DEAR ORPHANS, WHEN YOU FEEL YOU CANNOT GO ON...

It is actually when you should fight more to live. You never knew how strong you are until you have to fight to survive and live! Keep moving! Keep dreaming! Suicide should not come to your mind as a solution to your troubles. Suicide should not come to your mind as the last option left for you to choose. I understand how impossible and difficult it is to live without a mother and a father to watch over you. I understand what it means to lose someone who birthed you and someone you once called mother or father. Those who have ever survived disasters would definitely understand what other survivors have experienced trying to conquer their own self and holding themselves against the shock, anxiety, confusion, denial, and the nightmares it bring to the body and soul.

However, it's demeaning to wake up one day and discover you can't see your parents again and the only thing left for you to see is their smiling faces on photos and the memories you shared together with them either in pains or in joy. Each time you pick up those pictures and watch their smiles, you can't help it but allow tears to flow. I know how it feels but rather than being depressed , you can find reasons to live again. Reasons to be happy again, reasons to put on a smiling face. There are many reasons to live a joyful life.

The worst of them all is when you remember all the memories of them and how your mother do call you son or daughter and how she always make sure you eat before she do! These memories are torn pages, they breathe life and take a different shape like that of a broken China plate. They hurt and torment at the same time —leaving you lonely.

Is life worth living? Yes. it is. Is there a future without your parents? Yes. there is beautiful future for you. Is there a dream to dream again? Yes. There are dreams. Dreams to make your parents happy where ever they might be. Dreams to keep their legacies alive. Dreams to keep their names and dreams to stay alive to train your own children and become the better version of you. When life seems unbearable, March on! Paddle your boat and sail freely out of the horizon of difficulties. Try to be more to yourself and to those who would help you to achieve all your dreams. Be ready to deal with everything squarely.

When disaster strikes... Don't let the troubles feel like a knife pierced into the heart. The physical pains should not stab you over and over again. You should be your own driving force behind every situation. Create a slogan for each situation and say them when you feel like giving up. You should master the act of crawling out of your black waters, you have to teach yourself that. You have to go extra mile to be happy. You know you are bigger than your problems, I think you know that? Yes, you are.

Master the properties of your problems before your lifesaver will come. Master the beauty and the opportunities they may bring forth as they journey through your life. Master how they come in shape and pattern their children. Master how they come in different voices before your lifesaver will arrive with a boat. Problems, sometimes, are their own casualties. They metamorphosed into different lines and obligations— striking and hoarding between the mainstream of your principles. Try to gather the fragments of your shattered life and reassemble them as best you can.

Meanwhile, in the long journey, find friends who will stand by you always. Those who understand you more than you understand yourself. Those friends will surely be shoulders to lean on when you feel like you can not go on with life. Those friends will help to paddle your boat for you and you may end up becoming better than you were yesterday. Do not swallow pains all by yourself. Seek for help from people around you. If it comes, good, if it doesn't come, keep asking and believing that one day; it will come. When you feel like you cannot go on again trust in God and believe that you are not alone, he stands by you.

©John Chizoba Vincent
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