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Inferiority Complex; A Self-inflicted Disease by Chuksteric(m): 7:59pm On Sep 05, 2019
According to Wikipedia ; An inferiority complex consists of feelings of not measuring up to standards, a doubt and uncertainty about oneself, and a lack of self-esteem. It is often subconscious and is thought to drive afflicted individuals to overcompensate, resulting either in spectacular achievement or extremely asocial behavior. In modern literature, the preferred terminology is “lack of covert self-esteem”.

The first time someone used the term on me, the first time I heard someone scream in my face “Shut up, you’re just insecure, you have inferiority complex”. I don’t remember the particular details of this fight, only that I left feeling defeated and I wanted to beat the hell out of that person(she was three times my size) for accurately identifying my disease and I remember wanting badly to be cured.
After she said those words to me, I felt like my mask had been torn off, leaving my bones bare to the guffawing world.

After she said “Shut up, you’re just insecure, you have inferiority complex”, I felt like my mask had been torn off, leaving my bones bare to the guffawing world.

I’ve always wondered why we feel terrible and most times refuse to accept it when another person accuses us of low self esteem or inferiority complex. For some reason, we hate that someone knows we feel belittled by them.

For some reason, we hate that someone knows we feel belittled by them.

I’ve discovered that people who this particular term of discussion has no effect on, are usually those people who are pretending. People who are acting little and conveniently shrinking themselves in order to disarm their opponent and get what they want.


I remember sitting beside two people who were in a conversation about how much their clothes cost. For some reason, the person who obviously had little money compared to the other one was fighting tooth and nail to prove that she indeed owned expensive clothes. I knew she was poor, the other girl knew she was poor and by the way she was screaming and defending her closet, it was obvious that she knew she was poor.

I’ve come to learn that usually, people who find it super easy to apologize and express their feelings are people who feel they have the upper hand in that situation. In their minds, it’s like ” there’s no reason to brag about my body, because it’s obvious I’ve got the best bod”
These people find it so easy to show feelings that are absent from themselves because after all they have nothing to lose— they really do not care.

See Also: I don’t want to be Bill Gates and I think that’s okay

I’m not saying that people who brag about what they own are usually the poorer people, I’m just saying that usually people who try to show off are covering up for an insecurity that lurks deeper, rich people have insecurities too.
Moreover, a person could just talk about what he has just to be boastful, some people just like being proud.

I’m just saying that usually people who try to show off are covering up for an insecurity that lurks deeper.

A few years ago, I travelled to go and visit my aunt who had this really pretty daughter. She was at that age where kids get insecure about everything, whether they are too tall or too short, fat or skinny, things like that.
This girl taunted her little siblings every chance she got by calling them fat or ugly or things like that.

It bothered me a lot until one day she walked up to me and told me everything that bothered her. She didn’t like that she was taller than every boy in her class or that everyone told her she was going to be fat when she got older. After that conversation, I kind of understood why she had to bully her siblings. Her home was her safe place, where she wasn’t taller than everyone and where she was the slimmest, so she just had to make everyone feel as awful as she felt everytime she left her house.

Her home was her safe place, where she wasn’t taller than everyone and where she was the slimmest, so she just had to make everyone feel as awful as she felt everytime she left her house.



For me, the worst kind of Inferiority complex happens when the person constantly tries to reflect their insecurities on others. These people will implore the use of tools such as; pointing out the flaws in other people, straight up laughing at these, constantly comparing them with others and trying so hard to humiliate them.

These type of people are the worst and people usually misplace their insecurities for arrogance or confidence. They are the most toxic kind of insecure people and they enjoy ridiculing others just to make themselves feel better. If you know anybody like this, please stay away, you are better off alone.

Social media is a place where lies are accepted, welcomed and envied. Social media has become a place where strangers you probably don’t know have set a standard for happiness. A place where insecurities are concealed behind the clicks of a camera, never to rear its ugly head. You have to look like this and smile like this to be happy— No!

It’s totally human to feel like you’re not doing enough yourself when someone else is doing better than you are, but what is not okay is thinking that the person is better than you.

It’s totally human to feel like you’re not doing enough yourself when someone else is doing better than you are.

It is okay that a friend is richer than you or more brilliant than you are, but what is not okay is you being obsessed with the desire to appear better than your counterparts. For crying out loud, we know you’re not brilliant so just shut up.

No one has everything figured out and most of the people you think do, struggle with so much internally. They are probably hurting but the bubble they’ve built around themselves makes it almost impossible to see.

Stay in your lane, work on yourself for the sole reason purpose of improving yourself and be a better you and not because you want to impress anybody, and please stop hanging around people who make you feel insecure.

The people you’re trying so hard to please are probably jealous of you. The energy you’re supposed to use to make your life better is what you’re wasting trying to show people who do not care about you, that you’re on their level. Please let’s all be guided and STAY AWAY from people who make us feel insecure.
https://sapioverts.com/inferiority-complex/

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Re: Inferiority Complex; A Self-inflicted Disease by Nobody: 8:51pm On Sep 05, 2019
Is ok. U try but don't agree with some conclusions.
Re: Inferiority Complex; A Self-inflicted Disease by Chuksteric(m): 3:10pm On Sep 06, 2019
correctguy0900:
Is ok. U try but don't agree with some conclusions.
Thanks for reading
Re: Inferiority Complex; A Self-inflicted Disease by tpiander: 3:41pm On Sep 06, 2019
This girl taunted her little siblings every chance she got by calling them fat or ugly or things like that.

It bothered me a lot until one day she walked up to me and told me everything that bothered her. She didn’t like that she was taller than every boy in her class or that everyone told her she was going to be fat when she got older. After that conversation, I kind of understood why she had to bully her siblings. Her home was her safe place, where she wasn’t taller than everyone and where she was the slimmest, so she just had to make everyone feel as awful as she felt everytime she left her house.

Her home was her safe place, where she wasn’t taller than everyone and where she was the slimmest, so she just had to make everyone feel as awful as she felt everytime she left her house.



Unnecessary example.

Siblings diss each other all the time, the wheel is not being reinvented and don't be stoking up prejudice against unknown persons.

Besides, where is the evidence you didn't cook up your so called example?

With Nairaland posters, they'll type up long epistles, insert something good then also insert the negativity which is actually their main point.

Imagine how you ruined your write up because of bad belle which you cant let go of.

So you want somebody to feel awful everytime they leave their house? This is satanic.

As it is, you also want them to feel awful even inside their house, na yourself you dey do na?
Re: Inferiority Complex; A Self-inflicted Disease by tpiander: 3:47pm On Sep 06, 2019
And no, inferiority complex is not a disease and neither is it described as "self inflicted".


You are too free with the word disease, are you speaking with experience?
Re: Inferiority Complex; A Self-inflicted Disease by Aishaaaa: 8:21pm On Sep 06, 2019
I understand what you're trying to say and I'm glad you didn't bring up your own insecurities and talk about them and expect us to be moved by it. And those of you ranting, you all are probably suffering from inferiority complex
Re: Inferiority Complex; A Self-inflicted Disease by tpiander: 10:11pm On Sep 06, 2019
Time registered Sept 06 2019.

The op started a new account as a female?

no be today.

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