I wanted 3 kids but settled for 4 with my wife. The last is almost 3yrs. My wife has been practicing safe period sex which has been working for us even in the spacing of our kids. The method just failed and my wife has been devastated, she has lost touch with things around her, she cries, lost appetite, suffering insomnia. I've done all I could to make her get over it and it's not working. I fear for her health. Many things are bothering her, the thought of starting afresh (she has given out all our baby things), going through pregnancy wahalla etc. Pls ur advice and words of encouragement will be highly appreciated on how to weather this storm. Thanks

Djei:
I wanted 3 kids but settled for 4 with my wife. The last is almost 3yrs. My wife has been practicing safe period sex which has been working for us even in the spacing of our kids. The method just failed and my wife has been devastated, she has lost touch with things around her, she cries, lost appetite, suffering insomnia. I've done all I could to make her get over it and it's not working. I fear for her health. Many things are bothering her, the thought of starting afresh (she has given out all our baby things), going through pregnancy wahalla etc. Pls ur advice and words of encouragement will be highly appreciated on how to weather this storm. Thanks

This is sad, but why didnt you USE CONDOM or VASECTOMY?

That would have saved you all these na.

Djei:
I wanted 3 kids but settled for 4 with my wife. The last is almost 3yrs. My wife has been practicing safe period sex which has been working for us even in the spacing of our kids. The method just failed and my wife has been devastated, she has lost touch with things around her, she cries, lost appetite, suffering insomnia. I've done all I could to make her get over it and it's not working. I fear for her health. Many things are bothering her, the thought of starting afresh (she has given out all our baby things), going through pregnancy wahalla etc. Pls ur advice and words of encouragement will be highly appreciated on how to weather this storm. Thanks

Your wife is a good woman

sorry this is not funny.....but she should know there's nothing like 100% safe sex, and know that such could happen to any woman unless she is in menopause even birth control has failed women its just luck.

my neighbour had same issue but now the child is grown .....she will get through it, it's not always as bad as she might be thinking , she is definitely over thinking/stressing it

Acmepreneur:

Your wife is stupid and a disgrace to womanhood. She's supposed to be angry with you, yet she's angry with herself. A God's gift is pregnancy, I feel like slapping you for hurting your wife

Just imagine the truckload of bullshit you settled down to type this morning...

It's not a MUST to comment on every thread.... Try and hide your gross stupidity sometimes.


Cc; dominique, can you see this type of disgusting comment?

Djei:
I wanted 3 kids but settled for 4 with my wife. The last is almost 3yrs. My wife has been practicing safe period sex which has been working for us even in the spacing of our kids. The method just failed and my wife has been devastated, she has lost touch with things around her, she cries, lost appetite, suffering insomnia. I've done all I could to make her get over it and it's not working. I fear for her health. Many things are bothering her, the thought of starting afresh (she has given out all our baby things), going through pregnancy wahalla etc. Pls ur advice and words of encouragement will be highly appreciated on how to weather this storm. Thanks

Engineer, she's your wife and you know exactly what makes her feel relax and happy, you've to be there for her now.... You know how most women tends to over react for little or no reason..


But Engineer, make una hold body small.... It must not be knacking at every meeting..

Oga it's one of two things na.

You either choose to abort or keep the baby.
Let her not end up having a baby she'll hate.

Besides, concerning this being her biggest worry presently mean say other bigger problems we are collectively facing, viz. COVIK ONE-NINE, impending hunger crisis, massive unemployment, etc no reach her side.

Acmepreneur:

Your wife is stupid and a disgrace to womanhood. She's supposed to be angry with you, yet she's angry with herself. A God's gift is pregnancy, I feel like slapping you for hurting your wife

It's too early to be spewing this kind of drivel, don't you think

Acmepreneur:

Your wife is stupid and a disgrace to womanhood. She's supposed to be angry with you, yet she's angry with herself. A God's gift is pregnancy, I feel like slapping you for hurting your wife

My brother don't mind those people insulting you above and below us jare. You have sense but they just cant phantom the fact that yours works from your anus. Carry go jare. Nothing do you.

This is sad, but why didnt you USE CONDOM or VASECTOMY?

That would have saved you all these na.



Vasectomy? Will look into that in the future. Have any idea of the side effects? Thanks

xendra:
sorry this is not funny.....but she should know there's nothing like 100% safe sex, and know that such could happen to any woman unless she is in menopause even birth control has failed women its just luck.

my neighbour had same issue but now the child is grown .....she will get through it, it's not always as bad as she might be thinking , she is definitely over thinking/stressing it

She never envisaged it, it is working for her elder sis that's why she relied on the method. Thanks for ur concern

Erediauwa:
Engineer, she's your wife and you know exactly what makes her feel relax and happy, you've to be there for her now.... You know how most women tends to over react for little or no reason..


But Engineer, make una hold body small.... It must not be knacking at every meeting..

Thanks for your concern bro.

DanseMacabre:
Oga it's one of two things na.

You either choose to abort or keep the baby.
Let her not end up having a baby she'll hate.

Besides, concerning this being her biggest worry presently mean say other bigger problems we are collectively facing, viz. COVIK ONE-NINE, impending hunger crisis, massive unemployment, etc no reach her side.

I don't think abortion is an option. Those problems wey u mention dey sha but na d one wey pinch am pass matter. I hope with time she'll get over it. Thanks for stopping by

Acmepreneur:

Your wife is stupid and a disgrace to womanhood. She's supposed to be angry with you, yet she's angry with herself. A God's gift is pregnancy, I feel like slapping you for hurting your wife

Indeed. Did you put money in their pockets?

