1. Stop acting like the battle is won in pursuing and getting to know your wife. Have fun together, just like you used to do before your wedding.

2. If your wife is a stay-at-home mom, stop treating her like her work during the day is somehow less strenuous or less important than yours.

3. Stop coming home from work and plopping in front of the television for the night, leaving your wife to bear the responsibility for everything else going on in the home.

4. Stop working so much. Find a healthy balance between work and family. Your wife would rather have you than a big house, nice car, etc.

5. Stop acting like you’re listening when you’re really watching TV.

6. Stop allowing the SPIRITUAL LEADERSHIP of the family to default to your wife.

7. Stop being passive when it comes to disciplining and training your kids.

8. Stop saying you know and understand what your wife is saying or feeling when you haven’t even listened to what she has to say.

9. Stop being a closed book. Open up to your wife. Don’t be afraid to show emotion.

10. Stop allowing your role as leader in the home to be an excuse for selfish behavior. Don’t forget that a true leader also SERVES.

11. Stop dishonoring your wife by criticizing her in front of your children/relatives or in public.

12. When you wife irritates you, don’t answer right away. Instead count to 10 and remember that she is a gift from God.

13. Stop using your size and strength and anger to intimidate your wife and children.

14. Stop using the word “divorce” in your vocabulary.

15. Don’t shy away from difficult conversations with your wife.

16. Stop saying you’ll do something and then procrastinating.

17. Don’t purchase any major item without first discussing it with your wife.

18. Don’t allow your eyes to linger on beautiful women who pass by. You can’t help the first look; it’s that second, longer look that you need to avoid. (And if your wife is with you, don’t lie to her and say you didn’t see that woman. Just admit you looked.)

19. Stop thinking, I know more than my wife. You and your wife will each have more knowledge than the other in certain areas.

20. Don’t assume you know what your wife is thinking. Ask her how she is feeling and why.

21. When your wife tells you about a problem she’s having, don’t immediately try to solve it. She may just need you to listen to her.

22. Stop the sarcasm. You may be trying to sound funny, but you’re only cutting down your wife, belittling her.

23. Stop treating your wife like a child. Remember that God has given her a wealth of experience and information that you need.

24. Stop acting like God and trying to control your wife.

25. Stop pointing out her mistakes and asking for explanations. Doing these things can make her feel like a failure.

26. Never casually or disrespectfully talk to other guys about sex with your wife and NEVER talk to your wife about your conquests.

27. Stop telling your wife that she is supposed to “submit” to you. If she is not following you, that means you’re not leading her as Christ loves the church.

28. Stop feeding your sexual desires from any source other than your wife - SIMPLY PUT - DO NOT CHEAT.

29. Don’t be alone with any woman who is not your wife or related to you.

30. Stop discussing deep-level issues with a woman who is not your wife or related to you - NOTHING LIKE BEST FRIEND with another woman, or becoming a "SHOULDER to LEAN on for another female going through challenges".

31. Stop deceiving your wife about your finances.

32. Don’t look up old girlfriends on Facebook or ANY OTHER Social media platform.

33. Stop putting a number on how often you should enjoy sexual intimacy.

34. Stop acting as if you have a GPS programmed into your brain. Before you go somewhere with your wife, get the right address and find out how to get there. If you are lost, don’t hesitate to get directions—from your smartphone map, even from a person - LET YOUR WIFE KNOW WHERE YOU ARE at everypoint, its not control - its wisdom - if anything bad happens, your family would know where to start looking from - especially in these end times.

35. Don’t make fun of your wife to your friends, inlaws or your extended family.

36. Don’t allow guy-only activities (like playing football, golf, basketball, etc.) to rob you of leisure time with your wife and kids.

37. Stop expecting your wife to do all the housework.

38. Stop saying, “Honey … can you get the kids to be quiet?” when the kids are being monsters. Get up and go quiet them down yourself! - THEY ARE ALSO YOUR CHILDREN

39. Stop putting all your stuff in the laundry basket and then acting as if you “did the laundry.”

40. Stop acting like buying groceries/foodstuff and cooking is a meal for the family is equal to fighting in the first world war.

