Good day nairalanders, am dying silently and I seriously need advise. I'm so sorry for my long episode but I just thought I should explain everything out. Also sorry for my poor English, am typing in so much hurry. There is this girl i met on Facebook, she was the one that sent me a friend request though, so after about 4 day's of chatting i requested to see her and she agreed, we saw that same day because i went to see her at her place, the next day i went to see her also at her place, she lives with her mum "her mum only child" i don't know her compound or gate though because she normally comes to meet me at the road side whenever i comes to her. all this while i normally calls her every evening just to check up on her, on the 3rd day during the evening i went to see her at her place as usual, when i was about leaving she said she wants to know my place, so i agreed and we entered Keke and i showed her my place, when it was almost 11pm i asked her if she isn't going home and she said no that she wants to sleep over "my heart stated beating faster" because i was happy and was very sure i must have sex with her during the night, that night i tried severally to touch her but she refused so i had to let her sleep in peace, the next day morning she saw on my face that i wasn't happy and yes i wasn't all what was on my mind was for her to get up from the bed and take her leave, i was still lying on the bed when suddenly she started touching me all over. Then i responded and we had sex i had condoms but the urge within me couldn't allow me go out from the bed to get it, to be sincere not just that only. I really wanted to enter her raw because it's been long i felt how it feels like. When i was done i saw thick bloods all over my bed sheet, when i saw it i was shocked and was wondering where it came from, immediately i took my touch light phone switched on the touch and pointed it on my dick and i was surprised that i saw blood all over my dick, the blood has an unpleasant ordour, it was smelling so badly that i couldn't breadth, i confronted the girl and told her that she is on her period and she didn't tell me, and allowed me to have sex with her raw she suddenly became afraid and thought i wanted to slap her but I had no such intentions. The only thing on my mind at that moment was the fear of hiv, she told me she wasn't on her period and din't knew where and how the blood came from her, i was so scared to the bone that i must have contracted hiv my fear became worsen when i remembered she din't asked me to use a condom when i was about going down on her, nor did she complained when i went down on her even without any form of pre-intimacy or kissing. I was so scared that i had to give her the last money i had on me which is 1500. I pleaded with her to go to one private trusted medical facility not too far from my place, i told her to do hiv text and come back with the result and show me so she took the money and left, 4 minutes later she came back to my place that she forgot her charger that she wants to collect it, i told her to go and do the test that when she is back she will collect her charger but she insisted that her battery is low and she wants to charge her phone on the place that the test is to be conducted, i allowed her take it and she left, about two minutes later it occurred to me to follow her and sees where she is going so i wore my trouser immediately and i did but to my surprise she is going the opposite direction "she was going home" so i pursued her and took the money from her i was so angry and pissed off that i din't gave her transport. I didn't called her throughout that day all what was on my head is that i have contracted hiv i was so scared to the bone, that same evening i called her and asked her about her whereabout and she told me she is at home so i went to her place and she came to meet me at the usual road side that we normally meet, i pleaded with her to do this text just to put my mind at rest but her response is that she doesn't have hiv that am making her scared, i asked her how she knew she doesn't have hiv and she was silent i asked her this same question up to 4 times but she couldn't say a word. I tried all i could to convince her to do this text but she refused so i had to let her be and face my sorrows alone two day's later she came to my place one thing led to the other and we had sex but this time i used a condom, we had sex severally for up to one week but i was always on condom, "I have a very very high libido, so i couldn't resist whenever she is around me" but still the first encounter i had with her was still fresh on my memory and eating me up, i lost weight because of thinking and i couldn't go to work for about a week, during same period my scrountom balls became very painful that i couldn't sleep at night so i went to a local text lab in my area to do some texts i did gonorrhea, syphilis, clymadia and all came out negative. Two days later the pains went away, during this period i was unable to sleep i thought i had contracted hiv i was so restless that i had to go back to the lab to take an hiv text, deep down within me i knew it would be negative because it is just 2weeks since i got exposed, but still i wanted to do it to put my mind at rest a little and had some little hope, the text came back negative, i had to explain to the lab guy what am going through and he told me i made a mistake that i shouldn't have told her that it was hiv text am about conducting on her that i should have told her that it is blood text to know her blood group, and i picked up the idea and decided to use it, I told the lab guy that am coming with her the next day. On same evening i went to the girl place and told her that i did hiv text and it was negative i showed her my result, i told her that she doesn't have hiv and my mind is finally at rest, she was happy. I then told her that i want us to do blood text next day to know our blood group if we are both compatible and she concurred, next day i took her to the lab the lab guy already knew my plan, he asked us what text did we came for and i told him it is blood text, he then called me into the inner room put a small piece of cotton wool on my hand and told me to hold it that way in other for the girl to believe he has took my blood, the girl went and he drew her blood he ran the hiv text on her as we both planned earlier. He told us to come next day for the result, few hours later i went alone because i knew the result normally comes between minutes/hours he gave me the result and it was negative. My mind finally came down all symptoms, worries and fears i had been experiencing suddenly disappeared, since that day until this moment i have been having raw sex with her, i would call it a painful sex because there are sores all over my dick accompanied with blood, i start noticing that since i started having raw sex with her, but unfortunately my sexual urge is just too high that i have been ignoring it and still continuing, and ignoring the pains which is indeed very painful because of the sores on my dick. Until 6 days ago i became very sick, serious headache, mid grade fever, painful eye's, appitite loss, dizziness, serious diarrha "the most serious i have ever experienced all my life" i have been so scared, because the last time i fell sick was March 2012 since then i haven't in anyway fallen sick. So i was really so scared that i have contracted hiv because the lab i conducted her hiv text was a local lab i was scared that the result is false. 4days ago i went to do some text for malaria and typhoid and the text came out that i have a lots of typhoid and a single + for malaria. I bought drugs took injection but still the symptoms are still there am still feeling so sick am so scared and confused right now as the symptoms has refused to go even after taking drugs and injections. I planned taking her for another hiv text at a government hospital tomorrow, if this eventually comes out negative I will never go in raw again, I have learnt my lessons already. I'm not myself anymore am so confused, i can't eat, sleep nor can I explain what am passing through right now to anyone. I'm so confused and feels like am dying slowly, please I need advise on what to do or next step to take because am dying silently.t go to work for about a week, during same period my scrountom balls became very painful that i couldnt go to work for about a week, during same period my scrountom balls became very painful that i couldn

