More than anything else, we all want to be successful in all aspects of life. No one would expect things to get worse or desire to go through hardships and failures. Yet, nobody can escape the hand of fate unfortunately. We’re all forced to experience serious struggles at some stages in our lives. Many people decide to give up and accept failures as soon as they feel the pain and sufferings. As a result of these, they end up with fear and doubt, and gradually lose hope and ambitions. Only some keep trying when things get tough no matter how hard or how long it might be. For them, there is no permanent failure; rather, these are only regarded as temporary defeats pushing them beyond their limits, building their strengths and cultivating their hidden talents.

1. Keep us humble

Imagine a life when we succeed in many aspects of our life. What is it like to be in that position? We will be so thrilled of course but when facing no challenges compared to our struggling fellows I believe we will soon become haughty, arrogant, boastful and superior to others. Temporary defeat plays an important role, teaching us that we aren’t important than others. Through temporary defeats we see our weakness and shortcomings – what need to change and how and when. This is what success can rarely give us and help us truly understand ourselves. Failing is hurt. Not only does it causes emotional turmoil and upset, it bruises our self-esteem and ego but it’s worth it because it helps us become authentic and focus on what really matters. Moreover, it gives us valuable time to sit back and reflect on everything, what we have done wrong and how to start anew. Through the failures, we learn to be humble and grounded and won’t act arrogant next time when we succeed at something.

2. Give us experience and knowledge

No one can grow without ever learning. People can learn from school, through their teachers, family members and friends but there is nothing more valuable than learning from their first-hand experiences. Temporary defeats are a learning process that we all need to go through without an exception. If you’ve been fortunate enough to fail so many times at young ages, be thankful for these gifts of experience and knowledge because you will soon attain the wisdom you need for your long journey ahead.

3. Build our resilience

Fear often kills dream while failures destroy confidence. But if you don’t give up and don’t give in, it’s when you start building your resilience. You face your own fear and reject the idea of permanent failure. You only see it as your temporary defeats so-called the transformative events which are essential for your personal growth.

4. Push us to take actions

When life hit you hard and you lose today, it doesn’t mean you will keep falling towards that direction except you allow it to happen. Your fate is actually in your hand and it’s up to you to set the sails towards your destination. Wishing will not bring you success but actions will. You can accomplish nothing until you take actions. The powerful part of having failed is that if you have a burning desire to win, failures will hardly be a barrier between you and your success. They push you to roll up your sleeves, work harder and fight stronger. As soon as you overcome your fear, you become more courageous and determined. And from this point on wards nothing can hinder you from achieving what you aim for.
just like the words of my favorite quote:
It is impossible to live without failing at something, unless you live so cautiously that you might as well not have lived at all, in which case you have failed by default.”

– J.K.Rowling
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