Most of the posts I have seen today concerning Fathers Day are only about fathers that perform or performed their duties very well. Is today "Fathers Day" or "Good Fathers Day"?

Why doesn't the segregation happen on Mothers Day? Is it not purely sentimental to insinuate that fathers who lag behind in their duties should not be celebrated on Fathers Day? Children's day is for all children. Both the obedient children and the disobedient ones. On mothers day, nobody discriminates. Everybody just says "Happy Mothers Day to all the mothers". Does it mean there are no mothers who run away from their duties? But on Fathers Day, you want to discriminate. Did those who set this day aside for fathers tell you it is only for good fathers?

Fatherhood is irreversible when it is biological. Once a man is responsible for the pregnancy that resulted in the birth of a child, the man is irreversibly the father. Even death cannot change it. So, it doesn't matter if he runs away from his duties or not. The form of fatherhood that can be reversed, but just to some extent, is foster father when he turns bad. Yet, bad foster fathers deserve to be treated as fathers always because the good roles they played when they were good cannot be erased in the life of the child.

A father is good when he performs his duties well. A father is bad when he lags behind in performing his duties. So, whether a father is good or bad, he is a father. The same thing applies to being a mother. Some mothers dump their babies and run away. But it does not change the fact that they are mothers. It only means they are bad mothers.

A father is a father, whether he is good or bad. That is why parents who are mad and roaming about naked are still regarded as parents. That is why even fathers that died before the birth of their children are remembered today.

Another example: World AIDS Day is for every carrier of AIDS, both those who contracted the disease through sexual immorality, those who got the disease through accidental sharing of contaminated objects and even innocent babies that got it from birth. Are you going to say that some carriers of AIDS should not be considered on the World AIDS Day?

Being disrespectful towards your father because he failed you in any way does not mean you will not face the consequences of your disrespect to him. Two wrongs do not make a right. Your father's fault is his, your own fault is yours. His errors do not make yours right. He will be blamed for his wrong actions, you will be blamed for yours. Take care of him, even if he does not or did not take care of you. It is not "Good Fathers Day". It is "Fathers Day".

Do not misunderstand me. I am not saying that it is good to be a bad father. What I mean is that every father should be celebrated as a father on a day like this. If you do not want to celebrate him by giving him gifts, celebrate him by giving him fatherhood counseling. Even if you consider him so "useless", at least, he achieved making the mother of his child pregnant. The same thing applies to mothers.

A child is a child, whether crippled or physically fit, obedient or disobedient, intelligent or unintelligent, sane or insane. A mother is a mother, even if she sells her baby or dumps the baby by a roadside. Why is it different for fathers? Even some single mothers addressed themselves as fathers on this Fathers Day. Are there not men who singlehandedly raised their children without the mothers? Do those single fathers call themselves mothers on Mothers Day?

That a man who gave birth to a child fails to care for the child does not mean he is not a father. It only means he is not a good father. The meaning of father does not change in his case. The only thing that changes is the type of father he is. In everything, there are types or different or qualities. All the types of book are books. All the types of fruits are fruits. All the different brands and qualities of cars are cars. If you do not want to celebrate a bad father by giving him gifts, celebrate him by giving him fatherhood counseling. Denying that he is a father and refusing to regard him as a father has no justification. On Mothers Day, do you say it is only for good mothers? On Children's Day, do you say it is only for good children?

You see why men shouldnt marry and take care of themselves!