I don't think these current symptoms are signs of any disease, they are just signs and wonders.

About 60,000 persons in Lagos and 100,000 persons in Rivers state are Hiv positive.

In 2016 we were told in a NACA seminar that 4 out 10 Nigerians have the virus. If this doesnt scare you enough to put your deek in check, I wonder what will.

The number is even for those that know their status and are prolly on drugs.

If you want to have unprotected sex with anyone, at least do general blood test with that person in a government hospital, its not expensive and some of them are free.

No let enjoyment kill you.

No HIV man those symptoms are more of typhoid and other minor viruses.

Why are u even looking for Hiv up and down?

The power of the mind is great beyond what u think.

God be with you @Op.get well

donstan18:
I don't think these current symptoms are signs of any disease, they are just signs and wonders.

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The top 4 hiv symptoms are
1 Fever
2 Swollen lymph nodes
3 red raised rash
4 sore throat

And from your explanation you got only fever out of this 4, so I think you don't have hiv rather it might just be a normal malaria or typhoid fever, but you still need to take the girl for text in other to put your mind completely at rest, i have been in your shoes countless number of times.

Lalasticlala don't you think this is Frontpage worthy

You dont have HIV bro GO AND SIN NO MORE

This is the only nairaland story that I believed actually happened.bro u got no hiv,dont go looking for something that u cant handle.

Even though you said you used condoms after the first incident [after initially sleeping w| her without protection], shouldn't the thought that you had contracted HIV from her scare you away from sleeping with her ever again? Because ayam not understanding how you thought you had contracted HIV after sleeping w| her without a condom or started showing symptoms of some sort, yet you proceeded to sleep with her "severally" thereafter. You keep shouting you've high libido, but that's no excuse to lose your rationale and be playing w| your life. But it's your life, so na you know.

Wahala

theButterfly:
Even though you said you used condoms after the first incident [after initially sleeping w| her without protection], shouldn't the thought that you had contracted HIV from her scare you away from sleeping with her ever again? Because ayam not understanding how you thought you had contracted HIV after sleeping w| her without a condom or started showing symptoms of some sort, yet you proceeded to sleep with her "severally" thereafter. You keep shouting you've high libido, but that's no excuse to lose your rationale and be playing w| your life. But it's your life, so na you know.

I only started sleeping with her without a condom after running hiv text on her and it came back negative.

Raysleek:
You dont have HIV bro GO AND SIN NO MORE

I'm really hoping so, am just so scared. I haven't been myself this past few days.

chidekings:
This is the only nairaland story that I believed actually happened.bro u got no hiv,dont go looking for something that u cant handle.

I'm really hoping so, am just so scared. I haven't been myself this past few days. I'm so confused, am confused.

