joyandfaith:


false rape allegation is very rare. the problem is that most men do not know what constitute rape

Still didn’t answer my question! Ronaldo and neymar recently was accused of rape...neymar’s saving grace was that there was a cctv installed in the room, the court of public opinion already pronounced him guilty because of his bad boy persona..two months ago on nairaland a man was released in America after spending 20 years in jail for false rape accusation. Don’t tell me it is rare.

The truth is punishment for such crimes shud be public and swift to deter others and reset senses. After catching the people for these hideous crimes we hear nothing from it afterwards which is very bad and doesn’t help society.

May the soul of the departed rest in peace. This is so sad

Rape is a crime, rapist are criminals, parents should try as much as possible not to expose their kids to these evils...

Ifesinachi22:
Myths about sexual violence, which are often based on victim-blaming attitudes, are prevalent in our society. As a survivor or the loved one of a survivor, you may hear these myths from those around you. It’s important to understand that rape is never OK and it is never the fault of the survivor.

Myth 1: “It happened because you drank too much.”
Reality: No one deserves to be raped or abused. Intoxication is not an excuse for sexual assault. Drinking is not an invitation for sexual activity.

Myth 2: “Your clothes were too revealing.”
Reality: Similar to drinking, a person’s outfit is not indicative of desire for sexual activity. Clothing, or lack thereof, is not consent.

Myth 3: “You were leading them on.”
Reality: Whether or not you were romantically or sexually interested in a person, you do not owe the person anything. Flirting or perceptions of flirting are not indicative of an interest in engaging in sexual activity. In addition, consent can be retracted at any time.

Myth 4: “You should have fought back.”
Reality: Trauma triggers physical reactions that are not always controllable. Many sexual assault survivors experience tonic immobility, which is when the brain’s defense mechanism is to tell the body to freeze. It is not always possible to “fight back,” especially in situations when the assailant is bigger, stronger, or holds power (physical or mental).

Myth 5: “It’s not a big deal.”
Reality: You are the expert on your experience. No one gets to define the severity of your trauma but you. 

Myth 6: “You didn’t say no, so how were they supposed to know?”
Reality: Consent is not not saying no. Consent is an enthusiastic affirmation of sexual activity. You do not need to say no for it to be considered rape or sexual abuse.

Myth 7: “If you’re dating or married to them, it’s not considered rape.”
Reality: Many survivors of rape and sexual abuse were hurt by someone the they know, trust, or love. You do not owe your partner anything just because of your relationship status or previous consentual sexual experiences.

Myth 8: “If you experienced orgasm, it wasn’t rape.”
Reality: The body has physical reactions that are not always controllable. Natural lubrication, erection, ejaculation, or orgasms do not mean you enjoyed or consented to what happened. Someone can tickle you and you can hate it but still laugh.

Myth 9: “You can’t just decide not to have sex after they’re already turned on.”
Reality: Consent can be given or taken away at any time. Just because they’re turned on does not mean you owe them anything.

Myth 10: “It was your fault.”
Reality: Sexual violence is never the survivor’s fault. The only person to blame is the perpetrator.

 

It's actually because of people like you that we have upsurge of rape in our society..

Grandmeister:

Still didn’t answer my question! Ronaldo and neymar recently was accused of rape...neymar’s saving grace was that there was a cctv installed in the room, the court of public opinion already pronounced him guilty because of his bad boy persona..two months ago on nairaland a man was released in America after spending 20 years in jail for false rape accusation. Don’t tell me it is rare.

do you many criminal cases even murders are being secretly settled out of court especially if prominent persons are involved. speak to some arbitrators you will be shocked. that rape could not be proved due to lack of evidence does not mean it has never happened

biotechshola:


It's actually because of people like you that we have upsurge of rape in our society..

how do you mean?

This is so disheartening.

Many people do not understand the level of depravity in the minds of Nigerian youth, especially the males.

If you are suffering, don't pour the venom of your sufferings at other equally suffering innocent citizens.

joyandfaith:


how do you mean?

Because his "myths" does not solve any problem.

It's like leaving your doors open to robbers and thereafter claiming it's your right to do so...No one would argue with you but in the end who suffers the consequences??

The truth is, whether we like it or not, there are rapists out there always looking out for the vulnerables to fall their pray.. Hence a lady should try not to expose herself to these evil predators waiting to devour them because in the end, they are the ones who suffers the consequences..

Parents should also do more in terms of protecting their young girls by not exposing them to the dangers out there..

There are exceptional cases though, but I believe a preventive approach will be more effective in tackling rape issues..

good move by the police, the evil animals that raped and killed this innocent 11years old should be killed also.. God strengthen the family. may her soul rest in peace.

