I think i have low self esteem despite achieving some feat in my academic life by God's Grace. I don't seem to really figure out my purpose and I hate reading long books( motivational books) and i can't put into practice the little i read from them ( inspirational books) either . What do you suggest I do

1. Love Yourself More

When you find that you constantly can’t stand
your thoughts and actions is a common sign of
low self-esteem. This is characterized by having
a negative self-image and feeling angry and
frustrated. There is a negative voice in your head
always criticizing everything you do and not
forgiving yourself for even the smallest mistake.
You can rise above this by silencing the negative
voice in your head and deliberately repeating a
positive response for every negative thought
you may have. Remind yourself that nobody is
perfect and learn to forgive you. Celebrate all
your successes without trying to belittle them no
matter how small they may appear to you.

.
2. Know your Strengths

When you have low self-esteem you will most
likely have a negative body image. You are
constantly comparing yourself to others noticing
even the smallest faults in your body. This
creates insecurities which affect your relationship
and how you project yourself at work. It can
also cause you to stop taking care of yourself
since you feel like it is not worth trying.
You can solve this by first stopping comparing
yourself to others. Know that everyone is
different and we all have our different strengths
and weakness. Learn where your strengths lie
and focus on them. Look after your physical
health by eating healthily and having a daily
exercise routine. Make a conscious plan to look
after your appearance.
.

3. Learn to Say ‘No’
When you don’t love yourself you are likely to
believe that other people will also not like you. So
you will likely go out of your way to do things
for others because you feel is the only way that
you can get them to like you. You will find
yourself overstretching to please others that you
don’t find time to do your own thing, therefore,
affecting your mental health. This will leave you
feeling used and aggrieved.
Although it is good to offer a helping hand, you
should also learn to set boundaries and decide
what you can and cannot do. Your worth
doesn’t depend on other people’s approval,
therefore, you shouldn’t agree to do things that
you don’t want to do just so others will like you.
Learn to say “No” and stick to your decision.
.

4. Go Easy on Yourself

When you have low self-esteem, you live with
this constant fear of failure because no matter
what you do, however impressive, is just not
good enough for you. You find yourself
stressing over the smallest problems and
therefore forget to celebrate your big successes
and accomplishment.
You can get over this perfectionist obsession by
setting realistic expectations for yourself and
remember that you are only human. Remember
that failing at something does not make a failure
as a person. Set your focus on the bigger
accomplishments and celebrate that.
.

5. Don’t Be too Sensitive

You get easily hurt and angered by any
comment or criticism directed at you. You start
feeling that others don’t respect you and that
your feelings aren’t important to them. This hurt
and anger turn to feelings of resentment against
everyone around you.
You can turn this around by learning to
differentiate between constructive criticisms and
comments that are not true. Learn to make the
necessary changes if the criticism is meant as a
constructive one and also learn to move on. If
the comment is unfair, learn to stand for yourself
and say you disagree.
A healthy self esteem is primarily determined by
how you perceive yourself. When you set your
thoughts to feel positively about yourself and life
in general, you will be able to overcome
everything that comes your way.

chatinent:
1. Love Yourself More

When you find that you constantly can’t stand
your thoughts and actions is a common sign of
low self-esteem. This is characterized by having
a negative self-image and feeling angry and
frustrated. There is a negative voice in your head

always criticizing everything you do and not
forgiving yourself for even the smallest mistake.
You can rise above this by silencing the negative
voice in your head and deliberately repeating a
positive response for every negative thought
you may have. Remind yourself that nobody is
perfect and learn to forgive you. Celebrate all
your successes without trying to belittle them no
matter how small they may appear to you.

.
2. Know your Strengths

When you have low self-esteem you will most
likely have a negative body image. You are
constantly comparing yourself to others noticing
even the smallest faults in your body. This
creates insecurities which affect your relationship
and how you project yourself at work. It can
also cause you to stop taking care of yourself
since you feel like it is not worth trying.
You can solve this by first stopping comparing
yourself to others. Know that everyone is
different and we all have our different strengths
and weakness. Learn where your strengths lie
and focus on them. Look after your physical
health by eating healthily and having a daily
exercise routine. Make a conscious plan to look
after your appearance.
.

3. Learn to Say ‘No’
When you don’t love yourself you are likely to
believe that other people will also not like you. So
you will likely go out of your way to do things
for others because you feel is the only way that
you can get them to like you. You will find
yourself overstretching to please others that you
don’t find time to do your own thing, therefore,
affecting your mental health. This will leave you
feeling used and aggrieved.
Although it is good to offer a helping hand, you
should also learn to set boundaries and decide
what you can and cannot do. Your worth
doesn’t depend on other people’s approval,
therefore, you shouldn’t agree to do things that
you don’t want to do just so others will like you.
Learn to say “No” and stick to your decision.
.

4. Go Easy on Yourself

When you have low self-esteem, you live with
this constant fear of failure because no matter
what you do, however impressive, is just not
good enough for you. You find yourself
stressing over the smallest problems and
therefore forget to celebrate your big successes
and accomplishment.
You can get over this perfectionist obsession by
setting realistic expectations for yourself and
remember that you are only human. Remember
that failing at something does not make a failure
as a person. Set your focus on the bigger
accomplishments and celebrate that.
.

5. Don’t Be too Sensitive

You get easily hurt and angered by any
comment or criticism directed at you. You start
feeling that others don’t respect you and that
your feelings aren’t important to them. This hurt
and anger turn to feelings of resentment against
everyone around you.
You can turn this around by learning to
differentiate between constructive criticisms and
comments that are not true. Learn to make the
necessary changes if the criticism is meant as a
constructive one and also learn to move on. If
the comment is unfair, learn to stand for yourself
and say you disagree.
A healthy self esteem is primarily determined by
how you perceive yourself. When you set your
thoughts to feel positively about yourself and life
in general, you will be able to overcome
everything that comes your way.

thank you sir..how can i make it more practical

Loris576:
thank you sir..how can i make it more practical

It all depends on you.

Loris576:
I think i have low self esteem despite achieving some feat in my academic life by God's Grace. I don't seem to really figure out my purpose and I hate reading long books( motivational books) and i can't put into practice the little i read from them ( inspirational books) either . What do you suggest I do

Brother, there's only one way to have purpose and self-esteem in life and that's to know what God says about you. Read this please: https://www.desiringgod.org/articles/lay-aside-the-weight-of-low-self-image

Loris576:
I think i have low self esteem despite achieving some feat in my academic life by God's Grace. I don't seem to really figure out my purpose and I hate reading long books( motivational books) and i can't put into practice the little i read from them ( inspirational books) either . What do you suggest I do

look for an download the code of the extraordinary mind by vishen lakhiani. It's not a regular book.

Lamb101:
look for an download the code of the extraordinary mind by vishen lakhiani. It's not a regular book.

I must say the book is really good and practical..I'm almost through with it.Thank you

Loris576:

I must say the book is really good and practical..I'm almost through with it.Thank you

I am really happy to hear this. Good luck.

Lamb101:
I am really happy to hear this. Good luck.

thank you