Some will say that lists like these are “too negative”—that this is an example of “trashing” men. Here’s how I see it: If you are coaching your son’s sports team, you’re going to teach him a lot of positives—how to hit, how to throw, what base he should throw to when there are runners on first and second. But you also will need to get him to stop doing things—like swinging at bad pitches, or jogging to first base instead of sprinting.

Sometimes we need to know what not to do.

https://www.familylife.com/articles/topics/marriage/staying-married/husbands/40-things-husbands-should-stop-doing/

If only most Nigerian men would Heed this

Excuse me ma! Can you please elaborate on the number 6? Thanks

ayobarmy:
Excuse me ma! Can you please elaborate on the number 6? Thanks

I think she meant that he shouldn't leave the wife to be the prayer warrior of the house alone. They should pray together.


Ndi Madam OP...the thing too long nau

ayobarmy:
Excuse me ma! Can you please elaborate on the number 6? Thanks

The husband should be the priest of his home. The practice of wives leading the prayer altar, more spiritually conscious etc. is not right.

keepingmum:
https://www.familylife.com/articles/topics/marriage/staying-married/husbands/40-things-husbands-should-stop-doing/

Very very educative post.

hmmm.

bukatyne:


The husband should be the priest of his home. The practice of wives leading the prayer altar, more spiritually conscious etc. is not right.

Thanks, but this your list eeeehnnnn

ayobarmy:


Thanks, but this your list eeeehnnnn

Every good thing requires work , alot of time, effort, sleepless nights, determination and zeal - ask the successful billionaires and even very successful individuals around you -----how much more, your marriage.

ayobarmy:


Thanks, but this your list eeeehnnnn

My list ke?

I am not the OP and she got it from a source.

bukatyne:


My list ke?

I am not the OP and she got it from a source.

Ma binu Jare....

lol instead of my wife to act right and not irritate me, you are saying I should count 10 seconds, why she no count the 10 seconds ago? Smh


25. she needs a pat on the head for making a mistake? no wonder why people keep doing the same thing, hoping to be encouraged....nonsense

@30 coming from the gender who says men are insecure

this list is crap

Very stupid list. So we should pet you simply because you got a hole between your legs?

32. Don’t look up old girlfriends on Facebook or ANY OTHER Social media platform.


Tell this to your fellow women who spend all day stalking ex-boyfriends on social media (fantasizing on what could've been) while comparing their pitiful existence with the fake lifestyle portrayed by their "friends".

40 and 2 are kind of contradicting themselves. Why should it be over-valued when a female does it and under-valued when a male does it?

In reality, the opposite of 20 is what they want you to do otherwise you are tagged as incompetent.

25 is wrong. Instead, they should be pointed out with care and with the aim of correction in mind.

33 is also wrong. The record will to a large extent help measure your capacity to comply to 28.

Aside these, the requests are reasonable....

keepingmum:
1. Stop acting like the battle is won in pursuing and getting to know your wife. Have fun together, just like you used to do before your wedding.

2. If your wife is a stay-at-home mom, stop treating her like her work during the day is somehow less strenuous or less important than yours.

3. Stop coming home from work and plopping in front of the television for the night, leaving your wife to bear the responsibility for everything else going on in the home.

4. Stop working so much. Find a healthy balance between work and family. Your wife would rather have you than a big house, nice car, etc.

5. Stop acting like you’re listening when you’re really watching TV.

6. Stop allowing the SPIRITUAL LEADERSHIP of the family to default to your wife.

7. Stop being passive when it comes to disciplining and training your kids.

8. Stop saying you know and understand what your wife is saying or feeling when you haven’t even listened to what she has to say.

9. Stop being a closed book. Open up to your wife. Don’t be afraid to show emotion.

10. Stop allowing your role as leader in the home to be an excuse for selfish behavior. Don’t forget that a true leader also SERVES.

