bukatyne:
@OP:

I totally disagree that women do not 'expire'. Men do, however at a later date.

The concept called biological clock is very real and the earlier a woman has her kids (early 20s ideally), the healthier they both are in addition to other benefits.

Moreover,

truthsayer009:


Everyone expires both Men and Women. Some people are only lucky that they aged really well.

As for biological clock, this is very true as women who give birth early usually look so great in their 30s and 40s.

bukatyne:
@OP:

I totally disagree that women do not 'expire'. Men do, however at a later date.

The concept called biological clock is very real and the earlier a woman has her kids (early 20s ideally), the healthier they both are in addition to other benefits.

Moreover, it is better she has her kids and launch into her career (she stays there longer) than focus on her career and leave marriage for later.

The younger a woman is, the better placed she is to find a spouse that aligns with her goals if she knows herself. The easier it is to also build a relationship.

The lower her body count is, the easier is it to bond with her husband spiritually, emotionally, sexually and physically.

The goals of marriage are
1. companionship
2. Prevention of adultery
3. Building a continuous society by breeding moral kids

As such it is very important and should be considered as such.

And a true marriage has never stopped a woman from reaching her potential: it aids her to it.

Like they say 'two (good) heads are better than one'.

olabrinks:
I’m sorry but not all women are destined to be career women. Self accomplishments are very personal, and what might seem silly to another might be huge to others. To some women, raising children in a stable marital home is their biggest achievement in life. They are happy and fulfilled with that and nobody can take that away from them. They might decide to have a small business on the side but taking care of their home is their biggest career. They are happy. Some career women are forever unfulfilled chasing insatiable dreams. It all depends on the individual. Let everyone do what makes them happy.

bukatyne:
@OP:

I totally disagree that women do not 'expire'. Men do, however at a later date.

The concept called biological clock is very real and the earlier a woman has her kids (early 20s ideally), the healthier they both are in addition to other benefits.

Moreover, it is better she has her kids and launch into her career (she stays there longer) than focus on her career and leave marriage for later.

The younger a woman is, the better placed she is to find a spouse that aligns with her goals if she knows herself. The easier it is to also build a relationship.

The lower her body count is, the easier is it to bond with her husband spiritually, emotionally, sexually and physically.

The goals of marriage are
1. companionship
2. Prevention of adultery
3. Building a continuous society by breeding moral kids

As such it is very important and should be considered as such.

And a true marriage has never stopped a woman from reaching her potential: it aids her to it.

Like they say 'two (good) heads are better than one'.

olabrinks:
I’m sorry but not all women are destined to be career women. Self accomplishments are very personal, and what might seem silly to another might be huge to others. To some women, raising children in a stable marital home is their biggest achievement in life. They are happy and fulfilled with that and nobody can take that away from them. They might decide to have a small business on the side but taking care of their home is their biggest career. They are happy. Some career women are forever unfulfilled chasing insatiable dreams. It all depends on the individual. Let everyone do what makes them happy.

bukatyne:
@OP:

I totally disagree that women do not 'expire'. Men do, however at a later date.

The concept called biological clock is very real and the earlier a woman has her kids (early 20s ideally), the healthier they both are in addition to other benefits.

Moreover, it is better she has her kids and launch into her career (she stays there longer) than focus on her career and leave marriage for later.

The younger a woman is, the better placed she is to find a spouse that aligns with her goals if she knows herself. The easier it is to also build a relationship.

The lower her body count is, the easier is it to bond with her husband spiritually, emotionally, sexually and physically.

The goals of marriage are
1. companionship
2. Prevention of adultery
3. Building a continuous society by breeding moral kids

As such it is very important and should be considered as such.

And a true marriage has never stopped a woman from reaching her potential: it aids her to it.

Like they say 'two (good) heads are better than one'.

truthsayer009:


Everyone expires both Men and Women. Some people are only lucky that they aged really well.

