Parents are tyrants (Episode 1)

There is a general notion that parents are the best, this I am in 100% agreement with. They are finely made set of people who'd rather starve than have you feel hungry. Fortunately, African parents are lions and lionesses, they can go across the line and tiptoe to unlimited miles connecting dots, submitting ends in a crisis-like meeting and conference.
In Africa and my darling country NIGERIA, Parents look after their children till vertically or horizontally, old age. This is because they have this belief system that an okra tree can never outgrow or overgrow the planter. This has narrowed their vision of the children as eternal minors.
Science has made us know that generally, homo sapiens have three stages of development
1- the vibrant zone ( from 0-25years old)
2- the weak zone or Semi vibrant zone (from 26-59 years old)
3- the sick zone (from 60upwards)
Though some folks may not agree with the statistics, all of these zones comes with explanation.
In general, an average African parent (specifically Nigerian) would let you know that they are in the vibrant zone for the rest of their lives. In some situations, they would remind you that, 'the old woman is never old to dance steps known to her', because they want you in their custody all the time, in other words, they are practically 'overprotective'. This as perceived by 21st century youths is unbearable and archaic.
In an interview, Jaden Smith said that why he moved out of his father's house at age 15 was because he felt that all he had was his father's. He and his sister Willow Smith moved out and started their lives. These kids have been viewed by many people in many diversions, dimensions and ramifications but the impact has been made.
An Igbo parent in the eastern part of Nigeria would roast you alive verbally when you riot their command or start behaving in some 'shoulder high' manner.
The episodes will feature more of Igbo parents and Igbo families since I have vast experience in this type of lifestyle.

To be continued...[b][/b]

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Parents are Tyrants (episode 2)

Humans are capacity unlimited. For example, the tower of Babel in the Bible would have been a success had the angel not brought down language which spread confusion. The brain of homosapiens is unlimited but locked. We'd have to keep trying to unlock some parts of it. Some folks especially monks believe in human immortality. This they have been trying to unlock for some centuries now, but I think God swallowed the key after locking our minds because we would have been immortals long ago.
Now this mind of ours let's us imagine things and the kind of things we would achieve. Even as kids when we're asked what we'd like to be, we shout in enthusiasm many enticing areas of interest. But what did we know, only 3-5% tend to fulfil their childhood wishes and these normally dwells around the home of the elites.
We say what we'd like to be in an unsure future and end up being what we find ourselves into in the society.
Parents on the other hand shapes either opaquely or transparently futures that are already bleak. The Igbo adage says: Okwuru anaghi akari onye kuru ya (the okra tree never outgrows its planter). This adage has eaten up many destinies and talents in the Igbo community through the parental (tyrannical)channels.
When you find yourself loving music as a child and you happen to be the first born male, your parents would threaten you with choosing being their child or a musician (emotional blackmail). You'd have no option than to succumb to their wishes and wants.
Having a will means a personal decision to do or become something. This will if you're an African child may be snatched away by your parents in the guise of 'we know what's best for you'.
A young man from an Igbo family became so famous in his community after he released a debut album together with three of his friends. They were famous, becoming popular in a very short period of time: talent burning deep and wild, the rappers were dope and at their best. This was ten years ago. They went for shows, signed contracts and were flowing smoothly simultaneously. Then the parents of this promising young talent called him home for advice. They said, 'you know you're our first child, your younger siblings looks up to you, now look at them, who will take care of them? How would they be responsible when they know their brother is a musician who goes to clubs and has no respect for God? The music thing is diabolic son. We don't want you to follow that path. It's true that you will become famous and go far in life, but it'll make you irresistibly irresponsible and we didn't raise you this way. We want you to stop this music and rapping bullshit and go to the market, become an apprentice so that God will bless your handwork and make you a mighty man in his own time'

What a blackmail!!!..
Talent abandoned and wasted.. How many female musicians are there in Nigeria and particularly from the Igbo tribe? This is as a result of a general belief system dominant in the region that every female musician is a body seller and therefore has no regards.
Yet it is hypocritical when these mouths and tongues that condemned these people plays Celine Dion, Dido, Aaliyah, Sia, Nicki Minaj, Tiwa Savage, Rihanna, Beyonce Knowles etcetera. Sometimes we should have to call a spade a spade. Hypocrisy is a disease that have devoured the Igbo tribe and have made them to be the so removers of grasses from people's eyes when logs of woods covers theirs.
No Igbo woman would want her daughter to become a musician but when this daughter stubbornly becomes this musician and it pays off, this mother would be the personal assistant in monetary affairs. Why not totally refuse the devil and his handiwork and his minions?
Igbo parents are tyrants, we would analyse more points on the next episode
This is an example only, out there we have millions of examples and the outcomes.
Maybe another example would be given in the coming episode

To be continued...