2cribz:
I would kill myself if i'm the father. Why do this to a poor innocent girl who is still a kid and is very innocent. Why. Why. Its sickening and tears rolled down my eyes. 11 year old raped to death. God why

Hmmm . . .my brother, I just wish I can have a minute with the culprits . . .I promise it will be the longest "one minute" of their entire lives !

see as they kill this beautiful girl....rip

Our society should rise up against rape. Justice for Favour

LordIsaac:

Literature is replete with theories about the validity of some of the so called myths you mentioned above... One of which is the victim precipitation theory and Routine Activities Theory. Don't make them look absolute. There are factors that CONTRIBUTE to rape.

The only factor That contributes to rape is an entitled male brain and the need to overpower a woman/child/boy/girl for rape. Rape isn't consensual. Anyone looking for factors other than the MF perpetrator is a rapist or a rape apologist. I hope they die.

One4me:


Human Emotions` are not like the Light-Bulb Switch!

SEX is an AGREEMENT/CONTRACT between Two adults
How can you agree/contract to have sex with another party, start the process and then midway, just because you want to use leverage, you claim you withdraw Consent?
Is that how Contracts are broken? Does the other party not have a say, in the TERMINATION OF THE CONTRACT?[/b]
Just like the CONSENT was mutually AGREED, its termination also have to be mutually AGREED, no one party can unilaterally terminate a Contract, just to exercise leverage.
Please, dont give Consent, when you know your intention is to withdraw it midway and use it for leverage otherwise you will blame yourself.


*** Why are you apologising on behlaf of ALL MEN?
Is it ALL MEN that Raped her or are ALL MEN Rapist? ***

Sex isnt a contract you fucking slowpoke. Contracts are legal documents that can executed or annulled in thd court of law. A woman can say no at anytime so can a man. Sex isn't by force. Some of yall were raised by animals. Look at the unevolved mind of this clown spewing nonsense. Men need to start holding other men responsible... the male sex holds titles in perpetrating rape. Foh

2cribz:
I would kill myself if i'm the father. Why do this to a poor innocent girl who is still a kid and is very innocent. Why. Why. Its sickening and tears rolled down my eyes. 11 year old raped to death. God why

Then you are not different from the rapist as both of you are on a st*pd lane. How does killing yourself remedy the situation.

Sleekmilan01:
Nice one from the police

They should try to get the culprit

These criminals will surely be caught if they put an ear to the ground for underground gossip, and very soon too. It's very likely that they live, work/or are familiar faces in that neighbourhood.

Thanks to social media, the outcry was too embarrassing for the police to hide.

They should compensate the family for lost revenue from bridal price the the girl would have brought to the family.

PinkHealthGroup:


The only factor That contributes to rape is an entitled male brain and the need to overpower a woman/child/boy/girl for rape. Rape isn't consensual. Anyone looking for factors other than the MF perpetrator is a rapist or a rape apologist. I hope they die.

Is that a layman analysis or based on research? As you should ask yourself why your father, husband or brother do not rape. But feel free to correct me if they are rapist.

I was at both commissioning and the condolences, the incident was a big blow to the community and very disturbing.

We pray for the bereaved family and enjoin the police to speed up the investigation

The DPO of Ejigbo, Mrs Olabisi we trust her to be proffesional and competent to deliver on this case

I pray the culprits will be arrested, and killed immediately without, any delay

joyandfaith:


false rape allegation is very rare. I can conclude that you are a rapist

Hey! Get my point.
She may not accuse you of rape immediately, maybe after a long while after having a problem with you. Who told you false rape allegations are rare? After God fear women - they are MISCHIEVOUS AND ENJOY TROUBLE VERY WELL.

I say it again, because of a quarrel or issue, a woman can claim rape and say she did not give her consent even when she was wet and asked you to penetrate her and she was raising/moving her waist along moaning in enjoyment.

If you think I'm a rapist you are wrong because a rapist would not feel very bad about this little girl's case to write those last lines.

Ifesinachi22:
Myths about sexual violence, which are often based on victim-blaming attitudes, are prevalent in our society. As a survivor or the loved one of a survivor, you may hear these myths from those around you. It’s important to understand that rape is never OK and it is never the fault of the survivor.

Myth 1: “It happened because you drank too much.”
Reality: No one deserves to be raped or abused. Intoxication is not an excuse for sexual assault. Drinking is not an invitation for sexual activity.

Myth 2: “Your clothes were too revealing.”
Reality: Similar to drinking, a person’s outfit is not indicative of desire for sexual activity. Clothing, or lack thereof, is not consent.

Myth 3: “You were leading them on.”
Reality: Whether or not you were romantically or sexually interested in a person, you do not owe the person anything. Flirting or perceptions of flirting are not indicative of an interest in engaging in sexual activity. In addition, consent can be retracted at any time.

Myth 4: “You should have fought back.”
Reality: Trauma triggers physical reactions that are not always controllable. Many sexual assault survivors experience tonic immobility, which is when the brain’s defense mechanism is to tell the body to freeze. It is not always possible to “fight back,” especially in situations when the assailant is bigger, stronger, or holds power (physical or mental).

Myth 5: “It’s not a big deal.”
Reality: You are the expert on your experience. No one gets to define the severity of your trauma but you. 

