My husband is proposing to my younger sister because i have no child for the past five years of our marriage . He said if i refuse, he will marry one of my friend. Infact he appears in love with both. These are impossible conditions and i am very confused. Which do i accept. I know he is nuts and will go ahead with one.

Sorry for your plight, don't blame him too much, it takes a real man to understand and cope with the tensions that come with childlessness, If he's bent on having his way, let him go wit ur friend, it's better than going with ur sister.
What kinda sister do u have sef A real sister should never consider such a proposal let alone accepting.

I was wondering the same o,your sister must be evil.op please just take things easy and pray harder,all things are possible with God he'll do it for you.

Dis is really sad
its well all d same
bt ur frnd cld b evil 2
jst pray 4 d best

loveJoyce:

My husband is proposing to my younger sister because i have no child for the past five years of our marriage . He said if i refuse, he will marry one of my  friend. Infact he appears in love with both. These are impossible conditions and i am very confused. Which do i accept. I know he is nuts and will go ahead with one.

now this is hard to believe, so really what your husband is sayingis that he will divorce you,

Dyt:

Dis is really sad
its well all d same
bt your frnd cld b evil 2
jst pray 4 d best

Why do you write like retard?

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JUST A REMINDER,THIS TYPE OF MEDICAL PROBLEM CAN COME FROM EITHER OF YOU. WHY'S YOUR OWN SISTER IN THE PICTURE? YOU DON'T PROPOSE TO SOMEONE YOU DON'T KNOW. 5YRS, YES IS A LONG TIME, WHAT HAVE BOTH OF YOU BEEN DOING ABOUT THAT?

Your husband proposing to your sister?

Have you informed your parents?

Definitely there is something between him and your sister already.

Oh dear, why is he giving up on you having a child or is there a little known problem on your part that has prevented you from making a baby?? If not has it ever occured to you two that he may have a lil problem like low spermatozoa count etc and need to be checked out too for any anomaly to be corrected.
I am sure you are aware of this but in case you are not: Are you sure you two are are trying out for a baby at the perfect time in your cycle which is the ovulation period? I have heard a married woman who didn't know the right time to try out for a child until she got told by a doctor. This thread below is about a couple that was finding it difficult to make a baby until they took the good advice of Nairalanders which is basically good timing.

https://www.nairaland.com/nigeria/topic-147141.32.html

I truly feel for your plight and wonders how you must be feeling now, it's going to be alright okay Baby. Try calming your husband with much love so that you two can try all available option to succeed (if you have more options remaining). If he is insisting on marrying somebody else he shouldn't be unfeeling enough to have you choose for him and what is your sister doing in that picture? Doesn't she feel your pain? Let her know how much you hurt and that you need her to be loyal to you as a family now and not consent to your husband should he approach her.

Who is that Nigerian singer that sang a song about how she became pregnant years into her marriage and just at the throes of the painful period that her husband was about to marry another woman? May God help you as he helped her. Amen

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Mind your business sweetheart

Ivynwa 08:16:42 AM Viewing nwadelta's profile.

lagbaja20:

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Mind your business sweetheart
Ivynwa 08:16:42 AM Viewing nwadelta's profile.

What's the essence of shouting to the world whose profile I viewed dearie??
Dude had a thread on wanting to leave his white wife to try out black chics and I checked it out to see whether he has acted against our advice and done his wish.
https://www.nairaland.com/nigeria/topic-534600.0.html
There's no need for you to play detective on me, is there?
Now let's leave the thread for our sister to get more advice and consolation from good NLs. May the new year be good for you and us all.

Ivynwa:

What's the essence of shouting to the world whose profile I viewed dearie??
Dude had a thread on wanting to leave his white wife and try out black chics and I checked it out to see whether he has done that.
There's no need for you to play detective on me, is there?

In the same token, there's no need for you to play detective on nwadelta, is there?