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Parents Are Tyrants (episode 3)

Technology is the 21st century people's way of life. The advancement hub and colony of this age which is the parallel advancement of the stone age centuries ago, brings series of changes in both language, culture, lifestyle, work and even behaviour. Westernization has taken a great toll on every race, the advantages skyrocketed, the disadvantages dwarf. The pure bliss of this development is computerization and easy synchronization of gadgets and stuffs. Easy work, fun and games, beautification, education and many varied varieties.
On the process of this beautification of our world comes the Genesis of land lines which metamorphosed to handsets or mobile phones. This of course includes computers (micro and macro).
In recent times, mobile phones have become so cheap and common than the early times. My brother bought his first sim card for #16,000, I heard also that some bought higher than that. But yesterday can only become today which will crawl into tomorrow. That's such a synchronization that has been programmed by God or nature (for atheists). Now this days and time itself only goes forth and forth and forth with no looking back. Such a movement have been adopted by developers and competitors to perfect their products and offer better quality.
Today's youths find jobs and other pleasures online, chat with friends and plays games, listen to music and watch videos. This is the advancement of our world today for us not for our parents.
Let's drag parents into this...
It is usually unusual to sync analogue and digital brains in a compactment. This is to say that our older parents are going down their generation lane and yet influencing the present generation with the immense analogue programmes.
A parent would rather have you working all day than see you happily pressing your phone. They would brawl and nag when you wanna have some time alone with your phone. And oh! 'Switch off that music it's disturbing the peace of the house!'
Personal experience had my mum seize the first two phones I bought, simply because, I wasn't eligible to have a phone. What a yuck!!
Have you ever had to leave the house because it was becoming unbearable? The nags and commands towering over you? The atmosphere becoming dense and you could no longer breath?
Igbo parents are never wrong, yes? When they make the same mistake as you, they'd laugh it out or simply brawl to have you clean up the mess. When you make same mistake, they'd roast you alive using either words or beating/pounding. Thats more like a tyrant, yes? Maybe I'd rather say the almighty parents of the Igbo tribe. Why would the kids in an Igbo family not push down this illness down the throat of their unborn kids? Simple... We are in constant revolution. This should be the mindset of the parents who were born in the last century and some who were born in this century but endowed with the crudity of the last century. Some parents lose the love of the kids because of the way archaism speeds up in their bloodstreams, for example, because a parent wasn't brought up with the goodies of life, they embolden and toughen up to the adversities life presents and thus thrives on hard labour all their lives. The modus operandi becomes rigid and narrowed and triangular. They become limited and stunted, therefore their foresight is myopic. Their calculations and resonating become solid. These parents would wanna shove into the younger generation, their own way of life, belief system, norms, traditions, rites etc. What's the result when these kids deviate? The answer is resentment and severe punishment or beating. The kids becomes a puppet, the parents puppet masters. It works in a simple way, simultaneously.
There is a soluble solution that is so very simple to adopt...

Watch out for next episode and don't forget to chip in your opinions

@Collims Hillz

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Parents are Tyrants (Episode 4)

Due to the current flow and adaptation to the thrills of modernization, the surge to learn more have piled up, filling the suitcase of learning and education to the stuffy condition. The hunger to unravel mysteries and to be in better condition and also to advance to the infinite level have driven mankind to the shores of education which it's waters flows to different canals. Education has so far been a means of illuminati and to many walks of life. This tool has over decades stirred controversies and been a peace mediator. It's served humanity to the best of its own ability.

Africans have together with the world adopted education which has brought down the luxurious vehicle leading to 'Westernization'. But the brain of the black man or rather of the African man refuses to fully awake to civilization. There's always a twitch of shyness and analogueness in the bloodstream of an African, a Nigerian and then an Igbo man. This is because of the inferiority complex and insecurity feelings numbing the bloodstream GIGO. Thus, the African or the typical Igbo man wants to believe that by education we are losing our integrity and cultural values, abandoning it and taking up of the white man traditions as birth rights. The Igbo man is more concerned with what will become of his tradition when he dies than what becomes of his soul and the fate of his family members. This has been passed down and accorded to generations. Seemingly, presently, it evolves and evolves, bringing the default settings of the parent's brain to the innocent child(ren).

