Hi Nairaland users,
My wife is a fresh graduate and still searching for a job. we got married abot 3 months ago and our parents are insisting that we should have a child on time.Our initial agreement is for her to get a job before making babies. kindly advise, am confused from presure from both parents.Though the truth is my income cannot boantly take care of our needs if we should start making babies now.please help,

When u start making babies who's going to cater 4 their needs? You or your parents.

That doesn't make sense, is your family going to decide what goes on in your marriage?. You need to educate them, tell them that you will have kids when the timing is right. If you don't get them out of your marriage they will ruin things for you and your wife. You must always understand that children are an added blessing to marriage, you don't get married primarily to have kids you get married in/for love and companionship. Let them realize that it's your and wife's decision and not your parents deciding that for you. Explain to them with respect and honor and search the scripture to explain to them why they need to let you enjoy your marriage. I also think that couples should wiat for at least 1 or 2 years after getting married before having kids so that they save up some money, travel to different places, enjoy themselves because once the kids come they will be in your life forever and everything changes with them. That's what they say.

you ar not still living with you parents are you?

@ Rlst84forsale. Perfectly put.

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Hi Nairaland users,
My wife is a fresh graduate and still searching for a job. we got married abot 3 months ago and our parents are insisting that we should have a child on time.Our initial agreement is for her to get a job before making babies. kindly advise, am confused from presure from both parents.Though the truth is my income cannot boantly take care of our needs if we should start making babies now.please help,

God aint you man enough to decide for yourself what will happen in your marriage?

K. if you cant decide then just simply tell them u aren't ready for that now.