As for biological clock, this is very true as women who give birth early usually look so great in their 30s and 40s.

Magnoliaa:


I feel you're describing a 'perfect' woman who has everything in place.

There are so many things to consider: her maturity and mental/emotional health. How healthy is she in those aspects to be in a marriage and raise kids? How many people know themselves when they are young?

Not everyone wants kids, also.

And financial stability.

There are cases where marriage has hindered women from being themselves truly and going after their dreams/career.

olabrinks:
I’m sorry but not all women are destined to be career women. Self accomplishments are very personal, and what might seem silly to another might be huge to others. To some women, raising children in a stable marital home is their biggest achievement in life. They are happy and fulfilled with that and nobody can take that away from them. They might decide to have a small business on the side but taking care of their home is their biggest career. They are happy. Some career women are forever unfulfilled chasing insatiable dreams. It all depends on the individual. Let everyone do what makes them happy.

Risks of Pregnancy Over Age 30

Many women wait until later in life to have children. In the United States, birth rates for women in their 30s are at the highest levels in 4 decades. But an older mother may be at increased risk for things such as:

Miscarriage

Birth defects

Twins

High blood pressure

Gestational diabetes

Difficult labor

Some studies show that while there is a higher risk of pregnancy problems in older women, their babies may not have more problems than babies of younger women. This is more likely when women get prenatal care and give birth in a healthcare facility ready to care for high-risk mothers and babies.

Risk for chromosome problems

The risk for chromosome problems increases with the mother's age. The chance of having a child with Down syndrome increases over time. The risk is about 1 in 1,250 for a woman who conceives at age 25. It increases to about 1 in 100 for a woman who conceives at age 40. The risks may be higher. This is because many statistics only report live births. They do not note pregnancies with chromosome problems that ended due to pregnancy loss.

After having 1 child with Down syndrome, the chance of having another baby with Down syndrome is higher. After age 40, the recurrence risk for Down syndrome is based on the age of the mother at delivery. Most babies with Down syndrome are born to women under the age of 35. This is because women under the age of 35 have more babies than women over 35.

Risk for miscarriage
Some studies have shown a higher chance of miscarriage (early pregnancy loss) in older mothers. For all women, about half of first trimester miscarriages happen because of a chromosome problem in the baby. The risk of chromosome problems increase with the mother’s age. So miscarriage is also more likely.

olabrinks:
I’m sorry but not all women are destined to be career women. Self accomplishments are very personal, and what might seem silly to another might be huge to others. To some women, raising children in a stable marital home is their biggest achievement in life. They are happy and fulfilled with that and nobody can take that away from them. They might decide to have a small business on the side but taking care of their home is their biggest career. They are happy. Some career women are forever unfulfilled chasing insatiable dreams. It all depends on the individual. Let everyone do what makes them happy.

bukatyne:
@OP:

I totally disagree that women do not 'expire'. Men do, however at a later date.

The concept called biological clock is very real and the earlier a woman has her kids (early 20s ideally), the healthier they both are in addition to other benefits.

Moreover, it is better she has her kids and launch into her career (she stays there longer) than focus on her career and leave marriage for later.

The younger a woman is, the better placed she is to find a spouse that aligns with her goals if she knows herself. The easier it is to also build a relationship.

The lower her body count is, the easier is it to bond with her husband spiritually, emotionally, sexually and physically.

The goals of marriage are
1. companionship
2. Prevention of adultery
3. Building a continuous society by breeding moral kids

As such it is very important and should be considered as such.

And a true marriage has never stopped a woman from reaching her potential: it aids her to it.

Like they say 'two (good) heads are better than one'.

calgaryFriend:
I always like to understand what situation people are in before they talk on issues like this.

Ask a lady in her forties without a husband what she thinks about early marriage and you will understand. If you are married yourself with kids and settled you cannot know what ladies in their 40s without a family are going through.