I wasn't doing that.
The detective should be the one watching the clicks of all. How about that? Now we ain't throwing words sweetie, are we? Hope your Xmas was nice? Goodnight!

lagbaja20:

Why do you write like not-so-smart person?

if my posts gets u all worked up y nt jst hang ursef

@poster
A) he may be the problem here and therefore marriage to anyone would be as fruitless as yours.
B) the minute you accept this BS, and his new bride gets pregnant, is the minute you will become worthless in this union. i can already see the abuse flying day in and day out till you decide to jump in the lagoon to end it all.
C) even if you were sterile, if he has a problem with it then you guys should divorce and each find happiness elsewhere. staying and being humiliated in such manner will only show your low self esteem and lack of emotional strength.
D) the fact that your OWN blood would consider such evil man, and be a concubine is alarming. 9ja women would really do ANYTHING to get the "wife" status. NIGERIA NA WA OH!

^^^^shocked?! probably not. saddened by how low some of our sistas would go for marriage (and how some parents would vouch for such wedding)?! HELL YEAH!!!

know a man who married his wife's younger sis. MIL supported despite d huge age diff.
now after 5 kids she's back home

MRbrownJAY:

@poster
A) he may be the problem here and therefore marriage to anyone would be as fruitless as yours.
B) the minute you accept this BS, and his new bride gets pregnant, is the minute you will become worthless in this union. i can already see the abuse flying day in and day out till you decide to jump in the lagoon to end it all.
C) even if you were sterile, if he has a problem with it then you guys should divorce and each find happiness elsewhere. staying and being humiliated in such manner will only show your low self esteem and lack of emotional strength.
D) the fact that your OWN blood would consider such evil man, and be a concubine is alarming. 9ja women would really do ANYTHING to get the "wife" status. NIGERIA NA WA OH!

True.

let him do wat eva he want to do it is beta u don't choice for him cos wat he want to do is an abormination to God

No issues for 5 years? Did both of you go for medical test? If you have not done so, why not do that first before taking a decision? But your husband seems to have made up his mind about replacing you. From the look of it, he has been seeking solace from your sister and friend. Now he wants to finally replace you. Its up to you now to decide if you want to save your marriage or not. It is absurd for your husband to add insult to injury by asking you to decide who should replace you. If on the long run you decide you can not continue, get divorce and move on with your life.

@OP -

Neither you or your husband appear to be serious people in a serious marriage. You have already accepted it will happen; you just want NLanders to underline the choice for you. Is it possible that a man can be in love with his wife, her sister and her friend all at the same time as you have said? You claim he is nuts; as this seem to be your way of excusing your acceptance of this silly thing you guys plan to do.

You need to respect yourself as a woman, otherwise you cannot expect your husband to respect you. Have you done anything regarding your inability to conceive so far? Have you been tracking your ovulation periods? Have you both gone for tests to find out the cause? Have you checked your hormone levels? Have you undergone any treatment?

be more concern about yourself than your husand if he maries any one you can also find another partner. noe thing is needful PRAY.

Unbelievable

I bet this is a joke cos I doubt a man can be that heartless.
Poster, now tell us the true story.

loveJoyce:

Presently Many married women just faked as mothers and wives while playing the field harder as prostitudes.

Sadly, My boyfriend left me a year ago. now. I may be in need of someone to love,  I am mature and beautiful, My friends told me about the site------ http://bestkept-secrets..com/p/best-kept-secrets-learn-from.html   and i got curious about it. they met their boyfriends there., said It's the best place to meet a wealthy lover, So i got a username ---Claraphil --- there in order to find a new wealthy boyfriend. is it wrong? Very interesting but dubious guys may not enjoy there.

THIS POSTER IS REALLY MARRIED. TOO MUCH LIES AND FAKE PEOPLE ON NLAND

loveJoyce:

My husband is proposing to my younger sister because i have no child for the past five years of our marriage . He said if i refuse, he will marry one of my  friend. Infact he appears in love with both. These are impossible conditions and i am very confused. Which do i accept. I know he is nuts and will go ahead with one.

Within 1 week this poster is married without child for 5 yrs.

^^^

poster got bursted

na wa for jobless, hopeless and senseless pple o.

and to think i actually gave a damn

The story was way too abusive and extreme for me.