*** PARENTS, BEWARE OF THE DANGERS OF CRITICIZING YOUR CHILD***

Many parents, especially believing parents use discipline and correction measures to guide and help their children to improve and eventually become successful in life. However, most of them over indulge in the type of discipline they give their children by becoming critical. They continuously criticize their child and compare their child to siblings and other children. They believe that comparing one child to another will make the “offending” one to improve. However, these parents fail to realize that “EACH CHILD HAS UNIQUE PERSONALITIES, TALENTS AND NEEDS”. Comparing them to others is not always the correct way to go as many of such children feel worthless and loss their self-esteem.

Also, many parents are good in finding faults, saying negative things to their children and hardly appreciate their efforts no matter how little it is. They feel that praise, showing appreciation or gratitude makes a child proud. The bitter side of it is that these parents that criticize their children, hampering on their mistakes here and there, hardly support them mentally, physically or emotionally. Mostly, it may be due to their own faults and shortcoming, hence they look for innocent child to take the blames by tearing down their self esteem just to boast their negative self-esteem.

Many children that run away from home, turn to prostitution, lesbianism, homosexuality, joins bad gangs and indulges in other criminal acts as well as commits suicide or have the thought about suicide many times is mostly due to the type of criticism and discrimination they receive from their parents who are suppose to be their backbone in times of difficulties and challenges.

Please parents, don’t create an atmosphere of hatred and resentment, where your child or children sees you as an enemy instead of a friend because of your frequent fault finding, criticism, lack of appreciation and holding them back from being themselves. “KIDS WILL BE KIDS! Don’t expect a child of 3-5 years to behave or have a well developed mentally and reasoning like an adult in his/her thirties or seventies. Don’t expect your teenager that is still struggling to stand to provide and make up for all your needs.

Create a positive environment where the child feels loved and respected. Reinforce and encourage positive behavior and lift your child up when they do something good and well while working to minimize and eliminate the negative aspects. Build your child’s self confidence and stop the frequent criticism…SHALOM!!!

#CRITICIZING_OR_PUNISHING_OFTEN_KILLS_A_CHILD_SPIRIT_AND_SELF_ESTEEM#

Some parents are their children's destiny destroyer.
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Negative criticism breeds Low self esteem which manifests as bullying or timidity.

Unfortunately, most Nigerians above 30 were brought up like that.

To compensate, this new generation parents have gone extreme and do not correct their kids appropriately.

We are looking forward to a selfish and narcissistic generation.

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Negative criticism breeds Low self esteem which manifests as bullying or timidity.

Unfortunately, most Nigerians above 30 were brought up like that.

To compensate, this new generation parents have gone extreme and do not correct their kids appropriately.

We are looking forward to a selfish and narcissistic generation.

Parents need to discipline themselves by preventing the build up of negative and unhealthy altitudes in the minds of their children by becoming their number one encourager... SHALOM!!!