When someone confesses or is caught in an affair one of the first things they say is, "one thing led to another", "I didn't mean to" or "It was the devil"

Most people don't set out to cheat. It all starts small. It begins with a thought that goes uncontested, nurtured to fantasy and clouds our sense of right and wrong.

This is difficult for most men. Our DNA is preloaded with the strong instinct to feel attraction and desire, yet life and morality demand that we are able to control those instincts.

For the sake of our marriages, relationships, or just spiritual well-being, we need to be able to find the answer. As far as sex is concerned, the more one enjoys it, the more intense a burning desire will arise. The thirst increases due to enjoyment. These few steps can help one be in charge of one's self control;

1. AVOID TEMPTING SITUATIONS.
The last thing you want to do is find yourself alone with the object of your unhealthy desires, whether images or actual people.

2. AVOID PORNOGRAPHY.
Avoiding porn will help guard against lust. porn creates unrealistic expectations and fantasies which field our sexual desires in a bid to fulfill those desires.

3. USE SOCIAL MEDIA WITH CAUTION.
There are many benefits of social media, but there are just as many pitfalls. We are reunited with people from our past and introduced to those who are new. Old Sparks can be renewed or new ones can be lit. Always remain alert to true intentions when using social media.

4. CHOOSE YOUR FRIENDS WISELY.
When battling sexual temptation, there are plenty of people we can find that will encourage and enable it. You can still be their friends. Avoid friends who only talk about sex and more sex.

5. KEEP HIGH STANDARDS.
To be a gentleman is a choice. A very good choice, and this world today needs many more. Despite the vast amount of of temptations that life throws our way, we should hold ourselves to the highest of moral standards.

6. REDIRECT YOUR PASSION.
Rather than being controlled by untamed lust, direct that passion in positive directions. Use that energy to brainstorm about ways you can use to improve on yourself or others.

CONSIDER THE CONSEQUENCES.
While pondering the object of your desire, also ponder the consequences of actions. Always think about the end game; soul ties, spiritual manipulations, STIs etc.

7. PRAY CONSISTENTLY.
Prayer is the act of communicating your thoughts, worries, hopes and dreams to God. Lift up the desires you are feeling and ask God for help. God made you and knows you and can deliver you time and time again.

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I agree with the OP's point except No. 7.

Prayer does not change anything.

Just do the first 6 and you're safe.

My opinion tho.

I got something to say,but one thing led to another and I totally forgot.

ggirl4real:
I agree with the OP's point except No. 7.

Prayer does not change anything.

Just do the first 6 and you're safe.

My opinion tho.

Your opinion is very subjective sir.

I usually thought prayers were just a tradition and not a necessity.

I used to be more logical and less into the supernatural; but the truth is praying to God is just you opening your heart to your Father, it doesn't mean you must hear his voice. Speak to the father about your worries and failings and strength, on any matter at all and leave it there.

Trust me, you find yourself feeling better.

PS: Don't pray like the Gentile in the parable did.

Ehiscotch:


Your opinion is very subjective sir.

I usually thought prayers were just a tradition and not a necessity.

I used to be more logical and less into the supernatural; but the truth is praying to God is just you opening your heart to your Father, it doesn't mean you must hear his voice. Speak to the father about your worries and failings and strength, on any matter at all and leave it there.

Trust me, you find yourself feeling better.

PS: Don't pray like the Gentile in the parable did.

I think it's unnecessary to "speak to the Father" when the Father (who is omniscient) knows everything I need.

Secondly, Christians believe in "Godswill". If you like pray till tommorow, if your request is not in line with Godswill, you're wasting your time jare.

Since it is only the will of God that will come to pass, then why pray?

ggirl4real:
I agree with the OP's point except No. 7.

Prayer does not change anything.

Just do the first 6 and you're safe.

My opinion tho.

prayer helps, it changes your mood

Columbine:


prayer helps, it changes your mood

You're very right.

Prayer makes you feel that's there's hope no matter the situation.

However, if you were requesting for something through prayer, I still feel it's a waste of time because you'll not get it.

ggirl4real:


You're very right.

Prayer makes you feel that's there's hope no matter the situation.

However, if you were requesting for something through prayer, I still feel it's a waste of time because you'll not get it.

I don't really agree, I've received things I prayed for when I less expected them and definitely I've also not received somethings I've prayed for.

Their are things involved in prayer; faith, works, circumstances and the rest of them but the truth is most people pray for praying sake without believing. Faith has always been a challenge to believers, even though it was reduced to as little as a mustard seed

Columbine:


I don't really agree, I've received things I prayed for when I less expected them and definitely I've also not received somethings I've prayed for.

Their are things involved in prayer; faith, works, circumstances and the rest of them but the truth is most people pray for praying sake without believing. Faith has always been a challenge to believers, even though it was reduced to as little as a mustard seed

I don't pray.

Even when I was very sick at the point of death, I just took my medications and I was fine.

Even when I lost my job, I just met the appropriate people to discuss the situation since I was not really at fault and I got my job back.

What I'm I saying? Even if I had prayed and didn't take these necessary steps, I believe the worst would have still happened.