This has made the Igbo man to think that his culture would wane off when his child learns more of the 'white man knowledge', he then secludes this child and subject him/her to the limited wisdom he (the parent) has. Then again when this child eventually goes to school, the parent(s) fights tooth and nail to see that they have a say in the choice of course this child would take and as such would want to make him/her succumb to their own(parent's) choice of course of study in school.
This of course is again under the guise of 'we know what's best for you' and masked again with, 'we are your parents and we care about your future'.
This nevertheless was done out of pure love from the side of the parents, but is a frustration in the side of the child. I know of a child who loved Arts but ended up studying Science in secondary school in order to fulfil her mum's wishes. another was forced to study Law but wanted to study medicine. There are many examples out there, only if we draw closer to these individuals would we find out what incurable pains they buried deep down.
Either ways, we share the same fate. The point is, why try to shape the future of someone you claim to love? If you love that someone enough won't you allow them study their choice of course in school? Would they (the victims) not become somebody in the future if they took their own courses? Does passion not bloom and spread?
Fact is, these parents wants to be the destiny shapers and the future moulders, unbeknownst to them, some of these victims (the children) aren't happy about the development. What could these kids do? Nothing, absolutely nothing because parents can't be traded for any thing. As they sacrifice much to see the children grow and overstep their boundaries, these children would have to give up their passions in some cases as part of sacrifice to the contribution of the parents and then, ceteris paribus.

The role of parents in the education of their children may make or Mar these children from becoming what they have developed great passion for.

To be continued...

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Parents are Tyrants (Episode 5)

The white man have brought a double-edged sword down the African shores. Knowledge and quest for knowledge have driven the African man to ends of the poles. Then comes the hassle for gender supremacy. The average African believes that the feminine gender is inferior to their masculinity, the redpill saga and Alphamalism.
With this belief, when the white man introduced school as a system of learning, there was a bridge connecting the males and females but the dominant were the masculine. The belief system was 'women's education ends in kitchen'. The analogue African man sees the education of the female counterparts as waste of both time, energy and money because they believe that at the end of the day, the educated woman would be in the kitchen of their husbands, preparing, cooking, serving their husbands and that notion of course made sense. But the African man failed to understand that though the women serves these men, they still need to attain a certain level of education so their lives won't be limited to the kitchen of a man. Gender based, women should be given same treatment as men which would allow them air their views to the society and attain different positions in the society.

Parents of the analogue system often deny the female child education. They believe that the male child is more capable and in a better position to handle knowledge. Some parents wouldn't want to waste their hard earned money on a girl that would at the end of the day take all the resources invested on her to the house of another man and as a result leave her father's land barren of knowledge.
Some of these parents rather put their female children to early marriages than put them early in school. One case I heard from the town of Ukpor, Anambra State, Nigeria, Geopolitical zone: Southeast, was that a man was forcing his teenage daughter who was in the SS3 class to early marriage. Meanwhile this brilliant girl wanted to go to a higher institution and acquire knowledge.
The aftermath of these early marriages meted out or ignited or masterminded by the parents is that these children end up being abused by their respective husbands with reckless abandon.
Parents in some cases push their daughters to early marriage simply to avert training the child in an institution. Question is, what would these victims of parents recklessness become in a forced marriage? Some marriages are rather planned out by the parents and then would be shoved down the neck of the girl and of course with a blackmail or a threat which is aimed at making the girl accept the condition and leap into early unwanted and unplanned marriage.
In my African society, parents also get to become either the bride or the bridegroom by deciding who their son or daughter would marry and who he/she wouldn't. Examples of these facts have been repeatedly acted in many Nollywood movies. Situations occur where parents decide for their kids where to marry from and where not to. Some of these assumptions of 'a good family background' are good yet background doesn't decide what a person becomes in the future.
In some parts of the southeastern regions of Nigeria, there had been an ancient practice of betrothing children to each other by the parents and then joining them in marriage when they come of age. This they believe is the best way to secure the future of their son/daughter in a good ground. Yet this 'security' has handicapped the children to make real life choices as to who to spend their lives with. They automatically are living the lives of the parents unbeknownst to them.

There are many things to be said but...


To be continued...