11. Stop dishonoring your wife by criticizing her in front of your children/relatives or in public.

12. When you wife irritates you, don’t answer right away. Instead count to 10 and remember that she is a gift from God.

13. Stop using your size and strength and anger to intimidate your wife and children.

14. Stop using the word “divorce” in your vocabulary.

15. Don’t shy away from difficult conversations with your wife.

16. Stop saying you’ll do something and then procrastinating.

17. Don’t purchase any major item without first discussing it with your wife.

18. Don’t allow your eyes to linger on beautiful women who pass by. You can’t help the first look; it’s that second, longer look that you need to avoid. (And if your wife is with you, don’t lie to her and say you didn’t see that woman. Just admit you looked.)

19. Stop thinking, I know more than my wife. You and your wife will each have more knowledge than the other in certain areas.

20. Don’t assume you know what your wife is thinking. Ask her how she is feeling and why.

21. When your wife tells you about a problem she’s having, don’t immediately try to solve it. She may just need you to listen to her.

22. Stop the sarcasm. You may be trying to sound funny, but you’re only cutting down your wife, belittling her.

23. Stop treating your wife like a child. Remember that God has given her a wealth of experience and information that you need.

24. Stop acting like God and trying to control your wife.

25. Stop pointing out her mistakes and asking for explanations. Doing these things can make her feel like a failure.

26. Never casually or disrespectfully talk to other guys about sex with your wife and NEVER talk to your wife about your conquests.

27. Stop telling your wife that she is supposed to “submit” to you. If she is not following you, that means you’re not leading her as Christ loves the church.

28. Stop feeding your sexual desires from any source other than your wife - SIMPLY PUT - DO NOT CHEAT.

29. Don’t be alone with any woman who is not your wife or related to you.

30. Stop discussing deep-level issues with a woman who is not your wife or related to you - NOTHING LIKE BEST FRIEND with another woman, or becoming a "SHOULDER to LEAN on for another female going through challenges".

31. Stop deceiving your wife about your finances.

32. Don’t look up old girlfriends on Facebook or ANY OTHER Social media platform.

33. Stop putting a number on how often you should enjoy sexual intimacy.

34. Stop acting as if you have a GPS programmed into your brain. Before you go somewhere with your wife, get the right address and find out how to get there. If you are lost, don’t hesitate to get directions—from your smartphone map, even from a person - LET YOUR WIFE KNOW WHERE YOU ARE at everypoint, its not control - its wisdom - if anything bad happens, your family would know where to start looking from - especially in these end times.

35. Don’t make fun of your wife to your friends, inlaws or your extended family.

36. Don’t allow guy-only activities (like playing football, golf, basketball, etc.) to rob you of leisure time with your wife and kids.

37. Stop expecting your wife to do all the housework.

38. Stop saying, “Honey … can you get the kids to be quiet?” when the kids are being monsters. Get up and go quiet them down yourself! - THEY ARE ALSO YOUR CHILDREN

39. Stop putting all your stuff in the laundry basket and then acting as if you “did the laundry.”

40. Stop acting like buying groceries/foodstuff and cooking is a meal for the family is equal to fighting in the first world war.

Some will say that lists like these are “too negative”—that this is an example of “trashing” men. Here’s how I see it: If you are coaching your son’s sports team, you’re going to teach him a lot of positives—how to hit, how to throw, what base he should throw to when there are runners on first and second. But you also will need to get him to stop doing things—like swinging at bad pitches, or jogging to first base instead of sprinting.

Sometimes we need to know what not to do.

https://www.familylife.com/articles/topics/marriage/staying-married/husbands/40-things-husbands-should-stop-doing/

This list ehn oya gazzuzz come and learn

sisisioge:


I think she meant that he shouldn't leave the wife to be the prayer warrior of the house alone. They should pray together.


Ndi Madam OP...the thing too long nau

Are you shopping for a man? Since 2016!!

weyreypey:

Are you shopping for a man? Since 2016!!

I'm buying men...since 1805

sisisioge:


I'm buying men...since 1805

ladymercedes take am easy

weyreypey:

ladymercedes take am easy

Na ladyrangerover I go like be o

sisisioge:


Na ladyrangerover I go like be o

You dey target sooperrescue ni?