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| How To Succeed In Marriage. by onlyfacts: 2:31pm On Nov 28, 2020 |
Many marriages are failing today and many others endure unhappy marriages. Planning on getting married? Do you want your marriage to turn out just as good as your well planned wedding? Want to have a successful marriage? Here are a few tips that can help 1. View your marriage as an "OCCUPATION". Yes like professional jobs eg a doctor, nurse, engineer, pilot e.t.c. Notice with professional jobs, you enter with the basic qualification, maybe a BSC or an HND at entry level but if you are to succeed at that job and attain a promotion you must advance your education and get further degrees and certifications like an MSC, PhD etc. After 10 -15 years of working there you would have accumulated several degrees, promotions, recognition and awards. Infact if you decide to leave the job at this stage, you will be leaving better qualified than when you entered! As a single person apply this principle of treating your marriage as a job before and after you get married. For example, if as a man you can't "keep the home", you are disorganized, you can't cook, etc you should practice learning this skills one after the other as you would if you wanted to boost your CV by getting a higher degree or adding an experience. After marriage keep adding new skills to those you already have before marriage or the first year of marriage and so on and so forth. The reason behind this is simple; the more skills you have, the more useful you become to the marriage, after 2-10 years of your marriage, you will be well rounded and competent in all areas. Same principle applies to both genders. Any partner that leaves you at this stage will only have themselves to blame because truly you may never be replaceable. So find ways to learn new skills that will bring value to your marriage. 2. View your marriage as a "JOB INTERVIEW". Surprised? - Don't be. if you have ever gone job hunting, you will realise that the reason you are looking to work at that reputable company is because of how much they pay their staff. While money most times is the drive, you'll also notice that while taking the job interview, MONEY in terms of salary is usually the last topic you will dare discuss. At that initial stage it is not so important. On the other hand how well you are able to handle the interview, your qualifications, work experience and others take the forefront. This is very key in an interview to avoid an ENTITLEMENT MENTALITY. You have to offer value first in the interview before you can demand adequate monetary compensation. Putting money first in place of value in a job interview will only earn you an entitlement mentality and get you booted out. Bringing this to marriage,if you want a successful marriage you must not never come into it with an entitlement mentality. Yes you found a financially capable spouse and still the person of your dreams but before you go demanding you be treated like a queen be prepared first to bring your value into it and then demand an equal compensation for the value you are bringing into it. For example ask yourself, what value can I contribute to a happy marriage and home? Are my expectations going into this marriage only to receive, to be pampered and taking care off? Value doesnt have to be monetary, if you are a good cook, let your husband testify to how good your meals are compared to what he can get outside. That's value to the marriage. If you are the type that's understanding, a good communicator, the spiritual person, the type that knows how to accommodate and host his friends and family etc that's value to the marriage. In the monetary aspect, do you have a skill (hair making, tailoring, event planner etc) or qualification that makes you a person of value going into the marriage and are you planning on using this skills for the betterment of your marriage? If yes then you are a valuable to whoever marries you. If no, it's not too late to start. Adding value should apply to both genders in their own different ways. But the key is to bring value first into the marriage before thinking of what the MARRIAGE CAN DO FOR YOU. Having an entitlement mentality going into marriage will only suffocate it in no time. 3. Last but most importantly MARRIAGE is a SACRED INSTITUTION- enter ONLY when you REALISE what this MEANS. Dont enter because you have butterflies in your stomach about someone. Dont enter because your biological clocks tells you you are getting older. Dont enter because you have the money for a wedding and can start a family. Dont enter cause you were forced into it. Dont enter if you also believe marriage have no rules to it. Dont be deceived, the world works on rules, can you think of anything on this earth that is not governed by any rules, either by nature or man made? There is nothing. Remember marriage is a SCARED INSTITUTION set up by GOD, always consult Him in your marriage as you do things, let Him be your ONE and ONLY THIRD PARTY. It is YOU, YOUR HUSBAND and GOD, you three make up the marriage, every other person is simply an ADVISER. Other points about building a successful marriage have been thoroughly flogged by others. So HML in advance. |
| Re: How To Succeed In Marriage. by ahnie: 2:33pm On Nov 28, 2020 |
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| Re: How To Succeed In Marriage. by onlyfacts: 2:35pm On Nov 28, 2020 |
ahnie:How please? I'll like to know 1 Like |
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