Iceking1:
The top 4 hiv symptoms are
1 Fever
2 Swollen lymph nodes
3 red raised rash
4 sore throat

And from your explanation you got only fever out of this 4, so I think you don't have hiv rather it might just be a normal malaria or typhoid fever, but you still need to take the girl for text in other to put your mind completely at rest, i have been in your shoes countless number of times.

Lalasticlala don't you think this is Frontpage worthy

Tank's bro you have me a huge relief with this, tank's so much

sinaj:
About 60,000 persons in Lagos and 100,000 persons in Rivers state are Hiv positive.

In 2016 we were told in a NACA seminar that 4 out 10 Nigerians have the virus. If this doesnt scare you enough to put your deek in check, I wonder what will.

The number is even for those that know their status and are prolly on drugs.

If you want to have unprotected sex with anyone, at least do general blood test with that person in a government hospital, its not expensive and some of them are free.

No let enjoyment kill you.

I have really learnt my lessons already, I have learnt so much.

AwkaetitiBabe:
God be with you @Op.get well

Thank you very much ma'am, God bless you abundantly.

Richy4:
So it seems that you have not heard of the HIV incubation period...What is wrong with young people of these days.. I think the Finance Minister of Nigeria should learn or borrow your reckless behaviour to improve the Economy of Nigeria..

I have learnt my lessons already sir, if God Almighty eventually makes me come out of this. I won't ever make such a mistake again

LazyGoat:



I only started sleeping with her without a condom after running hiv text on her and it came back negative.

You left this out in your original post oo - that you started sleeping with her without condom again. FYI, in some people, the window period that their body requires to develop HIV antibodies [the presence of HIV antibodies indicate that they've been infected with HIV] can be up to 6-months. You found out you were negative for HIV after the first test and the next thing is to jump back to sleeping with her without condoms, smh. I don't feel bad for you anymore b/c it's obvious you're intentionally choosing to be reckless.

Sorry o Mr high libido good for you

What a paranoid sissy. It seems what you think about all day is sex. You are indeed HIV positive. Go'an price casket, e nor too cost

Go run a HIV test. You'd never know until you do.

Richy4:


Please don't pledge what you cannot keep.. during the heat of passion in near future, you might not even remember that we had this Conversation in the first place..Please stop the reckless act. I know how it is when men were bragging infront of their friends on how powerful they are in bed etc..

But if u get infected which i believe you were not, u won't even remember how powerful you were in bed anymore because of the stigma attached to it in Africa.. all those people u were telling, they will run away.. even saying hello to them, it will look as if the virus was An airborne disease because of their responses ..

You are very right sir, all my life I have already tried to control my sexual urge. It's been years I have been fighting this but nothing good seems to be coming out of this fact it keeps getting worse as each and every day passes by I really don't know what to do anymore concerning this strong urge that is always pulling me withing. Always controlling me no matter how hard i try. It's such a pity that all this years I keeps on trying continously and endlessly but yet still getting same results.

theButterfly:
You left this out in your original post oo - that you started sleeping with her without condom again. FYI, in some people, the window period that their body requires to develop HIV antibodies [the presence of HIV antibodies indicate that they've been infected with HIV] can be up to 6-months. You found out you were negative for HIV after the first test and the next thing is to jump back to sleeping with her without condoms, smh. I don't feel bad for you anymore b/c it's obvious you're intentionally choosing to be reckless.

I did wrote it out above on my original post. I din't intentionally choosed to be reckless, but anyways thanks so much for your contribution I learnt a lot, I will take her for an hiv text only this can calm my mind down now.

sacx:
What a paranoid sissy. It seems what you think about all day is sex. You are indeed HIV positive. Go'an price casket, e nor too cost

That doesn't seems cool

abelswife:
Go run a HIV test. You'd never know until you do.

I will take her for an hiv text only this can calm my mind down right now. If I should do the text myself it won't show because it's not up to 3 months which is the end of window period

LazyGoat:



That doesn't seems cool

I was only giving some affirmation to your line of thought . You both seem young. Why don't you channel these energies to something more productive? Many times, having a high libido is simply something that has to do with your psyche and the things you constantly feed your mind on. 'Konji' is an illusion! Get busy.

I can bet a good chance that neither you nor her is HIV positive. Abstinence is the best, but if you must, use protection.

LazyGoat:




I will take her for an hiv text only this can calm my mind down right now. If I should do the text myself it won't show because it's not up to 3 months which is the end of window period

Only if I have enough time to correct all your grammatical blunders.


But let me correct this, it is test not text biko


HIV test