naptu2:
Much ado about handshakes (this is another old post that has been on my mind for years).

My British cousins were recently arguing over the question of who Boris Johnson shook hands with and who he didn’t shake hands with and that reminded me of an old post that I wanted to make but couldn’t because of lack of time.

President Buhari swore in new ministers a few months after he was inaugurated and some people noticed that he did not shake hands with some of the female ministers and they decided that he did not shake the female ministers’ hands because he was a religious extremist. They held this up as evidence that Buhari was going to “Islamise Nigeria” and declare Sharia law across the country.

I knew that their position was total nonsense because I knew that Buhari had shaken hands with women in the past, but more importantly, I knew why he didn’t shake hands with the female ministers (I’ve been there before).

I’m shocked that nobody has stated the real reason that he did not shake hands with the female ministers.

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My experience.

A lot of people in positions of authority came to my house when I was a kid and I shook hands with all of them. Of course I also bowed to them, but I shook hands with all of them. I also shook hands with the elderly people that came to my house, including my grandmother.

However, there were certain encounters that stuck in my mind. I remember a time that a new official was appointed to a certain position. My neighbour’s family was very influential in the institution that the official had just been appointed to head and so he paid a courtesy visit to their house and I was in their house on that day. They introduced me to him as **** son. He looked happy to see me, but something happened that stuck in my mind. I extended my hand for a handshake and there was a momentary look of surprise on his face. It lasted for less than half a second, but I noticed it. He said, “You want to shake the ****” (he mentioned his new title) and then he shook my hand.


There was another encounter that I remember. It was kind of a family event. I got to a certain house and the woman of the house was greeting everybody at the door. I bowed and shook hands with her as I greeted her. I could see a look of absolute shock on her face as I shook hands with her. Much later, my sister whispered to me, “Did you see how shocked she looked when you shook hands with her”?

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You see, in Yoruba culture, it is quite unusual for a much younger person to shake hands with a much older person. The younger person is expected to prostrate, stoop, bow, kneel or curtsey. The younger person will only shake the older person’s hand if the older person extends his hand for a handshake.

Similarly, it is unusual for a person in a much lower position in an organisation to shake hands with someone in a much higher positions/someone in a position of authority except if the person in a higher position extends his hand for a handshake.

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Many Muslim women do not shake hands with men that are not related to them. This can be awkward for a man who extends his hand to shake a woman. Therefore, many men do not extend their hands for a handshake except the woman extends her hand first.

Think about it the way that you would think about a hug. Would you hug a woman that you’ve just met for the first time? Would you hug a woman that you’ve just met for the first time if she extends her hands for a hug? You would probably respect the woman’s space and only hug her if she extends her hands for a hug, right?

Read this https://medium.com/@hana.jafar09/why-you-should-ask-before-hugging-someone-7825f503ac06

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Obasanjo

I was shocked when there was a furore about whether President Buhari shook hands with women, because President Olusegun Obasanjo had observed this practice in a very extreme manner and yet nobody complained.

I noticed that President Olusegun Obasanjo never shook hands with women who wore hijabs, even when the women extended their hands for a handshake. I noticed this for the first time during a national honours award ceremony. An honouree extended her hand for a handshake, but President Obasanjo clasped both of his hands together in front of his chest, instead of shaking hands with her. I later noticed that he did this to any woman that either wore a hijab or was from the far north, even if the woman was Christian and even if the woman extended her hand for a handshake. Yet nobody complained.

Buhari
New ministers were inaugurated in 2015 and an incident during the inauguration ceremony led to the ridiculous claim that President Buhari does not shake hands with women.

The protocol was that, after being sworn in, the minister would sign the register and then shake hands with President Buhari while smiling for the camera. It was Kemi Adeosun’s turn to shake hands with Buhari. Being a Yoruba woman, she waited for President Buhari, who is older and in a higher position of authority, to extend his hand for a handshake. President Buhari, being a northern muslim, waited for Kemi Adeosun, who is a woman, to extend her hand for a handshake. Therefore, because neither of them extended their hand first, there was no handshake.

