The term "alpha male" has gotten a bad rap in recent years. Pick-up artists, wannabe tough guys and gym Bros have bastardized the phrase to a point where it seems impossible to agree on what it actually means to be an alpha male.

When most people hear the phrase, their mind immediately conjures up images of a ripped body builder with a fat bank account or with a palpable, aura of superiority with a dose of arrogance.

Today, more than ever before, the world needs real men. Men who marry the musculine and ferminine energies together in a balanced and effective way. Men who are strong, but kind. Confident, but humble. Assertive, but at times gentle. Powerful, but tempered and calm.

Being the alpha male has nothing to do with comparison. It isn't about being the biggest, richest or best looking guy in the room and it has nothing to do with how many women you've slept with, what can you drive or how many inches your organ or biceps are.

Being the alpha male is all about being the alpha of your life. It's about leading yourself and those you care about to a bigger and better future. It's about knowing your values, being in integrity with yourself, and dominating your unique part in life.

It's important to understand that being a beta male has nothing to do with how "manly" you are or how you stack up against other guys.

Just because you are feminine, are emotionally sensitive, are highly expressive, are vulnerable, are intellectual does not mean you are a beta male.

Alpha males are leaders of their own lives while beta males follow the crowd. This does not mean that being in a position of leadership or followership automatically makes you an alpha or beta male. Rather, beta males tend to be reactive to the world around them whereas alphas are proactive in creating the life they desire.

Beta males have no vision, no values, no purpose and no options if their own. They simply go with the flow, do what they're told, and blindly accept what others say. They don't value themselves enough to take a stand for their own life and bravely change forward toward the life they desire. They lack self-esteem, confidence, and intergrity and because they lack Sense of self worth, will bend over backwards to make others like them and feel "good enough."

Betas are, by the very definition, more concerned with the opinions and thought of others than their own. The decision to be an alpha male shouldn't be because it will help you get more money, have more sex or be respected by others but rather to make you be the pioneer of your own life.

WHAT SEPARATES THE ALPHAS FROM THE BETAS

1. Alpha males are Assertive, Betas are passive.
An alpha male knows what he wants out of himself. He speaks his mind, owns his desires without shame, sets boundaries and speaks up when they are crossed.

Betas, on the other hand, are passive. They may know what they want, but lack the backbone to go after it.

2. Alphas are Gentlemen, Betas are "Nice guys"
True alphas are kind to others. They are courteous, polite, and considerate. They don't do any of these things because they crave attention or validation or want to be liked by those around them. They do it because it's the right thing to do.

Betas are polite, kind, courteous and considerate, But only when they believe there is something to be gained. A beta male is agreeable to a fault. Attempting to get others to like him with " niceness"

3. Alphas trust themselves, Betas look for others for answers.
Because alpha males take full ownership of their lives, they tend to develop high degrees of trust in themselves.

Betas do not possess this level of self trust. Instead, they seek solace in the advice if others, allowing their family, friends, society and government to tell them how to live.

4. Alphas strive for growth and mastery, Betas accept mediocrity and the status quo.
Alphas seek to give their best in every situation. They believe in "having it all" instead of resigning themselves to a life of mediocrity.

For Betas, any attempt at excellence is done to earn the approval of others. Not to satisfy themselves and live their life to it's fullest potential.

5. Alphas communicate and persuade with class and respect

CONCLUSION
Being an alpha male is not about making more money, having more sex or enjoying more prestige, but living more if life. It's about going all out and making your life mean something