 2 weeks, she's been avoiding the guy's call, but yesterday, she decided to visit him and tell her she is no longer interested. Before you crucify her, lemme tell u the reasons she gave.
First, she attends redeem church while the man was brought up in deeper life, hence they have so many differences in terms of belief. They've been dating for more than six months and already , the parent of the man knows her. The man, due to his religious background gave some rules. He told her that, if they eventually gets married, the lady will no longer be wearing trousers, no mini skirt, no make-up, not even powder, no jewelries. I asked why she accepted the conditions in the first place, but her reason was, she felt , if she can be able to convince the man, based on her behaviour, her care, her faithfulness, her committment and so on, perhaps, the man would overlook those things and allow her do those things moderately. But really, recently, they had a major discussion, and the man assured my friend that, no matter what, those rules are laws, that his wife must adhere to. She thought about this issue for so many days and finally decided to break up with him because she said she can't stop those things, she says she feel comfortable doing those things . My friend is not the flashy type and not the kind of ladies that wear low waist trousers or tiny hand tops, she is a decent girl to the core, I can attest to that.
She broke up with her fiance yesterday and to my greatest surprise, today, on the front page of my facebook profile is the status of my friend's fiance, he changed his relationship status to 'single' from 'in a relationship' and also changed what he is looking for,I said to myself, not so fast!
I just wanna ask house, was my friend wrong to have expressed her feelings to the man rather than pretend to accept those things, and why would the man change his status immediately, in less than 24 hours?

doesnt seem like either of them felt any sparks for the other, so maybe its just as well.

They are no longer together. Leave it that way.

DISCIPLE: What kind of a person should I get married to?

MASTER: Well, Be sure you don’t marry a saint.

DISCIPLE: “Why ever not?”

MASTER: “Because it is the surest way to make yourself a martyr.”


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When you are able to live out ALL [/b]of your [b]ideals, it becomes DIFFICULT [/b]for other people to live with [b]YOU. . .

The marriage would not have succeeded .A broken engagement is better than broken home

Amos 3:3
3 Can two walk together, except they be agreed?

1 John 2:19
19 They went out from our number, but they did not[ really] belong to us; for if they had been of us, they would have remained with us. But[ they withdrew] that it might be plain that they all are not of us.

Interdenomination marriage has it's own problem. Better to marry from your church. Same Jesus but different revelation.

Joagbaje:

The marriage would not have succeeded .A broken engagement is better than broken home

Amos 3:3
3 Can two walk together, except they be agreed?

1 John 2:19
19 They went out from our number, but they did not[ really] belong to us; for if they had been of us, they would have remained with us. But[ they withdrew] that it might be plain that they all are not of us.

Interdenomination marriage has it's own problem. Better to marry from your church. Same Jesus but different revelation.

You have come again.

Better to seperate before being joined together than to start looking for seperation after being joined together! I wonder what your friend's fiance was looking for in a 'non-deeper life' girl in the first place; and your friend too! There are plenty of beautiful women in deeper life (who have been brought up to dress up the way he likes) and likewise plenty of eligible bachelors (who would have no qualms about her wearing trousers) in RCCG!

One mistake to make in marriage is to marry someone hoping you'll be able to change them! Why marry someone who believes a woman should conduct herself in a certain manner when you are not that kind of woman at all? They'll end up quarelling everyday about her not conforming to his picture of the good woman!

How person go see fire wan go enter am? I hope they stay away from each other; they will be saving a lot of people a lot of trouble!

she did the best thing

YOUNG MAN: “Do you remember those wedding cards I ordered last week? Well, I was wondering if it is too late to make a few changes in them.”

SHOP ATTENDANT: “Give me the new information, sir, and I shall check.”

YOUNG MAN: “O.K. It’s a different [/b]date, a [b]different [/b]church and a[b] different woman.”

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It is quite impossible to be happily married to another [/b]if one does riot first get a [b]divorce [/b]from [b]oneself.