People picked up on this and said that President Buhari does not shake hands with women and then it became a self-fulfilling prophesy. Other women, because they had heard that Buhari did not shake hands with women, did not extend their hands for a handshake when they met him and therefore, the rumours that Buhari did not shake hands with women continued.

Some people said that "Buhari's refusal to shake hands with women was proof that he was a religious extremist, a bigot and that he wanted to Islamise Nigeria".

I knew that this was just complete nonsense. How did I know? The musician, Onyeka Onwenu was a supporter of President Goodluck Jonathan and he appointed her to head an agency (I’ve forgotten the name of the agency). The members of the board of the agency went to meet and congratulate President Buhari soon after he was sworn in. This was before ministers were inaugurated. President Buhari shook hands with Onyeka Onwenu at that event.

Besides, I had seen Buhari shake hands with women when he was a military head of state in the mid-1980s.



https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=Asmoh-gbBmQ

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naptu2:
So here's what actually happened.

President Buhari arrived the International Conference Centre and there was a line of people that were waiting to receive him. He shook hands with the people on the line, but Mrs Tinubu did not extend her hand for a handshake. Instead she curtsied and said, "Good morning sir". President Buhari looked at her and said, "Madam ****" (the second word was inaudible) and she smiled. He then asked, "How are you?" and she replied, "Very well sir".


https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=bjaGAZIkljM

This happened way back in November 2019 ( it was at the E-Nigeria International Conference, Award and Exhibition and the minister was the chief host) and there were many threads about it on Nairaland.

naptu2:
Transcript of what was said in the video.

Buhari: “Honourable minister. Good morning.”

(We can’t hear what Pantami says)

Buhari shakes the hand of the first man in the line without saying anything to him.

Remi Tinubu: “Good morning sir” (and she curtsies)
Buhari: “Madam senator. How are you?”

Remi Tinubu: “Very well sir” (and she curtsies again)

Pantami points to the next man in the line and says: “This is our chairman Senate committee on . . .”

Pantami’s voice is drowned out by the voices of photographers and security men who are jostling for space: “Kai! This man pushed me on you, what is it?”


https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=bjaGAZIkljM

Governor El-Rufai had to tell him, "Shake her now".

naptu2:
Aha! This is a video that illustrates what I wrote last year. President Olusegun Obasanjo almost never shakes hands with a northern woman. That was his exact attitude when he was president. I noticed it, but nobody complained about it.

So why were so many people complaining about President Buhari even though Buhari was not half as fanatical about it as Obasanjo. President Buhari shook hands with northern women, but Obasanjo never did it unless (as is the case in this video) he is forced to do it.

President Obasanjo visited Kaduna in 2019 and he did not shake hands with the deputy governor until he was told to do so.

(I'm going to quote my old post about this subject).



https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=o9grHsufO3Q

We know how low Reno Omokiri can go as long as he has a multitude of idiots who would join him to celebrate/wail over his fuss.

The President's religious views and actions should not be anyone's major concern as long as it doesn't not pose a threat to the lives of the citizens neither has he broken the Nigerian constitution.

It is rather petty for a so-called pastor to be the first to "judge " another for his religious actions.
An hypocrite I must say.

Until Reno aka. Deputy god, has been able to clear Jonathan of his own religious sins, only then will I take his religious views against President Buhari serious.

Is this some kind of stylish counter-thread?

Was he elected to be shaking hands of FEMALES?

Is that also part of the dividends of democracy?

He does.
If you do not put your hands forward for the handshake, he may assume you aren’t interested based on your own principle

This is absolute nonsense.
How does who the president choose to hand shake concern me?

I want good governance, some people are crying on how Buhari didn’t shake Remi Tinubu.

No mind em.... E just Dey find reason to Dey make noise.....

A lot of us have misguided priorities...


If shake am him no shake am who d handshake epp

All this long epistle for Buhari and shaking hands. Who shaking hands help?


