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Living With A Disability: How To Build Better Relationships With People by Jm879316: 11:22am On Dec 01, 2019
Living With A Disability: How To Build Better Relationships With People

Are you living with a disability of any Kind? Here’s how to build better relationship with people. The ideas you will gain from reading this article, will open. The ideas you will gain from reading this article, will open up a new phase of your life. Stick with me.

Life as a person living with a disability can be very tough. Especially when it comes to building healthy relationships with people. Most people struggle to see the real you, beyond your disabilities. And the few who do, have a hard time understanding that what you need from them is not just their pity. You don’t want them around for the “help” they can offer you alone. You want to be loved, respected and adored for who you really are in spite of your physical challenges.

Apart from the challenge of how people sees and relates with you, you also have a hard time relating with others. Right within your heart, there’s this constant battle. A struggle, to let go of the tight grip you have on your heart. To pull down the strong walls you have built around it and set it free. Free to fall in love with people. Free to trust people who say they care about you. Free to experience better relationships with family, friends etc. Free to be who you are always meant to be - You!

Are you struggling in your relationships? Have you been finding it difficult going after what your heart truly wants?

Here are some powerful keys you need to build better and lasting relationships with people. Keep reading!

•Accept Yourself Fully For Who You Are
Most disabled persons I have come across spend almost all day being bitter about themselves. Wishing they were someone else or born differently.

As long as you hold tight to such emotions, they will not only affect your joy and happiness, they will block you from receiving love and care from others.

You need to first of all accept that this is who you are now. This is you. This is your life. This is how you are and will always be.

Just because someone is walking on his two legs and you are not, doesn’t mean everything is perfect with them. Just because a fellow has his or her two hands fully working, doesn’t mean they have got every bit of their life in control.

Being disabled doesn’t make you inferior to nobody. It simply means you are differently-abled. It means you’ve got different abilities. Don’t let anything make you believe otherwise.

Accept and start seeing your disabilities as the “different abilities” they really are. That’s the only way you can start experiencing true happiness with yourself.

Come to think of it, if you don’t love and accept yourself for who you really are, how do you expect others to?

You’ve got to look at yourself straight in the mirror and tell yourself “you are beautiful/handsome. You’ve got a lovely smile. You are someone’s dream. You are differently-abled. You have different-abilities, not limitations” and so many other beautiful things you can say to yourself. It’s not a denial of your challenges, it’s accepting them in a different light. It is redefining what you call realities.

•Let Go Of Your Insecurities
When people say they love and care about you as a disabled person , the first thing that comes to your mind is, do they mean it? Are they for real? How can they truly love me with my disability?

You start seeing not just one or two but over a 100 reasons they can’t possible love you. You start seeing how everyone else is better than you. How you don’t measure up to every other girl or boy out there.

You need to let that feeling go. Completely. Let it go and set your heart free to receive love.

•Let Go Of Past Experiences

Too many times we set our eyes on the challenges of the past, how we were treated and hurt by those we love, that we miss out on the present. Just because someone claim to love you and took advantage of you, doesn’t mean everyone else will.

People take advantage of people at all times. Almost everyday. It’s just a part and parcel of the world we live in. You can’t let that pull you down and keep you on the ground forever.

You can’t let those past hurts and mistakes keep you in one spot for life. Someone may have taken advantage of your physical challenges to molest, abuse or hurt you in ways you never thought they could. But if you hold on to that and hate every other person for it, you will never know what true love and happiness is all about.

•Be Willing To Try New Things
Being willing to try stuffs you have never done before or have abandoned for sometimes, is one sure way to build relationships with people. Things like sports for the handicapped, going back to school to get a degree, learning a vocation etc.

You can meet a whole lot of people there. People who are like you. People who are different but will appreciate your uniqueness.

A few of those people may stay in your life for a while. Others may stay permanently, if you let them. A few may care about you as long as they need you. Others may sincerely care about you, even if you don’t contribute a thing in their lives. Sitting back and brooding all day will add nothing meaningful to your life, go out there and have as much fun as you can, with people.

•Never Hide Your Disabilities Or Pretend To Be Someone You Are not
The people that truly love you will stay in your life. With or without your disabilities. So why hide them? Why pretend to be someone you are not?

If you must enjoy lasting relationships with people, you must build it with completes openness. Let people see you for who you are (including your disabilities) and decide for themselves if they need to be in your life or not.

Whether on social media or in the real life, do not present to the world a picture that is not actually you. Be very real to yourself and everyone else. That way, you will not only attract the right persons in your life, you will actually keep them for long.

•Smile Often - It Doesn’t Cost A Dime
A smile is worth more than a million dollar. Yet it doesn’t cost a thing. Of all the beautiful clothes in the world, none is as attractive as a smile. Yet, very few people know how to use it to win hearts.

Wearing a smile on your face often will make people feel at ease with you. It will give them the impression that you are friendly and worth being around.

Do not just wait until people smile at you before you return it. Initiate it by wearing one on your face.

•Set Goals For Yourself
Set some goals for yourself and stick to them. Being disabled doesn’t mean you should have no goals for your life.

You have a powerful mind, a very powerful mind that can see far ahead of you into your tomorrow and prepare for it.

Start now to set goals for yourself. Relationships goals, academic goals, business goals, marital goals etc. Do not just overlook these things believing that what will be will be. The only way what will be, will be, is if we plan and prepare adequately for them. Part of how we prepare for them includes setting small and big goals for them.

How many new friends do you want to make before the year is over ? What new thing do you want to achieve before the year is over?

Those are questions you should ask yourself and write down their answers. Those are the kind of achievements you should set as your goals and pursue after them.

•Visit Interesting Places
One beautiful thing about visiting interesting places like the museum, cinema houses, amusement parks etc, is that you get to meet new people there.

If you want to build better relationships with people you must be willing to visit such interesting places. At least once in a while.

Those are the kind of places to meet people who are like you. People who are also out to make friends with others.

People who will love you for you. People who will see all your physical challenges and still care about you, not out of pity but sincere love.

You can visit such places with friends and family members, and have fun as much as you want. It will help strengthen your relationship with them. You can also choose to go alone and spend some time with yourself. Either way, you just need to visit such places once in a while.

In Conclusion

Are you living with a disability? We have In this article revealed how you can build a better relationship with people.

In this guide, you will find a collection of practical things you need to do to find and enjoy true happiness with the people you love and care about.

No matter what happens, always remember that your being differently-abled does not make you inferior to anyone. It simply means you have different abilities. Different strengths etc. Don’t let anything make you believe less.


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