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Re: My Step Mum Makes Me Uncomfortable... I Need Advice by Gloriagee(f): 11:26am On Jul 27, 2019 |
Your direct tantrum says a lot bout how opposed to differing opinions you are. Before you dish out your cruel wordings u term advise, put yourself in the op's shoes. N next time , come up with a more hip word than vamoose. U realise this is 2019, right? LordKO: 5 Likes |
Re: My Step Mum Makes Me Uncomfortable... I Need Advice by jaszplus12(m): 11:58am On Jul 27, 2019 |
OP please gradually warm up to them but withdraw if they show any shadow of turning from the original impression they offered. Sincerely it hurts me when parents hide activities from their children. Imagine how a father cannot tell his grown up children he's planning to remarry! That era should be done with please. I've found myself explaining things my own Dad did and hid from us, this things I'm now explaining to his grandchildren!! Keeping distance and actions from your children breeds distrust and insincerity and psychological and emotional bankruptcy 1 Like |
Re: My Step Mum Makes Me Uncomfortable... I Need Advice by Nobody: 12:09pm On Jul 27, 2019 |
thorpido: I am sorry, it was a mistake. LordKO was the one I should have quoted. |
Re: My Step Mum Makes Me Uncomfortable... I Need Advice by LordKO(m): 12:39pm On Jul 27, 2019 |
Gloriagee: Make I pity you, lol. Actually, "differing opinion" is different from derision, you should know this - it's a case of being tolerant vs being subjugable. Anyway, the OP should understand that I've no intention to hurt her or compound her woes. I offered my honest opinions in good faith and for her own good. Meanwhile, as you no come like vamoose, I no go tell you to . . . in its stead, as I still de pity you. 2 Likes |
Re: My Step Mum Makes Me Uncomfortable... I Need Advice by Gloriagee(f): 2:03pm On Jul 27, 2019 |
Who ur pity epp na? LordKO: 2 Likes |
Re: My Step Mum Makes Me Uncomfortable... I Need Advice by Nobody: 3:23pm On Jul 27, 2019 |
LOL, I agree. Real Psychologists out there examine other factors behind an individual's actions before giving any diagnosis, but NL's pseudo, wannabe psychologists are quick to throw labels, hiding their lack of knowledge behind non-communicative, empty jargons. Idk why anyone would call OP a sociopath and psychopath. Most socio and psychopaths have no concern about their character flaws, are both very deceitful and manipulative towards others and I don't think that's the case with the OP. Gloriagee: 2 Likes |
Re: My Step Mum Makes Me Uncomfortable... I Need Advice by frozen70(f): 7:55pm On Jul 27, 2019 |
Isha327: Am glad that you did not pick any fault from this woman The problem is you and your anti social life, introverts are not even happier with themselves Just change your perception and mindset Assuming you got a Jon where you need a team work approach, how will you go about it ❓ Will you be the problem the team is working or will you resign just because you are more complacent with just your dad and sister ❓ Then for her daughter, sit her down and let her know that she should take your permission before touching your things, in a very polite manner She is seeing you as her senior sister, so you must relate with her As for your step mum, go close to her and let her know how you are feeling She already knows how you are behaving and she is giving you time to finish showing her who you are before she will conclude on you If you know that you can't cope, relocate to your sister As for your dad, he is very complacent with his wife, even if she doesn't cook well and avoid being the one that will cause problems for them 1 Like |
Re: My Step Mum Makes Me Uncomfortable... I Need Advice by tunjilee003: 9:07pm On Jul 27, 2019 |
in as much as your step mother is not maltreating you, you've got no issues..all you have to do is to caution her daughter about using you things and if she prove adamant you can report her to your dad... |
Re: My Step Mum Makes Me Uncomfortable... I Need Advice by tunjilee003: 9:09pm On Jul 27, 2019 |
jaszplus12:not every father have The courage to tell their children especially females they have someone they are dating elsewhere 1 Like |
Re: My Step Mum Makes Me Uncomfortable... I Need Advice by Nobody: 3:38am On Jul 28, 2019 |
spongeisback:hahahahahha my chest o .. I was wondering o. |
Re: My Step Mum Makes Me Uncomfortable... I Need Advice by jaszplus12(m): 3:42pm On Jul 28, 2019 |
tunjilee003:You're right Bro. But I think it all boils down to developing confidence between parent and child. If you have already been close to your children you won't find it hard to tell them lots of things...and they will in turn confide in you. Imagine his daughter not telling him about a man she's dating just because she's scared to...how will he advice her if she needs it...that means she'll go to friends! |
Re: My Step Mum Makes Me Uncomfortable... I Need Advice by Lush100(m): 9:38pm On Jul 31, 2019 |
The best way to go around this is to call ur dad, Schedule a date for a get-together, probably a Saturday evening at a leisure spot such as an eatery. Break from your she'll that day and ask both of them how their relationship started, Then do a kind of "women talk" with ur MIL and ask about upbringing. Chip in that u are an introvert so she know what to expect. Xchange numbers and chat to say hello. As u grow older, the bond between the two of us we will solidfy. Cheers Nb. Always respect her and her decisions. |
Re: My Step Mum Makes Me Uncomfortable... I Need Advice by Adakintroy2: 11:17am On Aug 06, 2019 |
What i sense though you didn't mention is territorial superiority. No.matter how we understand humans are territorial. That terrory has been yours since your mother passng another woman won't be easily welcome even though your honest intention is to see your dad happy. One for the time being will have to submit By way of tradition sha. It's the one entering the house that is suppose to do it. And from your anaysis she has being doing it. If you cannot not receive her well. Try going through her child. Ignore her excess and find playfully natural bound. It will warm her heart and that of your father to see you two getting along. |
Re: My Step Mum Makes Me Uncomfortable... I Need Advice by Adarrel(f): 12:27pm On Aug 06, 2019 |
LordKO: This is an interesting perspective. Care to shed more light on the introvert-sociopathic angle? @OP You've gotten a lot of good advice already. Just try to tolerate and be friendly towards your step mum's daughter and gradually warm up to your step-mum as well. Goodluck |
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