Who says Obasanjo doesn’t shake women? I remember Obasanjo shook Super Falcons during his administration when they won AFCON years back. It was termed a Presidential handshake because he didn’t reward the falcons with money......

Oga Naptu2 abeg finish the story

Nigerians make so much fuss about nothing that's why the likes of the Renos will keep riding on their heads! What has shaking or not shaking got to do with anything?

Good fact check naptu2

Okay, from my own observation
The first part shows Pantami trying to block Buhari from shaking Remi hand or greet her properly and he is also trying to block Remi view.
I don't also think Remi was interested in shaking Buhari.

At about 0:22-0:23,
Second part shows Pantami greeting and shaking a man, just greeting the other 2 ladies (in a way that somehow shows like " we are not allowed to shake)

It seems his religion is against shaking of women's hand

I heard that in the north that the northern girls don't shake hands with the opposite sex.


Well, I think it's a moslem thing.

Good job bro. Reno should stop all his irrelevant talk. Issue at hand is much bigger than handshake.

Amotolongbo:
He does.
If you do not put your hands forward for the handshake, he may assume you aren’t interested based on your own principle

This is absolute nonsense.
How does who the president choose to hand shake concern me?

I want good governance, some people are crying on how Buhari didn’t shake Remi Tinubu.

If you really want good governance you will not support Buhari

FarahAideed:


If you really want good governance you will not support Buhari

And who told you I do support Buhari?

So good governance is about the president handshaking woman?

JackBaueress1:



Who says Obasanjo doesn’t shake women? I remember Obasanjo shook Super Falcons during his administration when they won AFCON years back. It was termed a Presidential handshake because he didn’t reward the falcons with money......

Oga Naptu2 abeg finish the story

Who said that Obasanjo does not shake hands with women? I said that President Obasanjo did not shake hands with northern women or specifically, women who wore hijabs. Read the post again and then watch the video. Did you watch the video? Did you hear what he said in the video?

naptu2:
Governor El-Rufai had to tell him, "Shake her now".

Obasanjo barely shakes women in general though

Aha! Two of you should argue. Does Obasanjo shake women??

JackBaueress1:
All this long epistle for Buhari and shaking hands. Who shaking hands help?


Who says Obasanjo doesn’t shake women? I remember Obasanjo shook Super Falcons during his administration when they won AFCON years back. It was termed a Presidential handshake because he didn’t reward the falcons with money......

Oga Naptu2 abeg finish the story

Felabrity:
Obasanjo barely shakes women in general though

naptu2:
Aha! Two of you should argue. Does Obasanjo shake women??

if you can bring 5 pics of Obasanjo shaking women, aside "oyibo" women

I will agree

Felabrity:
if you can bring 5 pics of Obasanjo shaking women, aside "oyibo" women

I will agree

Agree what? Did I argue with you over whether Obasanjo shakes women or not? You said that Obasanjo does not shake women, someone else said that he does, shouldn't you be arguing with the person that said that he does??

Shameless Entities.. in this modern 21st century we are still discusing if our president shake hands with women when other nations are moving to breakthrough technological innovations.
Tufiakwa, I regret sharing the same country with Buhari and his supporters.

naptu2:


Who said that Obasanjo does not shake hands with women? I said that President Obasanjo did not shake hands with northern women or specifically, women who wore hijabs. Read the post again and then watch the video. Did you watch the video? Did you hear what he said in the video?

I don’t want to watch the video. Because of handshake wahala make I waste data?

Please post another interesting topic.

naptu2:
Governor El-Rufai had to tell him, "Shake her now".

Probably because he understands the Northern culture.

Front page

Should we be having discussion about this?

Of what relevant is Buhari shaking women's hand would have on average Nigerians

Hmmmm

Nigerians wasting time to discuss irrelevant things, how will shaking or nt move Nigeria forward

Which kind Useless thread be this on a Monday morning.

Mtchewwww

Not important.

Pantami block Tinubu wife.
Finito

Of course Buhari does. Don't mind the Pantami guy, extremist