"Madam, you are just a woman, you cannot understand this issue, your duty is to just take care of the house, the children and the other room, nothing more."

These statements are not scarce to hear many times but I am here to tell you that you're not just a woman to give birth and take care of the house or be a career person, no!

You're more than that. You occupy a serious position in the life of a man and even your children. You are the neck to support his head grow high or tall.

Behind a respected and honoured man stands a woman who takes her role as a 'helper' seriously. A woman that knows her position and recognize her work in the life of that man.

Look at Mary the mother of Jesus in John 2:1-11, where Jesus went with His mother to a wedding in Cana and then turned water to wine.

Mary understood her position well as a woman, which was why she could approach Jesus when the wine was exhausted. She operated in her zone with full authority! Come to think of it, was Jesus a wine maker or what was His business with wine?

She knew whom Jesus was, she was determined to be a help in the fulfilment of His destiny. Now, Jesus answered her and said it wasn't yet His time and this woman of faith, purpose driven and helper in verse 5 of that John 2, told the servants that they should do whatever He says.

Jesus never gave her the assurance of doing anything but because Mary knew her worth and position, she has spoken and alas in verse 7, He gave the servants way out. What an influence and that marked the beginning of His miracle! (Right influence)

I was at a wedding ceremony sometimes ago, the couples read their nuptial vows, the woman said 'I promise to obey you, respect your unique talents and abilities; I am committed to you and shall support you, I promise to be there for you and you shall not walk alone (not liverpool football club). My heart shall be your shelter and my arms shall be your home'. (Mr. Aremu just take this as me telling you again smiles).

Oh mine mine, I was moved smiles that was awesome but the gospel truth is, it is not by saying but by acting it out.

How well are you supporting the man in your life or how well are you ready to support the man in your life?

This does not have to do physical outlook, it is about your spirit, who controls your heart, have you allowed God? Any woman can spend a man's money. But only a real woman can help a man achieve his goals, support him when he's broke, push him to be successful, compliment him on regular basis and never kick him while he's down.

How I wish this message would sink very deep into the minds of today's Christian women. To be the backbone of a man is the primary role of every woman according to the Bible but Christianity today has joined the world to replace godly femininity with feminism.