Good evening, Nairalanders, I have a little issue.I take things to heart more than I should.when it comes to criticism, it's worse. When I make a mistake,i think about the issue over and over.i seem to focus more on what I didn't do right,how I should have done better,the Consequences of my actions. I overthink.i find it difficult to concentrate and this is affecting me at work. is this even normal?.FUNNY THING is i worry over little things and sometimes I am depressed.

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You need sex to relief yourself from stress.

Olunmercy56:
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i find it very difficult getting over things. I care too much about things.i feel everything I do has to be perfect.

introvert2:
i find it very difficult getting over things. I care too much about things.i feel everything I do has to be perfect.

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Do I call him a perfectionist?

Or is there a name for his kind of person?

Dear op, you are Both a melancholy and a perfectionist, you hold yourself to very high standards and beat yourself up when you fall short of them. While this may be good for drive and purpose sometimes, you need lots of moderation so you don't burn out.

First, cut yourself some slacks, you are only human, no matter how hard you try, you will make mistakes, remember this and give yourself some grace. Instead of dwelling on it, learn and move on

Secondly, breathe! Everytime you feel overwhelmed or tempted to overthink, remember a time you over thought and it solved nothing. You can't control everything! Please always remember this. Also remember a time you over worked your mind only to find a very simple solution at hand.

Celebrate your "rights/wins", no matter how little. Life itself is a gaint collection of memories, the good times/wins are meant to help us through the dark days, instead of beating yourself up, celebrate the times you got it right.

Read. There are so many books on temperament, over thinking and how to moderate your perfectionist tendencies. You can start with "Why you act the way you do by Tim Lahaye". I hope this helps.

introvert2:
Good evening, Nairalanders, I have a little issue.I take things to heart more than I should.when it comes to criticism, it's worse. When I make a mistake,i think about the issue over and over.i seem to focus more on what I didn't do right,how I should have done better,the Consequences of my actions. I overthink.i find it difficult to concentrate and this is affecting me at work. is this even normal?.FUNNY THING is i worry over little things and sometimes I am depressed.

You're not alone. 25% of the world population are like you. You're simply a melancholic introvert. There are many such people. I once met a girl version of mel-chlor. Mheen Na that time I know say God create orisirisi personality o...She's undescribable. But she was intelligent.. as expected. Melancholics have sensitive intelligence

OP you are not alone

Everybody will not be a Maverick

I no sabi dish out all this motivational quotes, what I'll say is;

Try to be playful about your mistakes, (no one is 100% perfect) laugh about it and tell yourself "I'll do better next time..."