IMO, it is not the prayers that work but the right actions you take towards the situation.

I don't pray but I'm still managing my life.

When I face a serious challenge, I seek for the solution. If it's within my reach, I go for it. If the problem is beyond me, I let it be. With time, the problem becomes solved.

ggirl4real:


I think it's unnecessary to "speak to the Father" when the Father (who is omniscient) knows everything I need.

Secondly, Christians believe in "Godswill". If you like pray till tommorow, if your request is not in line with Godswill, you're wasting your time jare.

Since it is only the will of God that will come to pass, then why pray?

The thing with contemporary Christians is they think God is just a Father. Yes, He is a Father but he is a Judge too.

If you read through the Old testament you'd see where God talks about his love for righteousness, justice. God rules in the affairs of all men and there is no matter that is not before him and that he would not justly and rightly attend to.

But you see, like every Father and Child relationship there has to be a means of communication. If indeed God is our Father, we as children should not see it as a burden to come before him and lay bare our challenges.

If our earthly Fathers would move Heaven and Earth (pun intended) to do that which we ask and is right, how much more our heavenly Father who is good and right?

But like C.S Lewis said, " there are two kinds of people: those who bend the knee and say to God, 'your will be done' or those who God says to them,' your will be done'".

I'm honestly scared that you get your impression about God based on what "christians" believe rather than what is in the scriptures.

God's will is not for anyone to be lost or go to hell but for all souls to repent and be saved.

But when you sin, he shows mercy, disciplines you like every Father would and gives you his grace to overcome. But being severed from him by not reading the scriptures and praying is a complete and utterly improper Father - son relationship.

Jesus says even we who are evil know how to give good things to our children then how much more the father in heaven.

Even the primordial societies or even the obscure ones, you don't see such a thing you expect of God happening. It's in our genetic make up to be good fathers who communicate and establish healthy relationships with their children.

ggirl4real:


I don't pray.

Even when I was very sick at the point of death, I just took my medications and I was fine.

Even when I lost my job, I just met the appropriate people to discuss the situation since I was not really at fault and I got my job back.

What I'm I saying? Even if I had prayed and didn't take these necessary steps, I believe the worst would have still happened.

IMO, it is not the prayers that work but the right actions you take towards the situation.

I don't pray but I'm still managing my life.

When I face a serious challenge, I seek for the solution. If it's within my reach, I go for it. If the problem is beyond me, I let it be. With time, the problem becomes solved.

I would just summarize this into "I don't need God, I'm fine working with my principles on my own and it has been successful thus far".

Truth is the world seems this way, even the atheists, Buddhists, Hindus, and Islamists seem to have things go their even while praying to false gods.

You see in the Bible, David — a man after God's heart — laments in so many Psalms how the wicked seem to prosper and men who walk in their own ways seems to be getting the best out of this life. How they do not regard God and how he seems to be blessing them, regardless.

Why is there affliction, why are the wicked not brought to justice, why the righteous suffer, why has God turn his face away?

All these questions are not new to God, if you study life hard enough you probably won't see any reason to serve God.

Solomon in Ecclesiastes, studied life under the sun (without acknowledging the existence of God) using worldly wisdom.

He would observe and say

Ecclesiastes 3:16-17

And moreover I saw under the sun the place of judgment, that wickedness was there; and the place of righteousness, that iniquity was there.

I said in mine heart, God shall judge the righteous and the wicked: for there is a time there for every purpose and for every work.

Ecclesiastes 4:1-3

So I returned, and considered all the oppressions that are done under the sun: and behold the tears of such as were oppressed, and they had no comforter; and on the side of their oppressors there was power; but they had no comforter.

Wherefore I praised the dead which are already dead more than the living which are yet alive.
Yea, better is he than both they, which hath not yet been, who hath not seen the evil work that is done under the sun.

You see life is so complex that there is no full grasp understanding of it but a closer walk with God fully exposes us to the hidden things of God which he would duly reveal in it's time, in which he hath made everything beautiful.
Like he said here:

Ecclesiastes 12:12

And further, by these, my son, be admonished: of making many books there is no end; and much study is a weariness of the flesh.


But he concluded that in all we should

Ecclesiastes 12:13-14

Let us hear the conclusion of the whole matter: Fear God, and keep his commandments: for this is the whole duty of man.

For God shall bring every work into judgment, with every secret thing, whether it be good, or whether it be evil.

ggirl4real:


You're very right.

Prayer makes you feel that's there's hope no matter the situation.

However, if you were requesting for something through prayer, I still feel it's a waste of time because you'll not get it.

I'd conclude with this:

You can choose not to pray and God will choose to neglect your lack of reverence and do that which is right and pleasing to him.

But there is a period where his grace abounds.

You can't really acknowledge and appreciate God, when you don't pray. It's like constantly giving your child what he needs and he's like " well, I don't have to ask my dad, he just knows what I want, when I want and how I want it. If it's good for me, well he does it; if it is not his will, well he won't".

Honestly, even when you comments has a lot of I's in it.

I just do this, then I do this, then I do this.