It’s possible you look around you and all you see is doom, gloom and deleterious situations. You look at every area of your life and wonder why everything appears not to be delivering expected results. You can’t understand why everything seems to be the same as it was. You appear to have remained in the same place for far too long. You appear stuck and stagnant in life. Nothing new, nothing inspiring, nothing interesting, just a life of routine – taking you nowhere exciting and deliberate. All you’ve hoped for, all you’re working for appear to just be soaring further away from you. The more you work, the less you seem to achieve or acquire. Deep within, you’re perhaps not truly happy about your life results and achievements, you believe there’s more.

Every now and again, new ideas, new concepts, new approaches and strategies and new ways of doing things in life come up in your mind, you become excited because you believe it will work and move you forward and upward, and you begin to plan and begin to think deep and you activate, but somewhere in the middle of the whole experience, you may not be able to tell when precisely, but everything just appear to fizzle away as though you never though it up, you never started it, and it never begun.

Yes, you want to advance, progress and succeed, but it appears the internal and even external forces against you are just too powerful, you lack what it takes to confront and overcome them all.

You see things, hear stories and read stuff that encourage and inspire you to keep trying and keep going but things aren’t just gelling, you feel you know what to do, you understand what it takes and you’ve acquired the necessary capacities for performance, but the results aren’t just showing...

You’ve been in that zone of hope, prayers, and promises that if you can just hold on a little bit much longer, your situation will suddenly change and the big break will come, and for a very long time, you’ve been there…, stuck in a spot wondering when this waiting and hoping, and prayers will bring you that expected result, up till now, nothing!

You’re eager to enter into more satisfying, rewarding and fulfilling days. Your days are running out, you remember, you’re not getting any younger it crosses your mind, all you assumed you’d have achieved or accomplished as far back as ten years ago are still very much beyond your reach. You keep thinking, you keep wondering why things aren’t just working out as you’ve planned them, worked for them and pursued them. And you’ve concluded it must be the fault of the government, your employer, the business environment or this nation Nigeria, they are the guilty ones; they are the ones holding you captive.

Perhaps you’ve concluded in this life, it’s all a matter of luck, providence, grace of God and fate and all you’re doing is cruising through life and believing one day, the turnaround will happen, when God chooses. God will turn around things when He’s ready. Hmm. God is ever ready.

You hope one day, you’ll earn much more than you can spend, you’ll clinch that employment of your dreams, your business will expand considerably, your marriage will be peaceful and happy, you’ll develop the confidence you need, you’ll look as good and as healthy as you dream, you’ll find fulfilment in a wonderful relationship, you’ll be able to forgive yourself for past errors and mistakes, forgive others as well and you’ll become a happy person.

You want to be free, successful, progressive happy and excited in and about your life. You look around and see many people looking happy and appearing to be living the life you can only but dream about. You know it’s possible, you see people living in such possibilities, and you wonder when it’ll be your turn.

My dear friend, when you’re locked up in a room with windows and door shut, no matter how much you try, no matter how much effort you make, no matter how committed you are, no matter how much you dream and wish, you can never physically see or access anything outside the room you’re locked in. if you’re locked in a room, all you can truly see, use and connect with are the things in the room only. It is impossible to engage things, use things and apprehend opportunities beyond the walls you’re enclosed within. It is impossible to access, utilize and benefit from things existing outside your own walls of life.

Ladies and gentlemen, many of us don’t achieve what we want, and can’t apprehend what we desire and chase in life because these things we want exist only outside our own walls in life.

Based on nurture, experience, exposure, belief system and mindset, many of us are enclosed. We are enclosed and locked up in the way we think, reason and assume life runs.

We most times manufacture how we think we can win and achieve things in life according to what is contained within our walls of nurture, experience, exposure, religion and belief systems.

Many of us don’t work with the standard life principles that bring results, we want results using our own thoughts, assumptions and imaginations as obtainable within our walls of life.

Many times we believe our world is the world; what we like is what most people like and what we dislike is what most people must dislike. We are mostly raised not to respect individual differences, and we fall into the error of trying to convince everyone we encounter, that our way is the superior way of doing things, even when we have no results to show or prove our opinions, and they do.

We have been trained to trust the counsel of our parents, caregivers, religious leaders and clergies even if they were wrong, misleading, subjective, or the advice and/or doctrine has become archaic and irrelevant in today’s world.

We judge and reject people once they do not fit in within our own walls of how life ought to be. We judge other people based on our own unique definition of what success means.

What many of us do not truly realize today is that your own personal definition of success in life can even be wrong. What you feel success is to you may be incorrect and you wouldn’t even realize until you get there.

You may perhaps not know that being rich may not be your desired success until you become rich then you’ll realize you were mistaken, you may also not know that marriage and having children may not really be what you believe your success is until you get there and you’ll still feel empty and lonely, you may also not know that building a successful business is not the success you’re looking for until you’re done building, yet, remain frustrated and still feel inferior, and even some say success to them is finding happiness, not knowing happiness is not a goal you chase, but a choice you make.

Your walls limit your possibility for success and various accomplishments. It restricts and closes you in and you would never realize how wonderful life can be until you choose to crash your walls and move out of your world into the larger world.

The fear of hurt, disappointment, disrespect, and rejection is the key that keeps you locked in your own world. Until you conquer this fear of hurt, rejection, disrespect and disappointment, you may remain slow, stagnant, and frustrated using your own faulty methods in a mighty and dynamic world.

Wisdom is to open up your life to other people but not their influence. You need to Interact, mix, listen and talk with everybody you can meet but choose what you want for yourself from them. You don’t have to trust people to relate with them, but you must relate with different people to understand this world.

Go out of your way and hold great conversations with the young, the old, the opposite gender, people of other nationalities, race, tribe, language and religion. Be friendly with the poor, the rich, the powerful, the powerless, the married, the single, people of other professions, and businesses and it will amaze you how the real world is so different from your own world.

The ability to listen to others without judging and criticizing their different and sometimes weird opinion in life is a very powerful tool for success in life. You can’t sell to people you don’t understand, you can’t work excellently with people you don’t understand and you can’t benefit from people you don’t accept. To understand people, listen to them to understand their world as different from yours. To win in life, listen to the world and interact with the world. To be in this world and not be of this world is the almighty formula for dominion. You cannot conquer or dominate what you’ve rejected and refused to understand.

Dear friend, break down your walls and learn how life in general works. That’s how to really succeed, progress and make it in this life. Don’t be afraid of disrespect, rejection and disappointment, don’t be too sensitive to insults and criticism, focus on the bigger picture, these things are all part of life, you learn so much from these as well. Dear friend, if you want genuine and fast success, break down your walls.