Djei:


I don't think abortion is an option. Those problems wey u mention dey sha but na d one wey pinch am pass matter. I hope with time she'll get over it. Thanks for stopping by

Abortion is an option unless you both left it late. You both can agree and simply evacuate. Don't allow religion cloud your rational mind.

Djei:
This is sad, but why didnt you USE CONDOM or VASECTOMY?

That would have saved you all these na.



Vasectomy? Will look into that in the future. Have any idea of the side effects? Thanks

You'll get fat. There's always the pull out method.

just try to calm her down and promise to assist her during this period, with time she'll be calm and adjust.
at last it will end in praise

Acmepreneur:

Your wife is stupid and a disgrace to womanhood. She's supposed to be angry with you, yet she's angry with herself. A God's gift is pregnancy, I feel like slapping you for hurting your wife

@op

What ever you do, don't listen to this person up here. No one hurt anyone. It's normal for her to feel that way especially in this recent economic development of the world. Her crying and mood swings could also be part of pregnancy hormones. Just keep reassuring her that everything will be fine. You can even promise to register her in a gym as soon as she gives birth so she can snap back into shape. I wish you both a smooth pregnancy and safe delivery.

Djei:
I wanted 3 kids but settled for 4 with my wife. The last is almost 3yrs. My wife has been practicing safe period sex which has been working for us even in the spacing of our kids. The method just failed and my wife has been devastated, she has lost touch with things around her, she cries, lost appetite, suffering insomnia. I've done all I could to make her get over it and it's not working. I fear for her health. Many things are bothering her, the thought of starting afresh (she has given out all our baby things), going through pregnancy wahalla etc. Pls ur advice and words of encouragement will be highly appreciated on how to weather this storm. Thanks

She need to read this

She should calm down unless she is ready to bear the pains of getting rid of it

Her parents are in best position to calm her down since yours in not making impact on her

Her overall health is the most important thing now not even what she needs to get for the baby

Besides what she needs can be gotten by bits

She definitely need a flask but flasks are also important to the family

She needs just little baby dress as this may be her last child so she doesn't need much

If she gets too worried she may develop unhealthy complications and it will cost an unplanned extra expenses before and affect birth

After everything, pls follow her to family planning unit and be part of it

It's always good for both parents to participate

Finally, the entire family will be glad to have a little baby that will keep everyone happy and playfull at home

Op, pls and pls, never try any nonsense like abortion as that child is a blessing to you and his/her generation. Seek for God's grace to provide to train them. Calm down your wife and give her your support to overcome this trying period so that her BP doesn't go high and could trigger complication. I hope you never started blaming her hence her state of health now?

Look for good Dr and abort the pregnancy, if it's not already too late. Those saying "don't abort" are not going to be the ones to feed and wipe your baby's ass.

I really feel for your wife,
this can be really depressing

fieryy:
Look for good Dr and abort the pregnancy, if it's not already too late. Those saying "don't abort" are not going to be the ones to feed and wipe your baby's ass.

The dude above even call it "a blessing"


When they lack self control with reproduction, they tag it "Gift from God"

Djei:
I wanted 3 kids but settled for 4 with my wife. The last is almost 3yrs. My wife has been practicing safe period sex which has been working for us even in the spacing of our kids. The method just failed and my wife has been devastated, she has lost touch with things around her, she cries, lost appetite, suffering insomnia. I've done all I could to make her get over it and it's not working. I fear for her health. Many things are bothering her, the thought of starting afresh (she has given out all our baby things), going through pregnancy wahalla etc. Pls ur advice and words of encouragement will be highly appreciated on how to weather this storm. Thanks

Just imagine that it is twins.

We call it double double

Hugs to madam. It can be very sad especially if she wants to go guns blazing on whatever she wants to do.

fieryy:
Look for good Dr and abort the pregnancy, if it's not already too late. Those saying "don't abort" are not going to be the ones to feed and wipe your baby's ass.

I'd have agreed with you totally on this if only abortion was legal in Nigeria. The ones who may agree to do it are certainly not good doctors who risk their license being withdrawn. So it's pretty much unsafe for them both. He doesn't even seem to want abortion too. I hope they're able to make the right decision tho.

neloyah:




I'd have agreed with you totally on this if only abortion was legal in Nigeria. The ones who may agree to do it are certainly not good doctors who risk their license being withdrawn. So it's pretty much unsafe for them both. He doesn't even seem to want abortion too. I hope they're able to make the right decision tho.

Wait, hold on. Abortion is illegal in Nigeria?!!

fieryy:


Wait, hold on. Abortion is illegal in Nigeria?!!

Sadly, it is.

neloyah:


Sadly, it is.

I actually had no idea


OP, I'm really really sorry about you and your wife's situation. The entire situation just really dawned on me

And how is his wife stupid and a disgrace to womanhood? She needs encouragement and not insult.

Acmepreneur:

Your wife is stupid and a disgrace to womanhood. She's supposed to be angry with you, yet she's angry with herself. A God's gift is pregnancy, I feel like slapping you for hurting your wife

If abortion is not an option for you guys, encourage her to make the best of the situation and go straight to nexplanon when the baby is born.
Renew every two years and never worry about unplanned pregnancy. There are side effects (just as with all of them) but if you guys don’t do something definite about it, it will happen again.

Pregnancy is a natural result of unprotected sex.
You could get a vasectomy as well.
Good luck.

What has happened has happened... maybe u can consider adoption after birth. There are couples I guess that will love to take care of it.. instead of being sad.. just keep that as an option too

xendra:
sorry this is not funny.....but she should know there's nothing like 100% safe sex, and know that such could happen to any woman unless she is in menopause even birth control has failed women its just luck.

my neighbour had same issue but now the child is grown .....she will get through it, it's not always as bad as she might be thinking , she is definitely over thinking/stressing it

it's not funny but you are laughing all over your post