Myth 6: “You didn’t say no, so how were they supposed to know?”
Reality: Consent is not not saying no. Consent is an enthusiastic affirmation of sexual activity. You do not need to say no for it to be considered rape or sexual abuse.

Myth 7: “If you’re dating or married to them, it’s not considered rape.”
Reality: Many survivors of rape and sexual abuse were hurt by someone the they know, trust, or love. You do not owe your partner anything just because of your relationship status or previous consentual sexual experiences.

Myth 8: “If you experienced orgasm, it wasn’t rape.”
Reality: The body has physical reactions that are not always controllable. Natural lubrication, erection, ejaculation, or orgasms do not mean you enjoyed or consented to what happened. Someone can tickle you and you can hate it but still laugh.

Myth 9: “You can’t just decide not to have sex after they’re already turned on.”
Reality: Consent can be given or taken away at any time. Just because they’re turned on does not mean you owe them anything.

Myth 10: “It was your fault.”
Reality: Sexual violence is never the survivor’s fault. The only person to blame is the perpetrator.

 

Very Educative, good for our women and the girl child. Thanks for this lovely piece.

MNDY:


Hey! Get my point.
She may not accuse you of rape immediately, maybe after a long while after having a problem with you. Who told you false rape allegations are rare? After God fear women - they are MISCHIEVOUS AND ENJOY TROUBLE VERY WELL.

I say it again, because of a quarrel or issue, a woman can claim rape and say she did not give her consent even when she was wet and asked you to penetrate her and she was raising/moving her waist along moaning in enjoyment.

If you think I'm a rapist you are wrong because a rapist would not feel very bad about this little girl's case to write those last lines.

you need to read books on rope psychology

joyandfaith:

you need to read books on rope psychology

Does it treat the topic of consent as a weapon?

Can i rape your sister to death pls

Bluffly:

Then you are not different from the rapist as both of you are on a st*pd lane. How does killing yourself remedy the situation.

2cribz:
Can i rape your sister to death pls

Look at your next line of thinking. Seek help

SpecialAdviser:
What a painful death. Certain things that happen in this country makes you to start thinking humans don't live here.

How can the parents bear this? How? You intentionally create a pain in the minds of people that will last forever.


SHAME OF A NATION

Bullshits happens across the world irrespective of development. Make google your friend. Watch Discovery ID, watch other crime tvs and you will be amazed about crimes that people commit in those developed countries and are yet unresolved or any reasonable arrest made

enas24:
Ganged rape a small child to death and started running for your life. Some people are stupidly mad

Indeed mad

Ifesinachi22:
Myths about sexual violence, which are often based on victim-blaming attitudes, are prevalent in our society. As a survivor or the loved one of a survivor, you may hear these myths from those around you. It’s important to understand that rape is never OK and it is never the fault of the survivor.

Myth 1: “It happened because you drank too much.”
Reality: No one deserves to be raped or abused. Intoxication is not an excuse for sexual assault. Drinking is not an invitation for sexual activity.

Myth 2: “Your clothes were too revealing.”
Reality: Similar to drinking, a person’s outfit is not indicative of desire for sexual activity. Clothing, or lack thereof, is not consent.

Myth 3: “You were leading them on.”
Reality: Whether or not you were romantically or sexually interested in a person, you do not owe the person anything. Flirting or perceptions of flirting are not indicative of an interest in engaging in sexual activity. In addition, consent can be retracted at any time.

Myth 4: “You should have fought back.”
Reality: Trauma triggers physical reactions that are not always controllable. Many sexual assault survivors experience tonic immobility, which is when the brain’s defense mechanism is to tell the body to freeze. It is not always possible to “fight back,” especially in situations when the assailant is bigger, stronger, or holds power (physical or mental).

Myth 5: “It’s not a big deal.”
Reality: You are the expert on your experience. No one gets to define the severity of your trauma but you. 

Myth 6: “You didn’t say no, so how were they supposed to know?”
Reality: Consent is not not saying no. Consent is an enthusiastic affirmation of sexual activity. You do not need to say no for it to be considered rape or sexual abuse.

Myth 7: “If you’re dating or married to them, it’s not considered rape.”
Reality: Many survivors of rape and sexual abuse were hurt by someone the they know, trust, or love. You do not owe your partner anything just because of your relationship status or previous consentual sexual experiences.

Myth 8: “If you experienced orgasm, it wasn’t rape.”
Reality: The body has physical reactions that are not always controllable. Natural lubrication, erection, ejaculation, or orgasms do not mean you enjoyed or consented to what happened. Someone can tickle you and you can hate it but still laugh.

Myth 9: “You can’t just decide not to have sex after they’re already turned on.”
Reality: Consent can be given or taken away at any time. Just because they’re turned on does not mean you owe them anything.

Myth 10: “It was your fault.”
Reality: Sexual violence is never the survivor’s fault. The only person to blame is the perpetrator.

 

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