Hello everybody. How are things with you all? I have a proposition. It’s a pretty tough catch but doable and refreshing. Don’t bother about how intense it is going to be. I am sure it will pan out just fine.
You know, whenever somebody tells me to back off, I don’t listen because I believe I deserve a chance and I should very well be heard in all situations. So, my little sister told me when I feel hurt by certain words, I should just make sure I write them all down and read them out loud. She says it helps to feel better indeed. I have never tried it out and I look forward to doing that. Although, more importantly, I really do not wish to be hurt any further by any kind of words from anyone at all. I have had more than my fair share of curses, hate words and filthy stuffs thrown at me even by loved ones. People barely understand that we are all made the same actually. We are all fashioned the same way. You know very well that this thing you are saying to a person will hurt you greatly if said to you. Why then will you want to do that to any person at all? It’s pure wickedness and evil if I may add. Worst(Best) part of it all is that we do not control life. It just chooses who it wills sometimes and throws those things that I think are called problems, at the person. Now, you don’t know if it would be you in a worse situation tomorrow. I mean for a split second, stop and consider the fact that this person, whom you are mocking and throwing terrible words at, probably cause of what they are presently facing, was fine just the other day and you do not know what awaits you tomorrow. How more cruel can a person get? Or should I even say how more stupid? Lets even assume, you’ve got it all figured out. Heck you’re living the dream and at the point you are, it is totally impossible for you to go down under ever again. Let me ask a question. Do you have control over your health? Or life as it is. Do you know the day you die? So why not just be nice. Why not just look at the next person going through stuff and say it could just be anyone or me even and just dish out a smile or a hug. Even just looking away and ignoring that person will well enough do.
I think I will be right to say, 98% of suicide cases have roots of hurtful words. Not necessarily heartbreak or whatever. It’s just when that person has a constant and haunting reminder of what a certain someone said about his/her present case that really gets overwhelming and makes that person just feel like disappearing. Not because they are depressed due to their present situation but because they want to run away from giving someone else a chance or the luxury of inflicting them with such an unpleasant pain that comes from hurtful words. Yes, it’s more grievous than we know. And it is never okay to hurt a person in such a way and come back and say sorry. Jesus Christ is not human. He is a supreme spiritual being and has absolute power to wipe out His memory if He so desires. But we are humans. Those words never really go away. Even when the strong ones hold on and get through it all, it might not hurt anymore but the dislike towards the offender will be there for eternity. I mean you do not really gain anything from it, do you? We must discipline ourselves. It’s very possible to hold your tongue, even in the face of deep provocation. People please, life is beautiful indeed when we spread love and happiness around. In fact, it helps us feel better, knowing we just did a good thing by making someone happy.
So, the proposition I have is;

PLEASE, be nice or be quiet. See? Pretty easy isn’t it?.

"PLEASE, be nice or be quiet. See? Pretty easy isn’t it?."
absolutely NOT.

Why not?

Enoch07:
"PLEASE, be nice or be quiet. See? Pretty easy isn’t it?."

absolutely NOT.

Yuceeluv:
Why not?

Because we're humans. We are complicated creatures that are difficult to understand (our persoonalities differ from one person to another) and yet, we're basic animals that thrive on the principle of "survival of the fittest".
Emotions are biological signals meant to push us in the direction of positive change. Humans are very much psychological. Whenever we sense that we are being threatened, be it perceived or not, we impulsively react to solve the problem, to ensure our survival. It's a primal instinct that's extremely hard to control.
I'm very emotional. I get hurt easily and one word can leave me depressed for weeks. And that's the exact reason i end up being agressive most of the time esp. if i feel threatened. I've used foul words on people i adore and i've acted in ways that were simply fvcked up.
I agree that anger, hurt and fear need to be controlled but that's like teaching a tiger not to bite. It's wrong, but we do it to feel safe.

And when do you percieve you are being threatened? You can not feel threatened when someone does not throw hurtful words at you.

In other words, it still boils down to what i am saying.

Funny enough, my write up was a pure reference to people who have bullied you and many others with words! We would both agree that you will have no reason to be DEFENSIVE without an OFFENCE.

Dew04:
Because we're humans. We are complicated creatures that are difficult to understand (our persoonalities differ from one person to another) and yet, we're basic animals that thrive on the principle of "survival of the fittest".
Emotions are biological signals meant to push us in the direction of positive change. Humans are very much psychological. Whenever we sense that we are being threatened, be it perceived or not, we impulsively react to solve the problem, to ensure our survival. It's a primal instinct that's extremely hard to control.
I'm very emotional. I get hurt easily and one word can leave me depressed for weeks. And that's the exact reason i end up being agressive most of the time esp. if i feel threatened. I've used foul words on people i adore and i've acted in ways that were simply fvcked up.
I agree that anger, hurt and fear need to be controlled but that's like teaching a tiger not to bite. It's wrong, but we do it to feel safe.

Yuceeluv:
And when do you percieve you are being threatened? You can not feel threatened when someone does not throw hurtful words at you.

Actually, people respond more to other's body language than their words. Feeling threatened doesn't narrow down to being vebally abused.

In other words, it still boils down to what i am saying.
Funny enough, my write up was a pure reference to people who have bullied you and many others with words! We would both agree that you will have no reason to be DEFENSIVE without an OFFENCE.

i agree. Some people hurt others for no reason other than make them feel bad about themselves.
I was once bullied for my petite size by a girl who is over_weight. What she did was mean, but i guess her insecurities pushed her to it. It doesn't justify her actions though. Weirdly, she percieved me as a threat. Someone else must have bullied her and she in turn, has done the same to others. It's pathetic though..

Now that roller coaster, is all i am trying to avoid. It always starts from someone and that person is who i am talking to.

Dew04:
Actually, people respond more to other's body language than their words. Feeling threatened doesn't narrow down to being vebally abused.
i agree. Some people hurt others for no reason other than make them feel bad about themselves.
I was once bullied for my petite size by a girl who is over_weight. What she did was mean, but i guess her insecurities pushed her to it. It doesn't justify her actions though. Weirdly, she percieved me as a threat. Someone else must have bullied her and she in turn, has done the same to others. It's pathetic though..