Emotions can get in the way or get you on the way.

-Mavis Mazhura




The emotions we experience from painful or too much pleasurable events can sometimes leave us in a confused state, in the aftermath that we cannot remain in the situation that had caused these feelings in the first place. 

Someone falls in love, and is finally happy that he has met the love of his life. Unfortunately, he experiences a breakup. And the whole thing becomes like a nightmare. To escape his new reality, he lives out the good part of the relationship in his head even after the death of the relationship. 

How can he come to reality, and still be happy again without the relationship? 

If you're familiar with the adrenaline gush of being in love, you might understand how a breakup could often be interpreted as a possible cessation to our lifetime happiness! 

Because of this, a break up can be very devastating emotionally. Not many people easily survive it, especially for the first few weeks after the announcement. 

Some people often find a distraction to help them forget the memories that seems on a non stop replay in their head. Not a moment goes by without any of the beautiful moments they've had together showing up its face. It can be really frustrating! 

A breakup from a marriage, relationship, loss of a good job and other things similar to this can be very hard to bear, especially with all of the benefits we've experienced from those moments. 

As a result, we may experience an emotional breakdown from any of these life's events. 

The possible breakdown isn't because we're weak, or that we cannot move on from the event. We're emotional beings. And past event become only emotions once gone. This means, we're having to deal with more difficult-to-process emotions from the fallout. 

Someone who loses a loved one can be overwhelmed with the memories of their lives together, that they may now assume it's impossible at that point to continue to live without the deceased. From retrospect, we know this isn't true. We are just hurting at that point from the thoughts of not seeing this person again. 

Grieve isn't only felt in the case of death. Even relationship breakups and marriage separations are like grieving something that was once alive. 

Events like these tend to affect our mental wellbeing, and talking about it can be hard to express in words. 

However, we must find a way to let go, such that we're able to move on with our lives too. Because the dawn of every new day is for us to start life afresh again, no matter how dark the previous night was. 

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