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Zayttoven:
I'm looking for a female who's interested in a relationship which could lead to a marriage this year or next.

No bullshiting please!!!

It would do both of us a lot of good not wasting each others time.

I'm 31 years of age.

Tribe - Idoma.

I stand at 6'3.

Occupation - First Officer at Etihad Airways.

Complexion - Brown Skinned.

Religion - Christianity .

Lives in Abuja.

Interested candidates should possess at least 95% if not all of the characteristics.

Age - 22 - 28.

Preferably not Yoruba (I don't mean to discriminate but I have my reasons).

At least a graduate (Bachelors).

Working and earning (Employee or self employed).

Brown skinned.

Height - 5"8 (Minimum).

Should preferably reside in the F.C.T for meet-ups, dates, hangouts etcetera.

If you possess these characteristics and are interested, please don't hesitate to send a private message.

NB: I'm an avid member of a Nairaland (though I've always been a guest before registering today). So I know the usual bullshit to expect.

To all those who'll come on here with all the bullshit, saying my specs are not realistic or those who'll say I'm discriminating.

I'm not finding a girlfriend for you or better still, no be you wan marry na me.
Hope you get me.

For those who'll eventually say this forum is not the right place for this.
I truly am touched by your concern, but worry not I have everything under control.

Another important thing: I'm a pilot, so if you can't keep up with my regular absence, I'm sorry we can't work.

This has been a challenge but if you're ready to be committed, I promise we'll make a way.

Ciao.

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While you may not like to argue with your significant other, it probably happens sometimes. There are several reasons why arguing may be good for your relationship.

1. Arguing Allows You To Communicate Your Needs To Your Partner

As you may know from your romantic relationship, past or present, arguments come in all shapes and sizes. “Arguing is healthy because you get to communication your frustrations and needs to your partner. Arguing does not have to be malicious or cruel — you can have loving and compassionate conflict. Anger is a natural emotion, and it alerts us, letting us know that something doesn't feel good for us, and that is good to let your partner know.”

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Even if you don’t feel like talking to your partner about something that’s upsetting you, it’ll be worth it. “If you don’t talk it out, you’ll act it out,” The solution is to talk it out in an honest, frank, and respectful way. Dialogue is the solution. Silence causes the problem to continue.”

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When you and your significant argue, it may be about something that’s bothering them and you didn’t even know it. “Arguing — as long as it’s done without contempt, criticism, and defensiveness — can actually strengthen a romantic relationship.”

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In the short-term, while it may be easier to not argue and just ignore whatever issue is happening, arguing actually helps you and your partner evolve — individually and within your relationship. “Another good thing about arguing is that you get to grow from it, whether that’s by learning your triggers or your partner’s triggers, uncovering an underlying hurt, or learning how you can be hurtful,” Watson says. “Growth comes when you take the information from the argument and constructively apply it to repairing the relationship.