Ever here in north America majority of women in their 40s that I have met are always eager to start a family and settle down.

There are a very few ladies though that would feel fulfilled without a family, but thats a very tiny percentage.

When people come around to make it look like thats the norm then we have a problem, I was dating a 34year old established lady here abroad, a Nigerian who had her career and everything going for her, when I figured out she was not the kind of person I wanted to marry and told her I was done with the whole thing, she called me crying and threatened to kill herself.

She was so distressed and I was so worried for her, people may pretend that they are okay but trust me majority of women would prefer to have a stable family than a stable career but most of these people realise this quite late.

And I think men too should marry early, as a Yoruba man, if you are 30years and not married as a man that looks awkward although we know Igbo men marry very late. I have 40 year old Igbo single men who do not even feel any pressure.

calgaryFriend:
I always like to understand what situation people are in before they talk on issues like this.

Ask a lady in her forties without a husband what she thinks about early marriage and you will understand. If you are married yourself with kids and settled you cannot know what ladies in their 40s without a family are going through.

Ever here in north America majority of women in their 40s that I have met are always eager to start a family and settle down.

There are a very few ladies though that would feel fulfilled without a family, but thats a very tiny percentage.

When people come around to make it look like thats the norm then we have a problem, I was dating a 34year old established lady here abroad, a Nigerian who had her career and everything going for her, when I figured out she was not the kind of person I wanted to marry and told her I was done with the whole thing, she called me crying and threatened to kill herself.

She was so distressed and I was so worried for her, people may pretend that they are okay but trust me majority of women would prefer to have a stable family than a stable career but most of these people realise this quite late.

And I think men too should marry early, as a Yoruba man, if you are 30years and not married as a man that looks awkward although we know Igbo men marry very late. I have 40 year old Igbo single men who do not even feel any pressure.

liberalchick:


You know the bolded because??

calgaryFriend:

Because very few women like to be tossed around from men to men.
I understand some dont have a problem with that, but most women once they start aging will prioritise security/stability over career excellence.
The kind of security or stability that a home brings....

I am not a kid myself and have mixed quite well with different cultures, its the same trend.

I currently join a singles group of matured adults for bible study every other week and I can tell you a great majority of supposed single and happy women in their forties would rather have things be turned around. And I am not talking about Africans, I am talking of caucasians ...

liberalchick:


You know the bolded because??

calgaryFriend:
I always like to understand what situation people are in before they talk on issues like this.

Ask a lady in her forties without a husband what she thinks about early marriage and you will understand. If you are married yourself with kids and settled you cannot know what ladies in their 40s without a family are going through.

Ever here in north America majority of women in their 40s that I have met are always eager to start a family and settle down.

There are a very few ladies though that would feel fulfilled without a family, but thats a very tiny percentage.

When people come around to make it look like thats the norm then we have a problem, I was dating a 34year old established lady here abroad, a Nigerian who had her career and everything going for her, when I figured out she was not the kind of person I wanted to marry and told her I was done with the whole thing, she called me crying and threatened to kill herself.

She was so distressed and I was so worried for her, people may pretend that they are okay but trust me majority of women would prefer to have a stable family than a stable career but most of these people realise this quite late.

And I think men too should marry early, as a Yoruba man, if you are 30years and not married as a man that looks awkward although we know Igbo men marry very late. I have 40 year old Igbo single men who do not even feel any pressure.

amaham:
Tell that to an evening newspaper,. Ftc by the way

desvi:


yeah, they are all so unhappy and have been confiding in you
and all the married ladies live a blissful life
if life was so simple

calgaryFriend:

Yeah they all openly discuss it, Oyinbo people life dey very simple.
When we all meet, we start by talking about how our last 2 weeks went.
Oyinbo people will even tell you they are expecting a baby, I mean someone who is just like 1 month pregnant.
Even the person who doesn't like her daughters boyfriend will talk about it very openly......

theButterfly:
To each his or her own.