I will try and keep my write up simple. I wish to apologize as I am a bad writer than a speaker.
I met this young lady sometime in 2013 via fb. Feelings was mutual as we graduated from messenger to whatsapp. We got so fond of each other, yes, I can say we were in love. Her first visit to my base proved it all. Like every relationship, we had our ups and down and I was committed in making sure we stayed together no matter the odds. If she does something wrong, I would be first to apologize…let say, I wanted to be the perfect guy.
At the time, I was jobless but soon had admission to run MSc in NDA, I proceeded, while she had a job in abj after series of fasting and prayer. I proposed to her and she accepted but my new fiancée suddenly changed, she would break up with me at slightest provocation, block me on all social media, and would go weeks/days until I beg and beg….our relationship continued in more struggling manner. I rounded up my MSc and returned to Calabar. Things got worse, she would not call, would threaten to leave me any time we had misunderstanding. She finally did break up in 2016, and asked that she returned the ring I gave her. I was distressed, hurt and felt betrayed, she told me to move on as she has already moved on. I survived, the guys she left me for jilted her, her mom and the guys mom had misunderstanding on wedding date (her testimony), she marriage plans broke down……long and short, they broke up. She came back begging me and narrating all she went through and her being infected by the guy…..i stood by her and got her treated, we kinda found a way to mend the cracks. She promised not to repeat same mistake again. Being someone, I loved dearly, we continued.
She soon found another guy and this time she didn’t hide it…openly told me she has no more feelings for me that she loved the new guy. One of those days I travelled to benue for best mans duties, she sent me breakup text in church, while sited behind my friend. I cried and my friend (the groom) and other grooms’ men rallied to put me in shape for the occasion. It dawned on me I was like a spare tyre to her. I would call her and she wouldn’t pick, as usual blocked me via all social media. I begged through her mother, sister, brother, my sisters and friends but all to no avail. I was broke, no job, no future, no hope….i was struggling with life, life wasn’t fair!!. One of those days, she told me she can never marry me, that even if she did, she would divorce me anyways. Said she doesn’t want to marry me out of pitty!! I felt stabbed the day she picked my call, just to drive the knife in my heart, she left the phone so I can hear her making out with the guy…her moan and all, heard the guys ask her at the background who it was, she said its (mentioning my name), that she has told me to leave her alone
I threw myself to God….God is real, I soaked myself in his service. I asked he forgive me for I had believed in man. I would go days without N500, at age 34….was still living with my parents, I tried all forms of business and none was coming through. I knew I needed a breakthrough….God found for me a shepherded in a certain church in calabar, the man took me in search of gods face.
I started seeing little improvement. Had marketing job in one of leading banks in Nigeria, completed my audio message and launched it same year and dedicated it to God. Had admission I USA, collected my MSc certificate. My faith was rekindled, I could feel God hands in all I did…..even in the simplest of things. During my faith walk with GOD, I met a lady who was kind, respectful and loving, she was everything I needed during my ebb moment. Would cook inside flask and bring to office for me…bought me undies, this girl was everything good. Few weeks in, I told her ill marry her, she and her friends laughed me to scorn coz they knew I was broke. More so, she was engaged to certain guy In UK, chances were too slim
A friend of mine from NLNG ship mgt who lived in my dads BQ before he had the job, came visiting calabar, he wasn’t happy with my situation. Gave an email and asked I sent my documents, time which I had already introduced the new girl to my father that I wanted to marry her, my brother laughed at me and asked where I intend to get the money from but my dad shut them up before the lady….this lady believed in me, she opened good fortune door. I was called for interview and was successful…though as SSCE holder level, I needed a changed. I accepted the offer in USD, 6 digits Naira eqv. Long and short, God showed up mightily, we got married in less than a year and I was able to foot the bills all by myself, exactly one year after my best mans duties…..a year plus after my ex breakup.
Now the twist;
I returned to sea, few weeks after my return to nja/marriage around January ending. My ex came unblocking me and accusing me of being wicked. That I lied I didn’t have money. Asked where the money came from suddenly, said I had my wife under cover all along. That someone told her about my wedding…..saying all manner of things. I don’t blame her, its hard to imagine how far God had taken me in less than two years. God surprised me…..i cant say how it happened myself. She begged that during those times she left me, I cursed her that she demand I revoke my curses, that the guy she left me for is no more with her that she is in another shaky relationship. Couldn’t help but feel for her. Ladies and men, beware of those you hurt. Watch who you laugh at….no man knows tomorrow. Be careful who you mistreat, maltreat, look down on…..never hurt those who love you. You could be fighting Gods chosen
Karma is real, just 3years down the line

Block the fool na

Koife, you just told my story. As I read yours, it strengthened my faith in God. There is nothing He can't do within a short period of time. However, I wonder why the loyal and good ones are the ones that got hurt most