So we come to Nairaland and read stories of sexual deviancies and risky sexual behaviours.

There's a story right now on the top of the FrontPage of how a girlfriend is cheating with a choir member right at the church premises. On one of the occasions she had even had sex with her boyfriend just within 3 hours of her cheating.

Then in Romance section, there is a story of a young man that was rubbing his body member into a girl's buttocks right inside the bank. He knows there was risk of loss of dignity right there and yet he carried on. Inside the thread there are similar stories. Some in support, some against.

How do we react to these stories?

We mock the victims. Lash out at the perpetrators. Fight among the sexes. Many hypocritically doing so, knowing they have done similar things just within the week.

While there are many also who look on at how these people are judged and judge themselves just as intensely, knowing that not only are they doing the same things but they haven't been able to stop, even after promising themselves they would finally stop beginning this new month, this new year, my birthday, etc

Then there are those that are somehow making money out of their plight. Those selling body for money, on Facebook, twitter, telegram, WhatsApp, Nairaland, on the street, etc. They know they have serious problems. Problems they wish to stop but they have this distorted realities that making money out of it justify their sickness. So they dance on twitter, they share pics of themselves in "swim wears" online, they post pics of their joysticks under girls' twerk videos.

The list goes on.

The problem is that my country Nigeria does not realise these are signs of a deadly sickness - sex addiction. Rendering our men and women hopeless. And willing to risk their lives. Depressed, unmotivated, inability to learn complex things because of loss of cognitive abilities, lack of innovation, fear, financial recklessness, poverty, high sexual risks (to themselves and others, including rape), and suicidal.

But the major problem is that we do not have access to qualified mental doctors in Nigeria. Nigeria has not even recognised sex addiction as a public health challenge. They still call it immorality, instead of what it actually is, sickness!

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God help us

Thanks to religion some people with sexual addiction won't be able to come out and seek help because if they do they will tagged as sinners, demons, agent of the devil and so on.

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